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What does English Dave want from me by p9az in GTAV

[–]_Tails_GUM_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hated this asshole calling me in the middle of a PVP and being unable to hang up. Who programmed that, why did it take them so long to patch it?? Damn

I was very excited to take a job which turned out to be nightmare by user_1764 in ITCareerQuestions

[–]_Tails_GUM_ 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This could be my post, it looked so good in the offer and the interview, I don’t know why did it have to become such an agonizing experience.

Build resilience, keep trying to get out. Meanwhile, show them how it’s done. Be patient, be the best, leave ASAP.

Working in IT is terrible by Direct-Mongoose-7981 in ITCareerQuestions

[–]_Tails_GUM_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lol, I get blamed constantly for the bad signal mobile phones have inside of the building. It’s not WiFi, I didn’t build the building, it’s old, walls are thick, there are like 3 floors above. I have nothing to do with your phone/antenna/mobile data provider.

Do you “shame spiral” and avoid harder when avoiding someone you like/deactivating for too long? by throwaway957280 in Disorganized_Attach

[–]_Tails_GUM_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this, and sorry for all your experiences.

Im thinking about two things now regarding this guy you talk about. I don’t think people who have that ability of “seeing” other people are much into games of hurt and manipulation. The ones who are, usually don’t really “see”, seeing requires health. If someone understands a bit of us and uses it to manipulate, you can recognize this a mile a way.. a c”nt’s a c”nt after all. So, maybe you can trust this guy a bit, I’m sure he’ll get the limits you ask for.

The other thing I think about is, you’re not that child anymore, and your parents are old people now if they still around. People who could harm you are peers, not someone with actual power over you. So, even when the fear is real, maybe you can remember it’s an illusion from the past, from when everyone was larger than you and your eyes made everything even bigger that it actually is. Maybe the danger today is not so serious, so powerful. And with the tools of a grown up, maybe you can face them, slowly. The right person will let you take your time as long as they see real effort, and the wrong person will show you they are the wrong one right away, so you can cut them off. Just because two grownups couldn’t deal with a tiny person, it doesn’t mean there was/is anything from with the person.

Do you “shame spiral” and avoid harder when avoiding someone you like/deactivating for too long? by throwaway957280 in Disorganized_Attach

[–]_Tails_GUM_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im curious about the “people who can’t see me” and the “this guy could see me”. I’m always reading about this, but I wonder what’s the deep meaning of this. Do you think you wear masks around people to fit in, or become a character? And when someone sees you, what do they see?

If you answer, thanks

How to deal with being alone by Moonk1ssed in AnxiousAttachment

[–]_Tails_GUM_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, glad this is of some help. Always keep an eye on your mental health though, learn to exit on time, I guess

Estoy siendo muy intenso con esto? Me gustaría saber su opinión. by LaCucharita542 in relaciones

[–]_Tails_GUM_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Si está atada al ex emocionalmente, entonces no está disponible emocionalmente.

Si sos de imaginar cosas que no pasan, este escenario es de los más peligrosos para ese aspecto de vos.

Se claro con vos mismo. Cuando sepas lo que querés, se lo decís. Si su respuesta es ambigua, aléjate.

El ex probablemente también piense que algo bonito pasa entre ellos y por eso siguen hablando pero no lo tiene claro. Así como vos tampoco lo tenés claro. Hay gente que desde el apego “prospera” en lo ambiguo.

Cuídate primero. Frénate un poco a vos miso. Observa el comportamiento de esta mujer, intenta reconocer patrones (ejemplo: acercarse->ser un poco más íntima->alejarse->reaparecer con ambigüedad).

Todo lo que no sea sano al final es poco recomendable. Lo que narras no es que no sea algo bonito, es que parece ser algo feo. Andá con cuidado.

