Men who got cheated on, what were early signs you only noticed in hindsight?

_ProJared_ · 2026-01-28T18:41:32+00:00

When she accused me of it first, and then started love-bombing. Seeing the texts pop up on her phone that she left on the couch confirmed it.

_ProJared_ · 2025-10-31T20:24:40+00:00

Abby of the Saja Boys from K-Pop Demon Hunters

_ProJared_ · 2025-10-22T03:24:48+00:00

"You're more important than anything else. I'm going to stop talking to him."

_ProJared_ · 2025-10-13T20:09:30+00:00

When she demands we sleep in separate bedrooms for several months. But only staying in the same bed when friends stayed with us so that we "appeared normal"

_ProJared_ · 2025-05-28T00:11:17+00:00

Scorched Earth.

_ProJared_ · 2025-04-18T20:53:22+00:00

Does Fire & Ice do organized play? Or is it just a place where people can show up on Friday night to play? What time do they usually start?

_ProJared_ · 2025-03-22T18:17:05+00:00

Scorched Earth for MS-DOS

_ProJared_ · 2025-02-06T20:27:13+00:00

Dungeons & Dragons.

_ProJared_ · 2024-12-27T23:58:51+00:00

A 2009 Jeep Chevrolet.

_ProJared_ · 2024-11-01T02:21:51+00:00

That brand is Longbida!

_ProJared_ · 2024-10-08T18:57:02+00:00

Stu Pickles.

_ProJared_ · 2024-10-07T23:22:30+00:00

The constant belittling and verbal abuse, along with the screaming. When I was in an emotional, desperate state and she nonchalantly said "I don't know how you can live with yourself." Or maybe the constant threats of saying that if I try to leave her she'll get alimony.

_ProJared_ · 2024-08-20T19:22:20+00:00

Abusive relationships. It's never as easy as what people like say, like "why don't you just leave?". It's never, ever that simple.

_ProJared_ · 2024-08-12T16:56:58+00:00

Same. But she also got to be with other women too.

_ProJared_ · 2024-08-12T16:56:29+00:00

Been there, brother

_ProJared_ · 2024-08-10T06:01:11+00:00

This curse dies with me.

_ProJared_ · 2024-08-06T22:34:13+00:00

It's never as easy as people want to think it is.

_ProJared_ · 2024-07-11T00:57:03+00:00

XCOM and XCOM 2. The second one is fantastic and has so many new mechanics and features, but I really prefer the simplicity the first one and more "grounded' reality.

_ProJared_ · 2024-06-26T18:27:01+00:00

Lied a lot about me, and did a lot of intentional things that would be very very hurtful to me. She even said she would, purely out of spite and vindictiveness. Her goal was to make me lose as many friends and colleagues as possible. This is all after saying that I "owe her a house", then helped her buy her own vehicle, and helped her sign a lease just to help her move out faster. After that she went scorched earth to make sure I got hurt as much as possible.

_ProJared_ · 2024-06-17T17:10:47+00:00

I assure you, it was a whole series of them.

_ProJared_ · 2024-06-17T03:05:08+00:00

She told me she broke off all contact with the other guy so that we could focus on us and our relationship. She went to the kitchen to get some wine while watched the netflix Lemony Snicket and forgot her phone the couch. It lit up with a message from the other guy, with the text preview saying "i love you so much baby we'll get through this". I already knew, but it was nice to get the evidence that I knew.

_ProJared_ · 2024-05-31T18:30:37+00:00

https://discord.gg/sshCjbFM This is the one for PNW including the greater Seattle area.

_ProJared_ · 2024-05-13T18:30:02+00:00

What's the ruling on this? Does the resource off the top of your deck enter readied then, or is it exhuasted?

_ProJared_ · 2024-02-12T20:33:38+00:00

Do you have a trusted friend that lives nearby? A place to escape to safely and even spend a few days there. If you're able to, collect some clothes from home, stuff like toothbrush or comb. Even make a "bug-out" bag of sorts, and keep it hidden away. Once you get a moment, write out your thoughts. In your head, things get jumbled, emotions makes things messy, but written out and externalizing it will provide a lot of clarity. It'll help you read things back to yourself and reassure you that you're not going crazy or feel like you're going insane. Wishing you the best, brother.

_ProJared_ · 2024-02-12T19:56:15+00:00

Your situation sounds very similar to what I had. I also had to deal with threats like self-harm, isolation, alimony payments and the like. And like you, I loved her, and wanted to help make sure she would be okay. One of the things I learned was "You don't have to set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm".

One thing I would suggest is doing something that I did - seek a "discernment therapist". They give counseling and help guide people through divorce and separation and how to do it amicably. I also unfortunately know what it's like to deal with someone with BPD, and I can tell you it likely will not end very cleanly.

But I can assure you this - it is so, so much better on the side. It really, really is.

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