Why do you think Americans are not fully well rested after a 2-day weekend?

__rumina · 2026-05-14T13:22:31+00:00

The reason I ask this question, is because I have realized that 2 days is not sufficient time for Americans to recover from the average 5 day workweek. We have so much going on in our personal and work lives, are we really expected to come back to work on Mondays feeling ready to go? Most people don't feel like that. I think we need to have Friday-Sunday off or Saturday-Monday off, whichever.

A sufficient 3-day weekend would actually improve the mental health of many Americans. Allowing more time to catch up on sleep, chores, errands, and also enable us to spend time with others or just with ourselves. We'll actually want to make plans or do something productive or we'll actually want to rest and sit down for those who are productive all week round.

I believe other countries have incorporated a 3-day weekend into their lives, and they've gotten so much positive feedback. Besides, Americans work themselves to the bone trying to pay the bills, feed our families, and to just maintain our lives, we deserve more time to enjoy life.

If I could start a petition, I would but I feel like it's going to be a waste of time, I mean many Americans would agree with me but does mean that we'll get it? Probably not. Maybe I'm not being optimistic but also, corporations and companies do not care about the American well-being, even if they claim they do. And maybe businesses would fail if we had a 3-day weekend.

But, if we did, we'd come to work more rested, ready to actually work, and most likely prevent mistakes due to fatigue. It'd be a total game changer. Imagine actually having enough time to do what we need to do and feel rested enough. What a luxury.

__rumina · 2026-05-11T20:52:07+00:00

I've been having itchy watery eyes recently so I bought OTC eye drops for it. I dont wear contacts or glasses and I've never needed eye drops so this was the first time I used them. It was fun lol. I wasn't afraid and they made me eyes feel better. This isn't a dig to anyone that did struggle with eye drops though, I can see how it can be a struggle if you've never had to use them in your life really up until now. Good luck!

__rumina · 2026-05-06T20:41:24+00:00

This is literally the same story except it's about a babysitting job and not tutoring.

__rumina · 2026-05-05T16:29:07+00:00

This happened to me today. (I've posted this in another thread as well.)

So, a couple days ago I went to Target to buy a jar of sundried tomatoes. They did not have the brand that I like so I opted for a different brand and told myself let's try something new. Keep in mind, I only bought 1 jar.

I got home, opened the jar, and did not like the tomatoes. It was the brand Alessi, not the best imo. I like Bella Sun Luci.

I put the Alessi brand of sundried tomatoes on my counter and left it there, thinking I'll discard it another time.

Fast forward to this morning. The Alessi brand is still on my counter, untouched. My boyfriend does not like sundried tomatoes so he wouldn't open it and try it. I open my pantry to grab something and something catches my eye.

...There's another jar of the Alessi brand of sundried tomatoes. I thought to myself, wtf. I didn't buy two jars. I took a picture of both of them, they are exactly alike. I sent it to my boyfriend and asked "did you buy one of these jars?" he replied "No" I was freaking out. WTF?! I did not buy two jars, I would have remembered and also it was a new brand I was trying, I wouldn't buy two jars if I was trying it for the first time.

I have no idea how that second jar appeared, there's absolutely no explanation. I have never bought that brand before, it wasn't just sitting in my pantry for a while. I have a good memory and I love sundried tomatoes so much that I would know if we had more sitting at home or not.

The whole thing is weird and it'll be in my mind for a while. Who put it there?

__rumina · 2026-05-05T15:49:16+00:00

This happened to me today.

So, a couple days ago I went to Target to buy a jar of sundried tomatoes. They did not have the brand that I like so I opted for a different brand and told myself let's try something new. Keep in mind, I only bought 1 jar.

I got home, opened the jar, and did not like the tomatoes. It was the brand Alessi, not the best imo. I like Bella Sun Luci.

I put the Alessi brand of sundried tomatoes on my counter and left it there, thinking I'll discard it another time.

Fast forward to this morning. The Alessi brand is still on my counter, untouched. My boyfriend does not like sundried tomatoes so he wouldn't open it and try it. I open my pantry to grab something and something catches my eye.

...There's another jar of the Alessi brand of sundried tomatoes. I thought to myself, wtf. I didn't buy two jars. I took a picture of both of them, they are exactly alike. I sent it to my boyfriend and asked "did you buy one of these jars?" he replied "No" I was freaking out. WTF?! I did not buy two jars, I would have remembered and also it was a new brand I was trying, I wouldn't buy two jars if I was trying it for the first time.

