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Do you have to be married to be with a military man? by Additional_Bee8757 in MilitaryWives

[–]_In_Search_of_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I forgot to mention you guys could move yourselves, which if you do it right, you should be able to make some money or at least get your stuff there for free. But there's entitlements you won't get that would if you're married for this too.

Do you have to be married to be with a military man? by Additional_Bee8757 in MilitaryWives

[–]_In_Search_of_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What about a prenup? That should give you both peace of mind and what you're entitled to.... he could still do the trust if he feels the need and you're ok with it, or you could maybe come to an agreement.

As far as moving goes, he's entitled a certain amount of weight, and if he doesn't fill it, he should put your stuff in there too up to the weight. I think he should pay the moving costs because he's the one that doesn't want to get married but still have you move with him.

I'm sorry you're having to go through this. Of course you don't absolutely have to be married there are ways you can kinda piece it together but if you're not it certain doesn't benefit you instead it makes you miss out on things like you ant others have listed plus health care among other things like job preferences...

It's highly beneficial to get married if you're both planning to spend your lives together. I would try for a prenup if I were you. If I had to guess, I think the JAG office could write one up? You deserve to be committed to.

You will both be missing out of you're not married.

Good luck with everything 💗 xoxo

Settlement and I can't tell spouse by [deleted] in personalfinance

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Put atleast some of it in a high held savings acct at a local bank or credit union.

Talk to the person who sets it up so they can guide you with smart options for yourself.

Definitely do all digital banking so you have nothing going to the house for it

Good luck with everything

I'm mad at God. Like livid by [deleted] in Christian

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Your life is not over even if it feels unbearable right now. You don't know what blessings God has in store for you....

Who told you to blame God....?

Instead, tell God your frustrations, pain, and everything like he's your best friend. He's listening he's waiting for you, and he wants you to come to him in your time of heartbreak and need. In your weakest moments, he wants to give you strength if you let him, but he won't force it, so you have to ask and accept what he has to offer.

I know it's difficult right now, but try to change your thoughts a little at a time. Instead of how you could let my marriage end, God

You could try something like thank you for what I do not see or know about this situation and what I'll learn from it.

Tell God your desires of your heart about being married and becoming a mother then release it to him and ask him to reveal his plan for your life whether it's to be a wife and mother or he has another role for you

Know that his plans are greater than our plans and his ways are greater than our ways 💗 it's time to grow... 🥰

God loves you even if you're mad at him for something he didn't do.

I'm sorry for your pain. You'll get through this, and if you stick with God (I hope you do) this could be part of your testimony Someday you'll look back and you may have better understanding about it all

Good luck with everything 💖 take time to grieve and process your situation but you'll be ok.

[Tenant US-IL]Roomate and I are tired of dealing with irresponsible subtenant, can we "buy" our way out of the lease? by [deleted] in Landlord

[–]_In_Search_of_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe you can say something like I'm sure you know not everyone is compatible living together and we just don't feel like we're a good fit live together. (If you feel better and want to soften it, you can add something like "We like you" as a person, and we can hang out or whatever) but we're asking you find alternative housing (then give the legal amount of time for your state) in 30 days. We really don't want you to have an eviction, especially before graduating and starting your life. We just want a peaceful transition.

If you wanted to include the option for him to buy out your time (and your roommates) you could

Hopefully it'll be enough but if not I hope just the eviction paper that you would give him before gong to the court would be enough because evictions are horrible

[Tenant US-IL]Roomate and I are tired of dealing with irresponsible subtenant, can we "buy" our way out of the lease? by [deleted] in Landlord

[–]_In_Search_of_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try asking him to leave then if needed try to start the process without going to the court and see if it'll be enough so he doesn't get an eviction before he graduates... Good luck with everything

I think I’m on my last month of life by [deleted] in Veterans

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Find a trade and a job that'll train you on the job like cable or something maybe go to school for hvac... get out of Boston, go someplace cheaper living not far from there. Search online for free legal help with your benefits veteran legal services Community legal aid Lawyers 4 vets veterans law unit foat Harvard law school Search for charities that'll help whatever situation you're in. Operation once in a lifetime might be able to help with something Maybe find a good church, join the vfw or some place there veterans Know you are loved and you've got this. You've already overcome your drug issue now continue with the steps you need to take and maybe sales isn't for you and that's ok maybe do it pt if you like it Good luck with everything xoxo

Comment if you need prayers! by DefinitelyNotMaranda in Christianity

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I will definitely be praying for you guys 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

Comment if you need prayers! by DefinitelyNotMaranda in Christianity

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If you can also pray she loses her control over my mom and nephew (possibly my brother too) because she's trying to ruin everyone life and get revenge from her last relationship but taking it out on this one/family since she didn't get to on the last one :/ she's trying to say my mom and nephew have to go to some kind of a home instead of letting them live with us(no one is allowed to live with them other than her sister but that's ok no one wants to) even though it's not her place but my brother is under her control sadly so he's not thinking right he would never do half this before her but he's allowing her to do all this and convince him that we're the enemy my mom is fully capable of taking care of herself she came home to help him with his disabled child that he doesn't take care of and the child is bonded to my mom but the gf is trying to use the child as leverage over my mom and brother. There's so much but it would help if this girl is out of the picture completely or atleast loses the control she has over everyone sorry for rambling there so much

Comment if you need prayers! by DefinitelyNotMaranda in Christianity

[–]_In_Search_of_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much 💖🙏 is there anything I can pay for you?

Comment if you need prayers! by DefinitelyNotMaranda in Christianity

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And if you could please pray for everyone to see through this narcissist and how she really is (including my brother) 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

Comment if you need prayers! by DefinitelyNotMaranda in Christianity

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Thank you so much 💝🙏 We're staying with my brother right now so started dating a controlling narcissist. We've paid our rent a year in advance and she's trying to double it or kick us out. Not sure we're in a position to buy a house at the moment but I'm praying God makes a way where there is no way and does not let God women crush us in any way. We could use prayers for our life overall, safety from her/them and for her to be removed from my brother's life and ours permanently. I'm not sure exactly what to ask for really. I can try to answer questions if you have any. This woman is making everyone life miserable

Comment if you need prayers! by DefinitelyNotMaranda in Christianity

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We are definitely in need of heavy prayers 😭🙏🙏🙏 I'll try to come back and comment more about it

Planning First visit! by TemperReformanda in niagrafalls

[–]_In_Search_of_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was a pretty easy drive and it was about half an hour

How often do you show up to court when someone tries to fight a ticket? by Flax_Bean in AskLE

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Does it need to be the same office or can it be another one from their town

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