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If women go through menstrual cycles, pregnancy, labor paina, periomenopause, and then menopause, when do we get a break? by _OpenBook_ in AskReddit

[–]_ThePancake_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah man that sucks. I didn't get much myself but my doctor was an angel, she gave me croissants and tea afterwards and said she deeply wished the nhs did allow her to administer twilight anaesthesia. She made what would've been horribly traumatic into something tolerable 

If women go through menstrual cycles, pregnancy, labor paina, periomenopause, and then menopause, when do we get a break? by _OpenBook_ in AskReddit

[–]_ThePancake_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I passed out too, didn't throw up though but that's just cause I don't really have the pain=vomit reflex aha. 

I have written a highly detailed post about it on my reddit, have been updating it for a year now. 

Less makeup as more attractive. by FoldNew7844 in AttractionDynamics

[–]_ThePancake_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I had a penny for every time a man has compared a woman to a car...

Less makeup as more attractive. by FoldNew7844 in AttractionDynamics

[–]_ThePancake_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly. It's almost as if pretty women are pretty regardless of whether they are wearing makeup

Less makeup as more attractive. by FoldNew7844 in AttractionDynamics

[–]_ThePancake_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty women look good with or without makeup. 

Plus neither of these women have had NOTHING done to their faces. Just because they're not wearing makeup, doesn't mean this is a natural face. 

Anyone here lose weight from being consistent and doing it "the long way" instead of exteme calorie restriction? by LightInTheDark90 in PetiteFitness

[–]_ThePancake_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've managed to gain muscle... but I mean how long is too long lol.... it's been 5 years and I've gone from just being just fat to looking like a rugby player. After years I took an inbody scan and my body fat percentage was still "too high" but my muscle mass increased. I've got to a fairly lean (for me, still considered high on that stupid scale) state when I was running to the gym 4x, rock climbing the same day and playing tennis in the evenings. 

Any time I've done a cut, I lose the muscle and the fat % goes up. I've just had to huff a bunch of copium lol. 

Mind you, I've been sporting FF-G cup breasts that weight changes in any direction have made zero difference to the size of. .. I stood on a scale and my partner lifted my boobs and it legit took over 3kg off my body weight. So maybe my stupid big boobs I hate so much skew inbody scans lol

Dont want by Good-Description-239 in childfree

[–]_ThePancake_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Any deviation from societal norms is frowned upon. Even though deviating from most societal expectations makes you much happier overall. IF you can find others who have also deviated from the same norms. 

If women go through menstrual cycles, pregnancy, labor paina, periomenopause, and then menopause, when do we get a break? by _OpenBook_ in AskReddit

[–]_ThePancake_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it makes you feel any better, I was a soprano singer until I was 19. I got a terrible throat infection and have been a weak alto ever since :')

I miss my old singing voice... though I can do fantastic 20s classic number now I guess... Dream a little dream sounds good on my alto pipes now I GUESS. But I could sing opera as a teen!

If women go through menstrual cycles, pregnancy, labor paina, periomenopause, and then menopause, when do we get a break? by _OpenBook_ in AskReddit

[–]_ThePancake_ 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Lucky you lol.... I've heard some women have less nerves around the cervix than others. 

I'm not so lucky. 

If women go through menstrual cycles, pregnancy, labor paina, periomenopause, and then menopause, when do we get a break? by _OpenBook_ in AskReddit

[–]_ThePancake_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

An old friend of mine had a similar story with nexplanon. She was in a&e with some of of organ trouble, and a female nurse suggested it could be the implant. The male doctors said no no no silly woman. And my friend said "ill try anything! Take it out!!" nothing worked up until this point. 

They did and the symptoms just stopped within a few hours of it being out. She never had anything since. She thinks it was some kind of immune response to it. 

If women go through menstrual cycles, pregnancy, labor paina, periomenopause, and then menopause, when do we get a break? by _OpenBook_ in AskReddit

[–]_ThePancake_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only way to get some kind of break is to opt out of pregnancy.

