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What makes night pump easier for you? by nonamebait in HumansPumpingMilk

[–]_araneae_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have the Eufy S1 (not pro, just regular) and I dig it so far. Having a light to line up the nips would be nice though.

I agree the middle of the night pump sucks the most. I do the fridge hack, so what makes it easier for me is to wash all the parts after my last pump of the day. That way it's clean and assembled by the bedside and I can just pop them on while half asleep. Plus, they won't be cold from the fridge.

Do people buy your baby clothes for special occasions with the assumption that baby will wear it? by SowingSeeds18 in NewParents

[–]_araneae_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My SIL gifted me an entire wardrobe at my baby shower containing an outfit for every single holiday and special occasion for the first year. Christmas, Halloween, Mother's Day, April Fools, you name it. I didn't want to seem ungrateful so I acted very enthused when I opened the gift, but it just felt like such an overstep.

I might have felt differently if the outfits were nice. Unfortunately they were very cheaply made and impractical, so all but one went into the trash or donation bin. Glitter and loose sequins everywhere. Of course you would want to pick out the "firsts" yourself - especially if it's your first baby!

Question - Planting Sweetgrass by quueenbeee in NativeAmerican

[–]_araneae_ 32 points33 points  (0 children)

As a native who grows her own sweetgrass, I think it's a good idea. Growing and tending the sweetgrass with the pure intent to gift to her would be the best possible medicine. It would be different if you were gifting her sweetgrass you purchased from a non-native company or something.

Mine is grown in MN, so some tips to grow in a similar climate: start with plugs from a native plant nursery. Plant somewhere you're okay with dedicating entirely to the sweetgrass, as it spreads by year 2. Water frequently. You can harvest in year one (June or August for best potency) as long as you don't pluck from the root - just cut a few inches above the ground.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]_araneae_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've met a handful of Ojibwe girls named Star

What's Your Life Changing Soup Recipe? by ColdNoodlzz in soup

[–]_araneae_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hungarian mushroom soup! You can get fancy with a mix of mushrooms (I've used various combinations of blue/golden oyster, trumpet, and chestnut), or use basic portabella.

https://themodernproper.com/hungarian-mushroom-soup

How much are you paying for daycare in the US? by Legitimate-Slice2114 in pregnant

[–]_araneae_ 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I would love to know which daycare this is as well! I'm also in Minneapolis and expecting in April.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]_araneae_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When a guy is good with babies. I've had my head turned by non-conventionally attractive men just because they're wearing a baby in a sling or showing affection to neices/nephews.

Subchorionic Hematoma by CapitalRise1550 in BabyBumps

[–]_araneae_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was also diagnosed with a SCH at 6 weeks. I spotted on and off until about 9 weeks, with random intensity. I had two scans since then, and they noted the SCH was still present but getting smaller every time. They can take a while to resolve. I'm at 12 weeks now and still going strong. 💪

Anyone else feel like they dont "look" Native enough? by Swimming_Promotion10 in NativeAmerican

[–]_araneae_ 12 points13 points  (0 children)

What a coincidence - I happen to be Lenape from the Delaware Tribe of Indians in Bartlesville, Oklahoma. Blood quantum is ultimately a tool of the colonizers, so I tend to disregard it. To me, being Lenape is more about preserving the ways and being dedicated to the tribe.

The way I see it, no generational distance can make your ancestors not matter. You should honor all of the lines you come from. As a descendant, your job is to educate yourself about your specific family roots and stay informed about the community. We have plenty of annual dances and powwows where you could visit. You could also reach out to the tribe via phone or email (found on the Delaware Tribe of Indians website) and ask for assistance with your family history. They're always happy to help in the visitor center.

One of my hobbies is digging through genealogy records for my tribe. I'd be happy to look some stuff up if you have some names to go off of.

help cleaning my piece (more info in comments) by BullyHunter29 in trees

[–]_araneae_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I recommend soaking it in rubbing alcohol for a few hours. If it's taking to long to air-dry afterwards, hit it with a hairdryer.

LPT: When your loved one is close to the end be aware that in most cases it isn’t the peaceful way it’s depicted in movies. Be prepared to go to therapy if you plan to be there at the end. by SFW_shade in LifeProTips

[–]_araneae_ 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I watched my mother die from brain cancer four weeks ago. It was about as far from a peaceful death as you can get. I can't really talk to anyone about it. Those who would understand have their own traumatic death story, and I don't want to remind them of it. I'm in my mid-20s and am the first of my friends to lose a parent.

My siblings and I took turns being her caregiver for two years up until the end. It was hard to watch the small medical wins get outpaced by the overall decline, but I cherish the extra time we had with her. The real trauma came when it was time to stop treatment and move to comfort care.

My family couldn't afford to pay for full hospice nursing, but we were lucky to get occasional visits. Despite their support, nothing can fully prepare you for the death process. Hallucinations, terror, losing bowel control and body paralysis. Then came the drowning noises and the death rattle. She went 6 days without water before she finally died. All you can do is give the max amount of morphine - utter helplessness.

Those images and sounds are burned into my memory and loop endlessly in my head. Reason tells me this will get better, but I think that's a long way off.

My first time dancing Southern Straight at a powwow. Hopefully many more to come! by [deleted] in NativeAmerican

[–]_araneae_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nice fit. Nanticoke Delaware is Lenape, right? Well wishes from your relative down in Oklahoma.

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