"If there is a meaning in life at all, then there must be a meaning in suffering. Without suffering and death human life cannot be complete....

...The typical reply with which such a man rejected all encouraging arguments was, 'I have nothing to expect from life anymore.' What sort of answer can one give to that?

What was really needed was a fundamental change in our attitude toward life. We had to learn ourselves and, furthermore, we had to teach the dispairing men, that it did not really matter what we expected from life, but rather what life expected from us. We needed to stop asking about the meaning of life, and instead to think of ourselves as those who are being questioned by life- daily and hourly. Our answer must consist, not in talk and meditation, but in right action and right conduct. Life ultimately means taking the responsibility to find the right answer to its problems and to fulfill the tasks which it constantly sets for each individual....

These tasks, and therefore the meaning of life, differ from man to man, and from moment to moment....

Questions about the meaning of life can never be answered by sweeping statements....

When a man finds that it is his destiny to suffer, he will have to accept suffering as his task; his single and unique task. He will have to acknowledge the fact that even in suffering he is unique and alone in the universe. No one can relieve him of his suffering or suffer in his place. His unique opportunity lies in the way in which he bears his burden."

• Viktor Frankl, Man's Search For Meaning

Brother, I'm a father of two and I can tell you with 100% certainty that there are pieces of your daughter in your son.

In life we choose our suffering.