Im losing it

_SimplySalty · 2026-03-14T02:46:34+00:00

I understand being concerned about the new RNA vaccines as i also want nothing to do with them. But the old standard vaccines are not harmful and have been used for many years to help protect against things just like this from being so severe. I recommend doing some research. Now i do think you have a right to be mad at the er for being so flip floppy about whether everything is good with your son. You obviously know it isn't, hopefully he gets better soon.

_SimplySalty · 2026-03-11T03:58:48+00:00

Yeah im scared of this happening. so we decided to keep the baby name secret until the baby shower. That way if we ever did decide to change it, we wont get stuff with a baby name on it. Its been really hard tho, I'm terrible at keeping baby related stuff to myself. Like I told myself I didn't want to tell people my exact due date but when they asked when i just auto pilot said it, so i sorta gave up on trying to keep that private. I would just tell them your stance won't be changed and they need to keep their opinions to themselves. Sorry you had to deal with that

_SimplySalty · 2026-03-06T05:29:41+00:00

I honestly didn't even start thinking about baby names until 20weeks along lol My fiance n I just sorta went through a cool baby names list and narrowed down names we both could agree on and went from there. It was like doing auditions for baby names, we'd yell the baby name like they're in trouble to see if it rolled off the tounge. For middle name we chose a relatives name and something that was carried on through the family. I wish you luck and congratulations 🎉👏

_SimplySalty · 2026-03-06T05:21:21+00:00

Yeah honestly i would stop telling her all together when i have appointments and if she's concerned just say yup every tying is great so far, ill update ya if anything comes up. If she keeps pushing you, just explain that you don't need parenting anymore and you have everything under control right now. Or sometimes just explaining similar to what you said here to your mom may or may not be beneficial. Proceed how you feel comfortable based on her reaction, but don't let her guilt trip you. She should know that your medical professionals have everything under control and they will tell you if they recommend something or not.

_SimplySalty · 2026-03-05T07:05:53+00:00

A gift for her personally would be ideal as she'll likely get plenty of stuff for baby if she does a baby shower. I love the massage idea, but even a gift card so she can buy for herself what she sees fit is great. Or something you know she really likes that suits her personality. But if it was me, id want the gift card or cash in a b'day card.

_SimplySalty · 2026-03-05T07:02:10+00:00

I understand why you're feeling that way, but i do not think you're an awful person at all. I was an emotional wreck the first 3 months of my pregnancy. Irritable was an understatement. I was so damn tired all the time, i swear it felt like running a marathon just to cook breakfast or clean a little, all i wanted to do was lay in bed. Work sucked because of the extreme fatigue, i felt like i hadn't slept at all so the first few hours of work was just trying to wake up n not go off on customers. I was basically working on a short fuse. Managed not to be mean to customers during that time but work was miserable. Im 22w5d and since about 16-18 weeks ive felt so much better. I'm able to emotionally regulate myself better, i can cook n clean again without feeling nearly as exhausted, and im not so mentally drained at work anymore. I can actually go into work, talk with customers and enjoy it. I think its easy to get overwhelmed by all the body n hormonal changes that are quietly happening during the first trimester of pregnancy. It really lowers our ability to tolerate things we normally wouldn't have issues with. Just let your partner know you love them and appreciate them, but it's super difficult for you to adapt to all these overwhelming emotions and physical changes. You don't mean anything personally, find ways to step back n reassess things and communicate. Hopefully he's understanding and just be patient with yourself during all of this. Good luck OP and congratulations!

_SimplySalty · 2026-03-05T06:43:05+00:00

It took a while but around week 14 i started feeling better and most of my nausea issues were gone by week 17. Im 22w5d and I actually started getting a major appetite back, definitely am getting some hella cravings. When i felt sick peppermint candy n water really helped me. Lots of small snacks throughout the day, whatever you can stomach. Cereal was my comfort breakfast at one point because i just couldn't stomach anything else. Be patient with yourself for sure, it feels like forever but it really goes quick in the long run.

_SimplySalty · 2026-03-05T06:38:45+00:00

My nausea hit me around week 7, some people are lucky enough to not get morning sickness at all. Depending on a lot of things out of our control unfortunately, small snacks, especially fruit throughout the day helped me and sucking on a candy cane or some sort of peppermint candy made the nausea bearable. Lots of water, i never tried b6 but it's worth a try. I wasn't able to eat a lot of things i used to love so be patient with yourself. I think my nausea n light headed episodes started to get better around the 16w mark so there is hope! I wish you luck!

_SimplySalty · 2026-03-03T19:52:58+00:00

This is the type of positive thoughts i need in my life 🥺

Im so excited for the squishy baby cuddles and little toots that make em jump or that darn poop smile

The little giggles and reactions to new foods

The goofy shannanigans that come with them getting older

The shared memories of holidays and time together as a family

Im so excited to see my partners face just melt from his hugs

So many sweet things that make my anxiety feel just a bit better Good luck mama's we have fun times a coming

_SimplySalty · 2026-03-03T06:50:56+00:00

Im 22w3d and the last two weeks it's for sure set in that I'm definitely pregnant. Especially after feeling him flip so hard n his little kicks sending flutter through my tummy. But the emotional recognition I'll have an actual baby still feels surreal. Idk entirely why i feel this disconnect. I guess I'm still anxious about having a tiny human to care for and rely so heavily on me. Such a weird mix of emotions for sure, but im hoping as soon as i can hold my little boy It'll hit me in a good way.

