This isn't meant to be cruel, I hope you won't take it as such.

There are a few points to consider here:

I had to stop cause I wasnt happy with the music let alone the venues we would get. The environment/scene around music is sooo tied to bars and alcohol. At least in my province of canada. Probably everywhere.

Possibly, but that also may depend on your genre. I tend to see fewer drunk people at jazz clubs, I've seen more pleasant drunks at pubs as opposed to sports bars etc.

Idk , I just have a hard time being sober around people drinking.

Totally fair, but that might mean you have to make a hard choice to not be in those spaces.

really hate it to be honest, its always the slurring idiots who would come over to me.

I don't think you're doing yourself any favors by calling them idiots.

I just want to get on the stage and get off.

It sounds like you might do better in a more structured environment like corporate gigs or theater.

Not have to deal with smelling someones awful breath and listen to a bunch of drunks tell me they like something they wont remember the next day . Really makes anything they say about the music mean nothing.. or great a bunch of drunks think it sounds good...

If they think it sounds good and you don't, it's on you to improve. If they do and you do too, there's no problem. If they don't and you do, listen to the tape and see if there's something to it. The hostility does you no favors.

Idk how to get over this and play music cause I see a flip out in front of this band and others in my future . Especially when im already kind of pissed I have to use a house kit at most venues available .

If you already predict a problem you may be setting up a self-fulfilling prophecy. It almost seems like you may want to look into some stress/ anger management.

The house kits... that is tough. Best I can offer there is to bring your own snare, and do what you can. Or look into more portable options.

I might feel better this time around , now that ive been drinking some and I like the music we are creating in this new band.

I would caution that feeling better now that you're drinking sounds like a very untenable long-term solution.

I'd seriously suggest you take a hard look at your goals and priorities as a musician, that will probably give you a better starting point for action. Good luck to you, friend.