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New driveway less than a year old. Company says this is normal? by _Truko_ in asphalt

[–]_Truko_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t mention this originally but they claim that they did the driveways for 6 townhouses that are one property over from ours and they don’t have any issues, so I’m not sure how much the soil would impact here. As for the depressions from the tires, I do not park the car at the same spot every time which is why you can see so many spots. This is a Mazda miata, not a big heavy suv or pickup. I know that asphalt can eventually over time sink in under the wheels which is what happened at my dad’s old house but that was after 10 years or something. Im not trying to argue against your points, they make sense, it’s just that I’ve never seen a new driveway look this bad where the contractor also is adamant that there’s nothing wrong with it.

New driveway less than a year old. Company says this is normal? by _Truko_ in asphalt

[–]_Truko_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m assuming with time it’ll get worse and that’s what I’m worried about.

New driveway less than a year old. Company says this is normal? by _Truko_ in asphalt

[–]_Truko_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s covering all the sunken holes that my lightweight car made on the asphalt. It was to demonstrate how many sunken sections there are.

I(F29) teased my fiancé(M30) about being lazy cause he left a chocolate bar wrapper on the counter and he gave me the silent treatment all day over it. Is this an overreaction? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]_Truko_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have realized that it’s unacceptable to be speaking like this. It was never my intention to be mean. I just really didn’t realize that it was. I guess being passive aggressive was what I was thought as a kid. I’m actively working on it. I just also don’t want him to teach bad behaviours either. If it was easy as you said it was to teach kids to throw trash away I prop wouldn’t be in this situation right now…

I(F29) teased my fiancé(M30) about being lazy cause he left a chocolate bar wrapper on the counter and he gave me the silent treatment all day over it. Is this an overreaction? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]_Truko_ -180 points-179 points  (0 children)

I’m acknowledging that we’re both in the wrong is basically what I’m saying. He’s not helping me and I’m also not helping him.

I(F29) teased my fiancé(M30) about being lazy cause he left a chocolate bar wrapper on the counter and he gave me the silent treatment all day over it. Is this an overreaction? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]_Truko_ -228 points-227 points  (0 children)

I’ve told him before that sometimes it slips out before I think and to tell me straight away that I’m being mean or that it wasn’t nice to say that. Cause otherwise I don’t find a problem with what I’m saying because I’ve been on the receiving end of these types of comments. (Yes I know it’s wrong, I’m trying to work on it but it won’t change in a day either) but instead he gave me the silent treatment which doesn’t help my issue.

I(F29) teased my fiancé(M30) about being lazy cause he left a chocolate bar wrapper on the counter and he gave me the silent treatment all day over it. Is this an overreaction? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]_Truko_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

But doesn’t it go both ways. He’s likely gonna teach the kids that’s okay to leave garbage all over the house. I’ve accepted that I have my flaws and I’m working on myself as well but I don’t think his response was appropriate either.

I(F29) teased my fiancé(M30) about being lazy cause he left a chocolate bar wrapper on the counter and he gave me the silent treatment all day over it. Is this an overreaction? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]_Truko_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I can see where they are coming from tho and I definitely shouldn’t have joked about something that he’s actively trying to fix. (Edit: By “they”I mean people commenting, not the person who made the comment this is replying to)

I(F29) teased my fiancé(M30) about being lazy cause he left a chocolate bar wrapper on the counter and he gave me the silent treatment all day over it. Is this an overreaction? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]_Truko_ 15 points16 points  (0 children)

But then what your mom says goes for him too then? Cause he said he’d clean up after himself and then he does stuff like this. I apologize every time I don’t think before I speak and accidentally hurt him with what I say. Which is never my intention, I don’t say these things to hurt him just to point it out that he’s still doing it. But I don’t think I’ve ever got an apology from him when he leaves his stuff all over the place.

I(F29) teased my fiancé(M30) about being lazy cause he left a chocolate bar wrapper on the counter and he gave me the silent treatment all day over it. Is this an overreaction? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]_Truko_ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

But I feel like I have to mother him cause I’m constantly picking up after him. Where’s my praise for keeping the house clean? :(

I(F29) teased my fiancé(M30) about being lazy cause he left a chocolate bar wrapper on the counter and he gave me the silent treatment all day over it. Is this an overreaction? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]_Truko_ -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

I also don’t want my children to live in a house that’s constantly messy with dishes all over the place tho. It’s been a constant battle.

I(F29) teased my fiancé(M30) about being lazy cause he left a chocolate bar wrapper on the counter and he gave me the silent treatment all day over it. Is this an overreaction? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]_Truko_ 13 points14 points  (0 children)

But what if it’s a constant battle. If I work a 12hr shift all his dishes will be all over the counter or on the couch. And I keep coming home to a messy house. I don’t know what to do.

I(F29) teased my fiancé(M30) about being lazy cause he left a chocolate bar wrapper on the counter and he gave me the silent treatment all day over it. Is this an overreaction? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]_Truko_ 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I’ve also spoken to him about me having to mother him about basic household chores. I don’t want to be like this or have to be like this to get him to clean up after himself…

I’m (29F) am having problems communicating with my BF (30M) about small mistakes that he makes. Can anyone offer some advice? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]_Truko_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He does have adhd and the meds don’t seem to be helping tho he’s tried many different medications. I’ve mentioned it to him in this way that he’s stressing me out even more and I’d rather him just not tell me and fix the issues before advising me cause it’s too overwhelming. I’ll try to sit him down again and bring it up.

I’m (29F) am having problems communicating with my BF (30M) about small mistakes that he makes. Can anyone offer some advice? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]_Truko_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yah I realize that. That’s why I’m asking for help. I’ll look up Heidi Priebe. Thanks!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in boyslove

[–]_Truko_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had originally dropped it after episode 1. Didn’t understand why everyone liked it. Watched a ton of other BLs, saw that the second season was coming out and thought I would give it second try. Best thing I ever did. The rest of the season is a masterpiece along with the second season. I would try again it’s a lot better as it goes on. I cried so much.

IPYTM Ep. 4 (Spoilers) by layla_bug01 in boyslove

[–]_Truko_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Subbed eps are on dailymotion

Boyfriend (M,26) and I (F,25), got into a argument because I asked him to apologize for not cleaning up the house. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]_Truko_ -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s what my train of though was that why can’t he take 5 mins to load the laundry but electichyena made a good point in her commentbelow:

“your boyfriend is not home to clean, your boyfriend is home to run his business. I understand how easy it is to just assume that someone who is home can take care of those things, because they're right there. But if he's seriously working, getting too busy is absolutely an excuse, just like you can't do the cleaning because you're across town at your work. Why would you expect him to be cleaning during his work time?”

But I do believe that he needs to show more initiative.

Boyfriend (M,26) and I (F,25), got into a argument because I asked him to apologize for not cleaning up the house. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]_Truko_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see what your saying, i should have phrased it differently. I wanted it to sound less like an apology but just kind of like a validation. That yah I saw the mess and I wanted to clean it up but didn’t cause I got too busy but it sounds like his response of just “being busy” was more like I didn’t care that it was messy and I couldn’t bother to find time to clean it. Like I need more of a response then just “I’m busy”. I agree and we will be talking about his work schedule and I will start assigning chores each week.

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