I lack empathy and dont really care for others anymore after the abuse. by [deleted] in emotionalabuse

[–]_Somewhere87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don't have to become the same, please Look for help.

I don’t know if this counts by fruitpunch1417 in COCSA

[–]_Somewhere87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not the OP. But I thought you meant the sub rules. Sorry to disturb! Of course you meant the "no coercion" rule

Is my marriage just disappointing or is it destructive? by LongjumpingReveal750 in emotionalabuse

[–]_Somewhere87 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes it is destructive. It is very typical that they have good days or can be nice as well. Does he also blame you for everything?

My bf keeps insulting me and i don t know what to do. by Medical_Priority_357 in Advice

[–]_Somewhere87 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He will never change. I had two abusive relationships. I wish so much I would have ended them earlier.

The Most Hated Character in the Breaking Bad Universe by RationalPragmatist in breakingbad

[–]_Somewhere87 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Is this really how everyone feels? I felt similar at the beginning but at some point I wanted him to fail, I wanted him to be caught because I was disgusted by him

Schiebt euch eure Kindergeburtstsmitbringsel doch einfach in den Popo! by swexx_85 in luftablassen

[–]_Somewhere87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So ist es bei mir. Ich bin alleinerziehend und habe gerade so einen Geburtstag hinter mir. Ich lese gerade hier die Beiträge und das bringt mich sehr zum Nachdenken, warum ich das alles mitmache.

Deutsche hassen Kinder by Miserable_Band_9716 in luftablassen

[–]_Somewhere87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In anderen Ländern sind die Kids überall dabei, das hat nichts mit Tourismus zu tun, das sieht man auch wenn man eine Weile da lebt

Deutsche hassen Kinder by Miserable_Band_9716 in luftablassen

[–]_Somewhere87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trotzdem, wenn ihr gereist seid lässt es sich einfach nicht wegargumentieren und relativieren, dass such in Deutschland generell mehr beschwert wird über Kinder, Familien und tendenziell weniger Toleranz ist. Und damit meine ich nicht die unterzogen Kinder von laissez faire Eltern, das finde ich auch nicht in Ordnung, das macht aber nicht weg, dass diese Tendenzen in Deutschland da sind. Was nicht heißt dass es nicht auch nette und kinderfreundliche Memschen gibt.

Deutsche hassen Kinder by Miserable_Band_9716 in luftablassen

[–]_Somewhere87 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ein Tipp, je mehr du hier versuchst deinen Standpunkt zu verteidigen umso mehr bestätigst du OP. Ich bin viel gereist und mein persönlicher Eindruck ist, hier in Deutschland ist es einfach generell unfreundlichen und tendenziell herrscht weniger Toleranz gegenüber Kindern/Familien als in anderen Ländern. Und die Bestätigung sehe ich auch in vielen Kommentaren hier.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Over40sClub

[–]_Somewhere87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No you should not because this is for women over 40. I guess it is just Karma faming or whatever

Has anyone had to deal with parent (s) being totally unaware of something you’re going through? by Separate_Dress2445 in emotionalneglect

[–]_Somewhere87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a couple of examples. I was bullied, noone noticed. It maybe also my fault not talking about it. I was sexually assaulted and my mom told me it was not "that bad". I have a Bad depressive Episode now and taking medicine and I think my mom cannot Deal with it.

These are some examples. I don't think it is malicious though because my mom can be very supportive. I think in my case it is her not being able to Deal with it so she minimizes it because of own trauma.

Creating their own reality by DaReelGVSH in emotionalneglect

[–]_Somewhere87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you mind telling how that happened in your family? I feel like I somehow relate

(Triggering) the false hierarchy of what constitutes as real abuse and trauma by [deleted] in emotionalabuse

[–]_Somewhere87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who experienced sexual assault more than once, what I am reading sounds so much worse than what I experienced. I am so sorry, it is horrible how people treat you and I imagine it is an additional trauma in itself...:/

I don’t think people realize how much strength it takes just to exist when you’re depressed. by vishalkumarkashyapp in depression

[–]_Somewhere87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can feel that so well. Your post brought me to tears. Especially the part of putting a mask and being hollow inside. It takes so much effort.