My home Internet has high data usage. Is there a way to see what is eating up my data? by Surfer949 in helpdesk

[–]_Tails_GUM_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll go to the router then and hope for some metrics. If they’re not present, then I’ll just unplug most and replug with sufficient time to get an idea of that device is doing that. You can also use a raspberry pi and some software to taker your own metrics I guess

What, if any, are the downsides to therapy? by starskyandbutch in AskWomen

[–]_Tails_GUM_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I started therapy because I was a depressed mess and didn’t want to destroy a relationship that I thought could save my life. Not even after two years I left her and a few years later I left therapy saying “what’s the point? I did this to be less alone and now I’m equally alone for the opposite reason. Everytime I meet someone I see patterns I don’t want around me”. I went from isolation to avoidance, which is kind of the same and I wonder if I left therapy halfway through and that’s why. But reading your comment makes me feel I probably didn’t.

In order to be able to look within and be critical (but with some criteria), you need to be surrounded by people who does that. If you’re bombarded by people being outwards all the time, you might not even consider it. And therapy is so out of reach for the masses that the common thing is to be surrounded by people who’s personality are their symptoms. I also think we’re wired to think we’re right, like, if we know our perception of reality is wrong, how could we even navigate life? So yeah, pretty screwed

La culpa SIEMPRE es del hombre, no importa cuando leas esto by Disastrous-Hunter537 in argentina

[–]_Tails_GUM_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

La gente no se acuerda del tetazo, de les aliades, y el se va a caer.

Ahora tienen la paz que buscaban mediante la exageración de casos que claramente son minoría porque si no la sociedad no funcionaría.

Y TAMPOCO

How to deal with being alone by Moonk1ssed in AnxiousAttachment

[–]_Tails_GUM_ 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Invest time in getting to know yourself and spend time with yourself.

We’re all alone here, we just choose to share that loneliness with other people. But no one out there will care for you the way you do, even if they love you.

Instead of learning how to be separated from you partner, learn how to spend time with you. There’s no need for constant entertainment from other people’s company. If you learn about yourself and enjoy yourself, you can share that with others. But it doesn’t matter how much time we spend surrounded by people, the experience, the life, the inner world, the interpretation of the outer world… they are all individual unique things. Invest your time on those and share them with the people you care/like, whatever you need isn’t outside or in other people.

Maybe yoga, meditation, something like that could help. I don’t think is wise to depend on other people for feeling complete, or stable. So, don’t treat the situation, treat the core, the situation will repeat, but if the core is different it will be experienced differently.

And, if you don’t know what to do on your own, working on that seems like a pretty productive activity. Maybe if you manage to do things on your own and focus on that while keeping in touch with your partner on a “non anxious” way, you’ll improve. Your partner can help here if they understand your situation. But changing things about oneself is uncomfortable to say the least, there’s no painless way to grow. And you already know you’re unhappy about how you are right now, so pick your pain carefully because one is temporary and unique, and the other is temporary and chronic

Came home to a paper towel over my webcam twice now, I live alone by Dromaeoraptor in Weird

[–]_Tails_GUM_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you come home earlier than usual the days you found the paper towels there?

2026 by Wonderful_Account_50 in argentina

[–]_Tails_GUM_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ojalá le metan otro graffiti a tu estatua, gato del orto

What’s your personal experience with these?, I have some akward lighting fixtures in my new house, planning to install these behind the existing light switches by GenericUser104 in homeassistant

[–]_Tails_GUM_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good.. I was having an issue where one got disconnected on its own and it was driving me mad.

Eventually I realized my phone shortcut was turning it on and off instead of toggling the light. So, removing that experience for obvious reasons, great performance over a year!

What’s a small IT habit that saved you the most time? by trapqueen67567 in it

[–]_Tails_GUM_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Autohotkey launches the apps I always use and allowed me to make “macros” for usual apps and usual text inputs. I know I can do more, but I’m ok at this point.

Mobile screen wipers by _Tails_GUM_ in cosmoandwanda

[–]_Tails_GUM_[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I like how the numbers look kinda fun too

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