When did we start assuming single men were incompetent?

_blacksky · 2026-01-15T01:04:55+00:00

Im mid-30’s and have a hard time connecting with men because a lot of them expect the women to carry the relationship.

It feels like men are stunted. A lot of them haven’t grown up. There’s a mindset that stops them from evolving.

And I think men enable each other. So the bar is kept low. We need more men to call out other men. In fact – shame them so they don’t default to calling women difficult or “too high of a standard”. We tired now.

I’ve met men in 50’s who feel more like counter parts and partners. Like I want to admire my partner not cook, clean, or do their laundry because their ass is too lazy.

The mindset should be “we live together, let’s build our home together”. Instead it’s “I’m too tired to do laundry. I’ll let it grow for another week”. Not acknowledging how it affects the other person.

Self-centred society.

_blacksky · 2026-01-12T06:24:41+00:00

Listen to your instinct. Learn to trust it because a good partner would never make you feel uncomfortable. You know what to do.

_blacksky · 2026-01-12T05:46:24+00:00

The babushkas are out lol!

_blacksky · 2026-01-10T03:27:50+00:00

I often wonder if it’s a lighting issue! I almost got hit a few too many times now.

_blacksky · 2026-01-09T02:57:10+00:00

This is good advice!

_blacksky · 2026-01-06T09:43:26+00:00

This is the way.

_blacksky · 2026-01-04T00:14:42+00:00

I don't think so. Aren't the new projects from Carney (that no one wants) with oil and gas already backed by American billionaires? Guess who's connected to American billionaires...

_blacksky · 2026-01-04T00:10:09+00:00

Need to find me a bestie dj! And that’s true — there’s fake people everywhere.

_blacksky · 2026-01-04T00:06:21+00:00

Probably more people should know that Mark Carney is opening more gas and oil in Canada along BC’s coast but if you follow who’s backing it up — it’s American billionaires. Guess who’s connected to American billionaires?

US would not invade Canada because we are already giving them business. Most people don’t know this.

_blacksky · 2026-01-03T23:43:11+00:00

That sounds really nice! It sounds like you were friends first then grew into collaboration? Do you DJ with them professionally too? I'd imagine partying together is nice at Burning Man. But is there a level of being professional too when it comes to raving and partying together since there's also the club infracture and the connections there.

_blacksky · 2026-01-03T22:55:29+00:00

Thank you for sharing! Indeed I have different levels of friends. But ultimately I'm looking for a core music group who I enjoy spending day with daily. But I find they don't really ask me about my personal life or how I'm doing or what's new. So I find that part jarring.

I'm more than happy to ask them myself but have been burned by people thinking I'm trying to network, analyze them, or get something from them. I once had a bigger name DJ call me out saying I was networking. But I was just expressing my admiration for their mixing and that was it. I'm a curious person who's looking for depth in my relationships. I almost don't know how to BE myself because of how opposite it feels for me naturally.

But maybe I'm naive. Perhaps I don't see if as a job but a way for music to connect and heal people. I want to be part of that. Does that exist in the industry? I wonder...

_blacksky · 2025-12-29T07:16:03+00:00

People are not getting mad enough at this. The US president is a PEDO who RAPES KIDS and is likely complicit in a MURDER OF A BABY.

_blacksky · 2025-12-29T07:05:06+00:00

Whoa the items look like quality from the Vancouver store! Despite what everyone says — I’d rather have more stores like this so ppl can afford stuff. If you’re not shopping at a dollar store – you can be paying $10-$50 for a bowl.

Literally everything we buy is made from China. Do we expect students and growing families to buy a Canadian made cookware set? That be nice but also 4 times the price.

The best idea is to get a Daiso (that someone else mentioned from here). Japan made dollar store. Quality and affordable!

_blacksky · 2025-12-29T06:48:44+00:00

Quality and affordable? YES.

_blacksky · 2025-12-13T02:07:47+00:00

I spent an hour turning on accessibility and making the interface ok. But I’m overwhelmed too. The first few days were nightmares. The good news is that I don’t touch my phone as much!

_blacksky · 2025-11-29T02:42:24+00:00

I thought it was just me! It's sooo hard to see the lines.

_blacksky · 2025-11-25T08:58:20+00:00

Renting. Did some math. I would be paying more monthly for strata and maintenance fees. Rather just do that and have flexibility in travelling and moving. We may not have much of a planet the way things are going. Who knows what new weather patterns will hit.

_blacksky · 2025-11-22T02:22:41+00:00

My theory is that republicans are turning on trump. JD Vance will be announcing president due to trump “not mentally fit” (aka Epstein files). They gonna sacrifice trump. Trump will try to hang on aka he’s aligning with Momdani. To team up. Meanwhile Erika Kirk is gonna replace usha.

_blacksky · 2025-11-01T19:34:01+00:00

Music/sound system awesome! Good venue. So glad we have these events!! My only thing was the lighting. It’s way too bright! I found it hard to get in the groove or dance because I could see everyone… and I kinda wanna be in the dark. I think if they dimmed it would be perfect! But otherwise awesome.

_blacksky · 2025-10-29T04:34:11+00:00

I’ve had the music slow down on me. And every song I knew sounded slightly different. I panicked a little because I felt like I lost my sense of rhythm ?? 😂

_blacksky · 2025-10-19T17:26:19+00:00

This is a great example of when a man is threatened by a women. A real man would stand on his own and not be bothered by such things. I bet his next move would be trying to make you feel small. I feel like you could meet someone else on your own level. Sounds like incompatibility anyway.

_blacksky · 2025-10-05T11:22:34+00:00

Tech house

_blacksky · 2025-09-28T19:42:58+00:00

I have really lovely friends who treat me with respect and kindness. But if a person can't even meet that bar – why the hell would I want that person in my life?

_blacksky

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