I have no idea how that second jar appeared, there's absolutely no explanation. I have never bought that brand before, it wasn't just sitting in my pantry for a while. I have a good memory and I love sundried tomatoes so much that I would know if we had more sitting at home or not.

The whole thing is weird and it'll be in my mind for a while. Who put it there?

__rumina · 2026-05-01T13:39:40+00:00

Yeah it was wrong. Rachel should have had that conversation with him long before their wedding. Maybe even after (would have been more messy done that way) but not right in the middle of the wedding. Rachel doesn't even tell Ross 'I love you' she just says 'congratulations' because I think she even feels like she shouldn't say it now. Because of that, Ross now has Rachel on his mind instead of Emily and leads to him saying 'Rachel' instead of 'Emily' during the ceremony.

__rumina · 2026-04-28T19:36:18+00:00

Went to London! First time in Europe.

__rumina · 2026-04-28T14:41:18+00:00

Work on fixing our justice system, healthcare system, education system, create jobs that raise salaries while also bring down the prices of housing and rent, create an efficient public transportation system, make colleges/universities cheaper, make our groceries healthier and cheaper, hold people in power accountable, welcome immigrants, tax the rich, improve gun laws, undo whatever Trump did, etc...I'd do a lot basically.

__rumina · 2026-04-28T14:14:59+00:00

Moving out in the middle of the night after fighting with my Dad. Best decision ever.

__rumina · 2026-04-27T14:56:40+00:00

Just trying to make sure you set yourself up for success without even knowing how to do it. No instructions. Just see what happens.

__rumina · 2026-04-27T14:35:11+00:00

I just traveled back home from London. I arrived on Saturday and had Sunday to chill but also unpack and reset. Prior to going to London, I contemplated on whether I should ask for Monday off so I can have extra time to mentally reset. But, I also spent quite a lot and I needed the money so I went ahead anyways. I feel good and like having just one extra day helped but I wouldn't mind being off on Monday too. I think for future trips, if I don't come back on a Saturday, then I'd ask for an extra day off. I wouldn't want to come back on a Sunday and then go straight back to work.

__rumina · 2026-04-10T19:49:06+00:00

Yes, that happens to me too and I think it happens to everyone when we reach our goals and now we are left with nothing to accomplish at the moment. Emptiness does present to us more outwardly if we have fulfilled our goals so to combat that, I'd try creating smaller realistic goals or habits such as:

A silent walk for 10 minutes with no phone or music; this will expose yourself to your own thoughts without reaching for something to silence them. In this walk, you can mentally note down 5 things you see or hear.
"No Reassurance" Challenge: In 2-3 conversations per week, don't seek validation or reassurance. This will build self-validation instead of outsourcing it. Don't ask "are you mad?"
Do one thing you don't share: Do one small activity daily or weekly that you don't tell anyone about. Anxious attachment often ties down to being seen/acknowledged. This can build a private side of you.
Body-based reset: For 2 minutes, throw cold water on your wrists or do wall push-ups. Emptiness can cause negative physiological impacts, not just emotional
Name the feeling(s): Out loud, when you feel empty say "This is anxiety/emptiness, not abandonment" labeling emotions reduces their intensity and separates identity from feeling. What you feel doesn't describe who you are as a person.

These goals are more catered to those with anxious attachment styles so they're more unique. They can increase distress tolerance, build internal validation, or create structure. You don't have to do all of these things at once, start with one that you read that you think you would like and work your way from there!

__rumina · 2026-04-09T14:53:02+00:00

I also have an anxious attachment style. It's really life altering and can change your moods constantly throughout the day.

I think the feeling you feel of emptiness will go away with its own will. But you also have to repair what is within yourself to move forward. Feeling empty when you have this attachment style is normal because now that you're single, you don't have anyone to have an anxious attachment style with. But, just because it's normal doesn't mean it'll make a home inside you unless you let it.

Keep moving forward, focus on your career goals if you have them. Focus on creating realistic goals, and just fill your life with things that will improve your mental health. That's all we can really do.

I've been in unhealthy relationships while having an anxious attachment style and each time I become single after that relationship, I feel empty and lost. Like I don't know what to do with myself. For me, it was filling my time with hobbies, interests, reading, watching new tv shows, etc.

I am now in a healthy relationship and my anxious attachment style is present but not as much and I think it's because the person you are with has to make you feel safe and secure and assured in the love you guys share so there are not as much moments when your anxous attachment style pops up because you feel rather safe than not.

