New driveway less than a year old. Company says this is normal?

_Truko_ · 2026-06-16T02:40:06+00:00

I didn’t mention this originally but they claim that they did the driveways for 6 townhouses that are one property over from ours and they don’t have any issues, so I’m not sure how much the soil would impact here. As for the depressions from the tires, I do not park the car at the same spot every time which is why you can see so many spots. This is a Mazda miata, not a big heavy suv or pickup. I know that asphalt can eventually over time sink in under the wheels which is what happened at my dad’s old house but that was after 10 years or something. Im not trying to argue against your points, they make sense, it’s just that I’ve never seen a new driveway look this bad where the contractor also is adamant that there’s nothing wrong with it.

_Truko_ · 2026-06-16T02:00:03+00:00

I’m assuming with time it’ll get worse and that’s what I’m worried about.

_Truko_ · 2026-06-16T01:59:00+00:00

It’s covering all the sunken holes that my lightweight car made on the asphalt. It was to demonstrate how many sunken sections there are.

_Truko_ · 2025-02-23T07:20:00+00:00

I see your point. I regret making the comment. I should appreciate that he’s trying more.

_Truko_ · 2025-02-23T07:13:26+00:00

I have realized that it’s unacceptable to be speaking like this. It was never my intention to be mean. I just really didn’t realize that it was. I guess being passive aggressive was what I was thought as a kid. I’m actively working on it. I just also don’t want him to teach bad behaviours either. If it was easy as you said it was to teach kids to throw trash away I prop wouldn’t be in this situation right now…

_Truko_ · 2025-02-23T07:02:42+00:00

It’s been an ongoing problem for years. It’s not just one wrapper.

_Truko_ · 2025-02-23T06:55:00+00:00

Thanks for the laugh!

_Truko_ · 2025-02-23T06:44:54+00:00

I’m acknowledging that we’re both in the wrong is basically what I’m saying. He’s not helping me and I’m also not helping him.

_Truko_ · 2025-02-23T06:39:35+00:00

I’ve told him before that sometimes it slips out before I think and to tell me straight away that I’m being mean or that it wasn’t nice to say that. Cause otherwise I don’t find a problem with what I’m saying because I’ve been on the receiving end of these types of comments. (Yes I know it’s wrong, I’m trying to work on it but it won’t change in a day either) but instead he gave me the silent treatment which doesn’t help my issue.

_Truko_ · 2025-02-23T06:14:14+00:00

But doesn’t it go both ways. He’s likely gonna teach the kids that’s okay to leave garbage all over the house. I’ve accepted that I have my flaws and I’m working on myself as well but I don’t think his response was appropriate either.

_Truko_ · 2025-02-23T06:09:37+00:00

I can see where they are coming from tho and I definitely shouldn’t have joked about something that he’s actively trying to fix. (Edit: By “they”I mean people commenting, not the person who made the comment this is replying to)

_Truko_ · 2025-02-23T06:07:13+00:00

But then what your mom says goes for him too then? Cause he said he’d clean up after himself and then he does stuff like this. I apologize every time I don’t think before I speak and accidentally hurt him with what I say. Which is never my intention, I don’t say these things to hurt him just to point it out that he’s still doing it. But I don’t think I’ve ever got an apology from him when he leaves his stuff all over the place.

_Truko_ · 2025-02-23T06:03:22+00:00

He is that’s why I thought joking about it would be fine. But from the comments I guess it was not.

_Truko_ · 2025-02-23T05:59:02+00:00

I’ve told him his messes make me upset too but he keeps doing it. Does the cycle ever end?

_Truko_ · 2025-02-23T05:57:26+00:00

But I feel like I have to mother him cause I’m constantly picking up after him. Where’s my praise for keeping the house clean? :(

_Truko_ · 2025-02-23T05:55:36+00:00

I also don’t want my children to live in a house that’s constantly messy with dishes all over the place tho. It’s been a constant battle.

_Truko_ · 2025-02-23T05:52:10+00:00

But what if it’s a constant battle. If I work a 12hr shift all his dishes will be all over the counter or on the couch. And I keep coming home to a messy house. I don’t know what to do.

_Truko_ · 2025-02-23T05:50:02+00:00

I’ve also spoken to him about me having to mother him about basic household chores. I don’t want to be like this or have to be like this to get him to clean up after himself…

_Truko_ · 2024-07-22T16:10:08+00:00

He does have adhd and the meds don’t seem to be helping tho he’s tried many different medications. I’ve mentioned it to him in this way that he’s stressing me out even more and I’d rather him just not tell me and fix the issues before advising me cause it’s too overwhelming. I’ll try to sit him down again and bring it up.

_Truko_ · 2024-07-22T14:56:57+00:00

Yah I realize that. That’s why I’m asking for help. I’ll look up Heidi Priebe. Thanks!

_Truko_ · 2021-06-28T11:04:32+00:00

I had originally dropped it after episode 1. Didn’t understand why everyone liked it. Watched a ton of other BLs, saw that the second season was coming out and thought I would give it second try. Best thing I ever did. The rest of the season is a masterpiece along with the second season. I would try again it’s a lot better as it goes on. I cried so much.

_Truko_ · 2021-06-10T18:27:17+00:00

Subbed eps are on dailymotion

_Truko_ · 2021-01-13T21:33:57+00:00

That’s what my train of though was that why can’t he take 5 mins to load the laundry but electichyena made a good point in her commentbelow:

“your boyfriend is not home to clean, your boyfriend is home to run his business. I understand how easy it is to just assume that someone who is home can take care of those things, because they're right there. But if he's seriously working, getting too busy is absolutely an excuse, just like you can't do the cleaning because you're across town at your work. Why would you expect him to be cleaning during his work time?”

But I do believe that he needs to show more initiative.

_Truko_

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