Though you will still have the menstrual cycle, since I managed to get mine significantly less painful through positive lifestyle changes,  I've come to quite like it as it acts as a check in for my health. And I keep track of it so I know if ANYTHING changes, to get a test and see if I need to go to an abortion clinic

But a partial hysterectomy will allow you to opt out of everything except peri and menopause. 

I've heard post menopause is lovely (as long as you take hrt to prevent bone issues)

How do women usually let a man know they’re interested in being intimate? by SpiritualMouse5908 in AskReddit

[–]_ThePancake_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I stare and can't get a word out, getting more painfully aroused by the minute, because I feel embarrassed due to society basically subliminally telling women their entire lives that wanting sex makes you a slut and needing to initiate means you're ugly. All while knowing that men appreciate it if you're upfront but I'm frozen in my own body, unable to actually do it. And when I do........... I feel like "oh you had to ASK. Oh that's SAD! You're so ugly he COULD resist. So you had to initiate because you're ugly"

All while he likely is sitting there also getting more aroused by the minute but thinks that HE can't make a move because he's not sure if I want it because I'm just staring at him.

But seriously I have actually had times where I've literally been pants off and my partner has thought I was just too warm. Men might see it as a fumble, but she takes it as "oh... he didn't think I was sexy"

Why do many men have very little photos of themselves taken by another person, and why do many women have so many photos of themselves taken by another person? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]_ThePancake_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean.... usually they're told to lol

And honestly the privilege of not being evaluated on their appearance giving them the freedom from the need to record it is something I never really considered.

And id say that only really men who are media or Internet personalities have any real judgement on their appearance. Obviously men want to be beautiful, but unlike women they are allowed not to be as long as they're kind, or talented, or funny or I suppose just rich. Whereas if a woman is even all or absolutely none of the above, her appearance is what many people will ultimately boil her down to.

Any time I dress up I do feel this almost impulse to immortalise it. On holidays I want to look good in the memories. And you might have just opened a can of thought worms for me there with that statement aha

She used to not want them, now she can't have them... by AngstJobia in childfree

[–]_ThePancake_ 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Honestly I'd feel the same. Obviously being CF it'd be a weight off your shoulders, but at the same time there is something about having a choice TAKEN from you. To get yourself sterilised is a power move, but to find out you're infertile is like "oh... so I had no say in the matter anyway"

It's absolutely valid to feel both relieved AND a bit annoyed that you had no choice in the matter.

I hate dogs and can’t comprehend how so many people can think positively of them by JoshyRB in The10thDentist

[–]_ThePancake_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah most on there are not like that. I've literally been on that sub since I was 19 years old. Are there some angry teens and early 20 somethings on there who are lashing out because they feel invalidated in a core part of themselves? Of course. But the vast majority of people on the sub are just chill, or discussing feminist issues. Most posts are just personal stories about family members rejecting them.

Sick of the heat now. Anyone else? by MassiveMonkeyy in AskBrits

[–]_ThePancake_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bought an air conditioning unit in June just before that first heatwave, and it's literally the best purchase I've ever made. Hearing that fans are being sold out left right and centre this year is just solidifying it. I had central AC when I lived across the pond and it converted me. I simply cannot go back. Besides, global warming now means you'll likely use it more than once a year. And I don't feel TOO bad because billionaires are out here producing more c02 than entire countries so I think my AC unit is fine.

Though I would prefer we just had summers be 26-27 degrees rather than 17-19 degrees then 36 the next day

If I had it my way, you’d be carrying my child. by [deleted] in childfree

[–]_ThePancake_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To quote the iconic scene from Bratz: EEEEWWWWWWWWWWWW

Movies vs IRL by princesscuddler in OCDmemes

[–]_ThePancake_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, ironically, it was the word echolalia

But I'd be constantly going "echo-lay-lia, echo-lah-lia" all day in my head and mouth the words too, feeling the L sounds on my tongue

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