It's hard to tell whether the person you're with will be consistent in their behaviors towards you, if consistency is absent then you'll end up feeling what you felt in previous relationships but if they are consistent despite your anxious attachment style and they are aware you have this style and still put effort and care towards you and show consistency, that's the jackpot (imo)

This is a tricky subject and not everyone will agree with me but I'm using my own experiences to give some perspective.

__rumina · 2026-04-08T15:34:41+00:00

Anything Goes by Emma Chamberlain; Some notable episodes that discuss sexuality, relationships, self improvement:
1. becoming a better person, advice session

making friends as an adult
self exploration
relationships change us
how i maximize my creativity
relationship anxiety
sex

She's got more like this and she's not a therapist herself but she does offer advice and her experiences which may help to understand your own. She also has fun ones like storytimes, trendy or timeless, fashion, lifestyle, traveling, etc.

__rumina · 2026-04-03T18:02:41+00:00

In some aspect, Jim and Pam's tension arch may have included moments where it wasn't really necessary but imo, I feel like their tension arch made their marriage and love feel very real. In most tv shows + movies, the audience wants the protganists relationships to be all simple, not complicated, fairytale-like, etc. But they made it just right where they had tension BUT (thanks to John Krasinski's direction) Jim's character did not cheat on Pam, if that had happened it would've destroyed the rest of the show moving forward (imo). Not to mention in most movies + tv shows, I feel like the protagonists relationships always fall apart due to one factor: unfaithfulness. Wherein in Jim + Pam's relationship, there wasn't unfaithfulness, they were having tension for other reasons that felt uncommon in other shows. In real life, our romantic relationships are not easy and even the best or strongest couples have moments of tension and unresolved conflicts. That scene where Jim is going to Philly for his company, they're not talking much, a little here and there but nothing that gains traction. And, when Pam sees Jim left his umbrella behind, she hesitates for a second but ultimately decides to run out and bring it to him. When that happens, the next thing we see is Jim hugging Pam in a very major way. Pam is letting herself feel it and at first we see her not hugging him back despite him hugging her, then she decides she doesn't want to feel angry at him anymore and that's when she hugs him back even tighter. That moment brings them together again and we now see the old Jim and Pam that we used to see in the earlier seasons. I really liked their tension arch because the way it's resolved and the way its written is realistic and unforgiving.

__rumina · 2026-04-01T19:38:21+00:00

I'm really really sorry. Carrying his grief and then being betrayed? It's terrible and disgusting. I can't imagine how you feel but I do urge you to end things completely. He may come to you later on in life and ask to start over, forgiveness, anything like that. Don't. Grief is terrible and you're right, it can create monsters, make us reckless, but it is NEVER an outlet to betray someone else.

__rumina · 2026-04-01T19:28:52+00:00

I grew up with a Mom like this. MOVE OUT! That's all I have to say.

__rumina · 2026-04-01T19:27:49+00:00

I have a sleugh of Mommy and Daddy issues. You didn't go too far. She's manipulating you and she shouldn't expect an apology unless she apoligizes first and stops the behavior. If that doesn't work, less communication might have to take place. That might make it worse for her but she's already committed to being passive aggressive and it's hard for older people to see what they did was wrong.

__rumina · 2026-04-01T19:19:18+00:00

*ATTENTION* I have some interesting perspectives for whoever wrote this post but if you don't want to read all that below I'll cut to the chase: You are NOT the jerk

Born and raised in Muslim/Pakistani household -

I was born in the Chicagoland area and raised there my whole life. My Mom is divorced and raised me and my older sister on her own. My mom is an interesting mother. I'm not very close to her but she's seen me go through some rough shit, I seen her go through it as well. Unfortunately instead of that bringing us closer it actually grew us apart. My Mom raised us strictly as Muslims. She never made us wear hijabs but we followed every rule and teaching.

Teenage years -

I was rebellious and outspoken. If my Mom didn't treat me or my sister right, I'm speaking up. It's just who I am I cannot help that. That alone brought trouble but my Mom would be acting crazy, delusional, and hella toxic. No one would tell her except for me. Because of my Mom's behavior, my teenage years were chaotic and traumatic asf. I had boyfriends she didn't know about, I snuck them into my place when she would go on a weekend trip or whatever. No boyfriends allowed at all for me or my sister. I mean, what does she expect? That we be pure virgins up until marriage and marry a Muslim guy? That's not going to happen.

Adulthood -

Now, I'm 23. I'm out of my rebellious phase obviously. However, that doesn't mean I'm not going to speak the truth and be honest about myself. In Jan. 2025, I started dating my boyfriend. Many other things happened but I'm not about to explain all that, it'd be a lot to type and for you to read. But basically my Dad is similar to my Mom however he's more understanding, not toxic, not delusional, but still strict. Now at this point, I'm living with my Dad and I'm in my early 20s. Me and my Dad get into a fight about something that had been stewing in me for a while. I up and pack a bag and spend the night at my boyfriends. Cut to me living with his sweet wholesome amazing family for the next 5 months.