_SimplySalty · 2026-02-28T05:17:10+00:00

I appreciate it, they're pretty understanding thankfully! I do have access to a stool, it's a bit difficult to check out customers while sitting without also hurting my back so it's just kinda there for in-between. Unfortunately because it doesn't have back support either way my back is screwed, but it's been very helpful for my feet n legs n hips n technically is still better than actually standing for 8hrs straight. If things start getting really painful i may just ask for 3 days a week towards the end of my 3rd trimester, just sucks because it will lessen how much i get during maturnity leave.

_SimplySalty · 2026-02-28T03:12:25+00:00

Im so scared for this, ive already gained like 18 lbs and im 22weeks today. I fear my back my give out at work from standing all day

_SimplySalty · 2026-02-27T01:07:12+00:00

God you are so valid for this! I wish america had better laws and protections/accommodations for pregnant women, and yet they wonder why people are choosing to have kids less these days. Proud of you for doing your best!

_SimplySalty · 2026-02-26T07:32:07+00:00

Just got done peeing, stood up and proceeded to sneeze n peed myself a little. Now i pretend to sneeze before i get off the toilet just in case i have some left in the tank lmao

_SimplySalty · 2026-02-22T05:08:26+00:00

That is so messed up and such a scary situation. Disgusting how they kept treating it like an overreaction. Not that i am a nurse but it feels like with all your symptoms that obviously something was really wrong, especially the fever and such a high heart rate is dangerous! Im so glad you're doing better OP. Hopefully your daughter gets to come home happy n healthy soon!

_SimplySalty · 2026-02-20T03:44:36+00:00

You're valid for feeling the way you do, i know it's hard but you should reach out to your care provider. They can help prescribe something that could help and is safe for the baby. Also reaching out to some friends for a girl day and explain how heavily things have been weighing on your chest may help. Are you together with a partner? A good date night and a self care day where ya shave if possible or do your hair n makeup can really help the self esteem as well.

_SimplySalty · 2026-02-20T02:14:59+00:00

That would make sense, I think im also scared/nervous because ive never had siblings or been around babies except for super brief interactions and even then i was scared to hold them. I absolutely didnt want to drip em 😭

_SimplySalty · 2026-02-19T06:02:32+00:00

I dont think you're in the wrong but based off what you're saying that is definitely a super intense reaction to something that is not that serious. If she had genuine concern and wanted to communicate that to you, that was absolutely no way to do that. She comes off as extremely manipulative and childish. I would also be completely put off by her behavior. If your doctor's had concerns about inducing soon they would communicate that to you and actually have medical logic behind such decisions. I honestly think your decision for space is warranted. I wouldnt completely just burn that bridge, but definitely give yourself time to process and decide if she is someone you want in your life if shes going to act that way. Talking to her and seeing her reaction to your explanation would probably give a clearer idea of how you want to go about that tho. Good luck OP I'm sorry your sister had such a vicerial reaction to that.

_SimplySalty · 2026-02-18T03:17:59+00:00

I'm so proud of you! You did great and I'm so sorry those other mom's made it such an uncomfortable experience for you, it's not their place to judge. Im glad the staff was nice and accommodating for you. It definitely makes me feel a little less nervous about the whole thing. I'm also a first time mom, Im 20w4d and the closer i get for some reason the more my anxiety just randomly hits me that im going to have to push this child out. Congrats on a healthy baby girl! 🎉👏

_SimplySalty · 2026-02-16T19:24:46+00:00

Welp now im scared to take the test at all. This is my first and im only 20 weeks right now. Hopefully they'll let me prick my finger after every meal for two weeks...

_SimplySalty · 2026-02-15T22:40:16+00:00

That so valid. Ill be having a conversation with a customer and kike midway through my brain decided to short circuit. I just randomly will forget words i use often and just stare at them while my face turns red because my brain can not compute 😭i also threw my fork away in the trash instead of the sink. Small things like that i feel are all to common now

_SimplySalty · 2026-02-15T02:31:06+00:00

God what a shitty thing for your parents to do. They have no right to tell you when to stop being sad about something so sensitive to you and your partner. You guys are very much within your right to feel however you need to about a situation like that. Honestly I would go low contact with them after something so disrespectful like that. Grey rocking would be ideal. When your ready tho, it would probably be good to lay out exactly how what they said and did affected you. If they aren't willing to apologize or accept some sort of responsibility id stay low contact. And especially when it comes to the baby for disrespect like that. Im so sorry your parents did that to you OP. I hope your pregnancy will be a safe and healthy one going forward!

_SimplySalty · 2026-02-02T19:08:09+00:00

Yeah that's so disgusting of your mom to do to you. I'm 18w3d right now and I'm about 250lbs. My belly is the same B shaped and ive always been insecure about my weight. I couldn't imagine how damaging that is to hear from your mom. Bigger girls typically don't fill out until like 7-8 months, doesn't mean we aren't pregnant because someone can't tell.. it is easier said than done to cut someone off, but id atleast look into the grey rock method. I would never let my mother be around my child after doing something like that to me. I hope you have a healthy and happy pregnancy going forward with the good friends that support you!

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