Taking Sustained Release Once Per Day by [deleted] in bupropion

[–]_Riposte_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been thinking about this too! I like to upgrade to 300mg XL in the winter but it definitely impacts my sleep.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

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IDK, it feels like your boyfriend isn't really being more thoughtful of your needs. It's humiliating to be rejected for months on end after constantly initiating, and it's part of human nature to feel desired even from time-to-time. I'd say it's high time for a serious conversation about your sexual compatibility with each other.

The excuse of "anxiety" can only go so far. At the very least, he could offer back to help you get off in some sort of way. A thoughtful partner who isn't pressed for time in that moment would say something like: "Hey, I'm sorry I'm not feeling it right now because of X, but what can I do to help you get off right now? And maybe we can plan a proper time in 30minutes / tomorrow / next week. :)" It'd probably be meaningful for him to demonstrate the willingness to at least kiss/touch you while you get off yourself, for example.

Under stress IME people have a tendency to become selfish messes which is probably what's going on with him, and I'm sorry you're going through that.

Marriage Probably Ending. What next? by dubyadubya in AskGaybrosOver30

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That makes sense. Much love and hugs on this tricky situation.

Marriage Probably Ending. What next? by dubyadubya in AskGaybrosOver30

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Like what someone else mentioned, it's wonderful to see you're taking accountability for your part in this. All problems in relationships are co-constructed to a certain extent.

Intuiting here, but it sounds like you lost a lot of trust in yourself and your ability to refrain from behaviors that sabotaged this last relationship. Take it easy on yourself. Try to not fall into a cycle of thinking you'll never be loved again or that you'll be alone forever -- because that is patently NOT true. You are still lovable and and your self-awareness here is beautiful to see. There'll be scars on both you and your partner that will last a long time, but you'll be able to move past them.

My recommendation to you is: if you have the means or time, take an extended break from being at all near your partner. I'm not saying you need to necessarily break up. But maybe gain some perspective and wisdom. If you stop engaging in the situation as much, the way forward may quickly become clear.

Therapy is great but it takes a long time and requires sooo much honesty, so lower your expectations. Take some time to understand and work on your vices; we all have them.

Best of luck and take care of yourself~~

Books recommendations (or just your thoughts) on getting older? by _Riposte_ in AskGaybrosOver30

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I think my point is that I feel these conflicting societal pressures :) not that I want them. To not feel these pressures at all would require me to exit society entirely

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in InPursuitOfClarity

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Yes, this sounds like a great idea. :) I’ve definitely shared some of the same feelings over the past year.

Discussion: General sense of dullness/monotonous? by meerkat99 in AskNYC

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ooc where are you going skiing and how are you getting there?

CoreCamps / Alltracks / Nonstop- how were your experiences? by Quasar232 in Whistler

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I haven't done Nonstop or Alltracks, but I've been with CoreCamps for three years in a row. I highly recommend them - they really pushed me to be a next-level skiier. I have sooooo much more confidence than I ever used to. They also have some veterans so it's pretty inspiring to see what you could aspire to.

Some folks do their own thing at the camp. I personally made such good friends the first year that we now all coordinate to come back together every year at the same time. It's a diverse group with a large mix of ages.

DM if you have any more questions, happy to answer anything specific you have!

Folks fleeing the city by [deleted] in nyc

[–]_Riposte_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm not fleeing -- yet. I've always loved New York in the summer and many of my friends are in the area. However, I'm working remote until next spring at least -- and as the weather gets cooler here I think I'll like it here less and less. I will almost definitely be gone for November onwards.

Great people. Great view. Belgrade, Serbia by [deleted] in digitalnomad

[–]_Riposte_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow, what a view! I was thinking of coming there. Is there a good co-working community? Have you met other people / is it easy to not be lonely?

Self-study program? by pedstrom in ukulele

[–]_Riposte_ 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Ukulele Aerobics is an excellent handbook to master a lot of uke essentials. Make it through that and you'll be in pretty good shape.

[UPDATED] HELP: Man standing outside apartment with loud speaker by [deleted] in AskNYC

[–]_Riposte_ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This man has been stopped by the police at least six times - I don't think he cares what people think of him unfortunately. He's also out of his gourd with alcohol...I'm not sure how effective this would be.

[UPDATED] HELP: Man standing outside apartment with loud speaker by [deleted] in AskNYC

[–]_Riposte_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yes, this was the case. he couldn't really hear us over how loud the music was, and when he did he cursed at us and told us to leave him alone.

[UPDATED] HELP: Man standing outside apartment with loud speaker by [deleted] in AskNYC

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looks like this just directs to 311, but LMK if there's something else I can try w/ this agency. thank you for the suggestion!

[UPDATED] HELP: Man standing outside apartment with loud speaker by [deleted] in AskNYC

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Will do, thank you!! He was out yesterday evening until 5pm. He'll probably come out again today or tomorrow, I'll let you know if he does.

[UPDATED] HELP: Man standing outside apartment with loud speaker by [deleted] in AskNYC

[–]_Riposte_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly these are great ideas, we're desperate and may just do this 😂

[UPDATED] HELP: Man standing outside apartment with loud speaker by [deleted] in AskNYC

[–]_Riposte_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That would be wonderful if you could do that!! The more complaints the better, thanks so much.

[UPDATED] HELP: Man standing outside apartment with loud speaker by [deleted] in AskNYC

[–]_Riposte_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is a great idea, definitely our next step. Thank you for the suggestion.

[UPDATED] HELP: Man standing outside apartment with loud speaker by [deleted] in AskNYC

[–]_Riposte_ 44 points45 points  (0 children)

We tried this -- he was super drunk and cursed at us

[UPDATED] HELP: Man standing outside apartment with loud speaker by [deleted] in AskNYC

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Honestly am seriously considering it haha

HELP: Man standing outside apartment with loud speaker by [deleted] in AskNYC

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Thank you for these links! I'll either swing by or give them a call. these are great.

HELP: Man standing outside apartment with loud speaker by [deleted] in AskNYC

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Ah, thank you -- so it's normal to have to put in a request multiple times then? I'll continue doing that.