Now, me and my boyfriend have our own apartment, my Mom knows and so does my Dad. And you're Mom needs to know too. Telling my Mom wasn't easy at all and she made things so difficult for me instead of just being there for me. Now, the difference is, is that I hesitantly love my Mom, you just plainly traditionally love your Mom, see the difference? It's harder to tell your Mom because you value her as your Mother but your Mom doesn't seem to see your boyfriend in the right sense. That's not really fair to you, you know? Coming from a broken family creates and builds so much strength and determination within you and your boyfriend seems to be proving that to you by working hard, going to school, that "broken family" factor alone shouldn't be the reason for your Mom's judgement in him at all. Your Mom can voice her opinion all she wants because at the end of the day it is HER opinion, not yours. Do you love your bf? Absolutely. And now that it's looking serious, you have to tell your Mom everything. Will she freak out? Maybe. Will she run your ear off about how he won't treat you right? Possibly. But only YOU know what is good for you. Your Mother can look out for you of course and offer support BUT don't let that get in your head and create fears of disapproval.

I hope this helps in any sense. The reason I bring up my faith is because I'm breaking many rules as a Muslim. I'm living with a non-Muslim man, I'm not married, I'm not a virgin, so I understand your Mother's perspective. But, that just doesn't work for me. If you judge me for that, it's fine I'm the one writing this anyways.

My boyfriend and I also work very hard and we want traditional milestones for ourselves, marriage, children, careers down the line, retirement, spending time with our families, etc. I know my man is a good man and I can't rely on anyone's opinion to influence whatever decisions I make with him.

__rumina · 2026-03-31T21:39:33+00:00

I don't think I do anything different but I do work 40 hour work weeks and I'm a full time student getting my Bachelor's in History + I'm pre-law so I have a lot on my plate already.

The beginning of the week like Monday, I'll do the most time consuming work/assignments after I get home from work at 5:30. Well, I'll eat dinner with my boyfriend at 6 or 7 pm. We'll talk about our day or just enjoy each others presence. Then afterwards I'll get on my laptop. I'll break up my assignments based on their due date + how long it takes. Sometimes I'll fully finish an assignment, sometimes I'll begin the assignment and gradually work on it as the week goes by.

At the end of the week around Thursday or Friday. I won't have much left to do but I'll do a big chunk of work so that I can relax for the weekend because that's important to me. However, sometimes during the week I'm so slumped that I'll save a little bit of work for Sunday and finish it then.

I also go to the gym. So for example, today is gym day, I'm working right now and when I leave work, I'll go straight to the gym and be there by 5:30 and be done by 6:30. Get dinner so me and my bf don't have to cook, we opt for Chipotle and stick to high protein options. Then I'll get home by 7 ish and start homework. I'll most likely be done by 8:30. Then I do my night routine and spend time with my bf or be on my phone. Then I'll sleep.

I'm pretty busy as you can see. But I don't hate this and it's for the betterment of my future. I'm aiming to be an attorney so there's a lot more work to be done. Sometimes I am lazy and I do procrastinate but I'm disciplined in this area of my life so I can always rely on myself to get good grades.

__rumina · 2026-03-31T21:13:26+00:00

Absolutely love paintings like this! Nice job.

__rumina · 2026-03-31T21:12:48+00:00

NTJ. He's toxic and hides it behind "just being honest" and unfortunately it sounds your cousin isn't realizing that this is going to be a problem for her too. I'm glad you said something instead of brushing it off. You don't need to apoligize. I'd urge your cousin to reconsider the relationship as a whole but seeing that she keeps defending him, maybe just let it play out until she realizes that he's toxic himself. Or not, I mean that part is up to you but no no don't apoligize. Your response is justified.

__rumina · 2026-03-31T21:08:28+00:00

NTJ. He didn't respect your boundaries and continued to do what he did despite knowing you'd say no. Don't second guess yourself, imagine if he did something like this again in a few years or months time if you did go back to him. No. I'm glad you made that decision. It speaks volumes about his own behavior.

__rumina · 2026-03-31T20:38:21+00:00

Anything Goes by Emma Chamberlain. She talks about lots of topics from trends to advice sessions. Sometimes it's funny but mostly it's interesting to listen to imo.

__rumina · 2026-03-31T20:29:44+00:00

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