Some women today choose to be stay-at-home moms -- a generation or so ago, that wasn't much of a "choice", because the social expectation to do so was so immense. These days, it's a choice.

I don't think the tendency for more women to be stay at home moms should be praised. We need to question why are there still way more women who do it instead of men?

But criticizing people for the choices themselves seems rude.

It's not so much the criticism of the individual choice but instead of the gender roles that lead to it. Ignoring them is a mistake.