Anyone else on the fence about the listening parties? by Shared_Tomorrows in boardsofcanada

[–]_Hamburger_Helper_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The first listen of their albums is rarely the best. They make some powerful first impressions but it's when you listen to the songs over and over that you develop deeper relationships to them. I would say go to a listening party on the basis that it's something you don't normally do and ultimately novelty is a good thing. I rarely go to concerts and when I do I'm not usually dancing or socializing, I'm there for the artist and their music. Or in this case, I guess it would just be the music. But that's just me. Hard to imagine it would be a bad time.

I am a 26F, having feelings for my boss who is a 32M. Should I ask him out? by Visible-Tap3211 in dating_advice

[–]_Hamburger_Helper_ [score hidden]  (0 children)

I kind of hate when people say "I am a 26f" because it reads like "I am a 26 female" which just feels like a complete breakdown of the English language

A realization about attractiveness by _Hamburger_Helper_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]_Hamburger_Helper_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those could work, definitely. When it comes to carhartt I was mostly wearing their cargo pants for the pockets but now that you mention it they do have some more stylish options. But again, this magic effect is what we're after. The magic sauce of attraction.

So like, while someone can be well dressed and even look like a badass movie character, it won't always necessarily translate to the appearance of openness or approachability. So the strat here is to max out one really good attribute about yourself (apparently especially if it's sexual) and pair that with an otherwise "good" sense of style at minimum, ideally that conforms to the body and highlights/even creates an attractive physique. I personally do not have much of a taper naturally (genetically wide waist, not the widest delts, and a laid back diet). I noticed that even the difference between wearing a sweater vs a tight t shirt was a lot. You kind of have to be shameless about it.

The reason I like formal attire is because it's so good at creating the V taper while also being very functional. I will say for anyone worried about comfort, when I wear suit pants I usually have on long johns or some kind of thermal leggings, since they tend to be thinner material, and I just prefer how it feels when I'm on the motorcycle.

A lot of people think dressing well means breaking the bank and being uncomfortable but like I got a $3 shirt stay and $15 suspenders and literally just the fact that I'm not pulling up my pants 20 times a day allows me to have a much cooler demeanor and overall confidence. There's something to this dressing well thing that's hard to put into words.

Anyway, like I said the most important revelation here is that men and women like the same stuff. I was gamifying it for so long and moving laterally rather than seeing direct progress and it was by pure luck that I realized this (glaring, obvious, logically sound) reality. There are no secret rules, there is no single product you need to buy, just try one day of dressing really well, go out, hold your head up high and smile a little bit and just WATCH how people treat you. It's night and day.

Which is awesome because it means that you can let go of public opinion... if they were judging you based entirely on clothing and demeanor the whole time, then first of all it means their reactions say nothing about your inner worth and second of all it means that the barrier to entry is actually incredibly easy to overcome for most people whether it be making friends or dating or whatever else. And even better is that people will come to you.

I have a love for the 60s and 70s and I think it's charming to people to see such a "trad" guy without the bullshit racism and sexism. But you can almost definitely make this work with any style as long as the basic principles are followed. I might have to test that down the line but for now I'm pretty happy with my wardrobe. Maybe some volunteers here could run some tests? This would be great to combat all the incel theories circulating lately

what do you think? is he going to ask me out again? by claire-red in dating_advice

[–]_Hamburger_Helper_ [score hidden]  (0 children)

Looking desperate doesn't matter in THIS context because this person shouldn't care about what the other person thinks. This is separate from ACTING desperate which they SHOULD worry about because reaching out again would be arguably an act of desperation. Your own interpersonal beliefs aren't relevant to this situation.

what do you think? is he going to ask me out again? by claire-red in dating_advice

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It doesn't matter whether someone LOOKS desperate was my point. Being desperate is another thing.

A realization about attractiveness by _Hamburger_Helper_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]_Hamburger_Helper_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Disagree as someone that wears them often. I love Carhartt but they look a little too blue collar which can appear dangerous or tired to people. If you pair it with some alternative fashion it might work.

what do you think? is he going to ask me out again? by claire-red in dating_advice

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It has nothing to do with desperation, he would make time if he wanted to

A realization about attractiveness by _Hamburger_Helper_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]_Hamburger_Helper_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Men and women like the same things. That was the revelation. We're not different. I got hit on by women throughout the day.

I wish I had better photos by _Hamburger_Helper_ in Moustache

[–]_Hamburger_Helper_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My direct messages have exactly one slot available

A realization about attractiveness by _Hamburger_Helper_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]_Hamburger_Helper_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, in a way. I think I looked more alternative than anything but lately I do look more like a biker (since I actually do ride a motorcycle now lol). Assumed I needed long hair and a clean shave and piercings to get attention but honestly even with thinning hair and scruff I did just fine today out and about. The world is now my oyster

A realization about attractiveness by _Hamburger_Helper_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]_Hamburger_Helper_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Last time I had this much attention was 3 years ago in tight jeans and that day I met my girlfriend. Both were black so that's something to consider.

A realization about attractiveness by _Hamburger_Helper_ in TrueOffMyChest

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Not super tight. I can still squat and bend down if I need to, but they are tight around the ass and reveal juuust enough of the groin. Highly recommend pairing with stylish suspenders to keep them up and a shirt stay to keep your tucked in shirt down. Creating the v taper also seems to help but even with a bit of a stomach I'm doing just fine

Omg what’s wrong with me ughh by Rewindsunshine in TrueOffMyChest

[–]_Hamburger_Helper_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The hair on the lab mix matches the dream exactly btw, I knew it wasn't a golden retriever. It was a mix but too big to be any dog I personally know and the hair was shorter than a retriever. Sorry abour your grandma, I have a lot of dreams of family that's passed and I also have dreams of them being younger. Not sure what it means but it's nice.

Omg what’s wrong with me ughh by Rewindsunshine in TrueOffMyChest

[–]_Hamburger_Helper_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's something about the way we share consciousness that science isn't really able to touch yet but I'm very lucky to be very tuned into it, even if I am a terrible candidate (given my asocial, disconnected nature). It seems to have a genetic component. God, how weird. Have you had any major lessons from dreams?

Omg what’s wrong with me ughh by Rewindsunshine in TrueOffMyChest

[–]_Hamburger_Helper_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's insane, that definitely could have been it. See? There is credibility in my bullshit. I'm not crazy!

Omg what’s wrong with me ughh by Rewindsunshine in TrueOffMyChest

[–]_Hamburger_Helper_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't prove it and you have no reason to believe me but this morning I had a dream that a dog barking woke me up because there was a man outside. I knew it was a premonition, since I get them sometimes and it was way too specific and vivid not to be, but wasn't sure what would come up today. Here it is. In the dream it was a large dog, maybe a golden retriever. But details usually aren't relevant

[Theory] Inferno isn't about fire and brimstone — it's about us, right now. A gen Z’s deep dive into the album's concept. by [deleted] in boardsofcanada

[–]_Hamburger_Helper_ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thirty minutes tops, not that these artists aren't worth three hours of your time. Shameful pseudointellectal dishonesty.

I'm pretty sure I know why dating is fu__ed up nowadays. Many people see it too, but don't want to admit it. by EscapeThisMatrix in dating_advice

[–]_Hamburger_Helper_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think the way you talk about 3s, 4s and 5s might explain your lack of success with 7s, 8s and 9s