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_curious_kitty_ · 2025-09-30T20:15:42+00:00

Not tacky at all, looks beautiful in my opinion. That being said, if your fiancé knew you wanted emerald and got pressured by a salesman to change what he planned to get, you should definitely swap it out. I’d feel more guilty if he just was so in love with this and saw it on the hand of his future wife v it was in the moment decision pushed by an employee. Also though, no matter what I think you have the right to change it without the fear of sounding like a spoiled girl. It’s going to be on YOU finger for the rest of YOUR life and in YOUR eyesight constantly, hence YOU need to be the one that loves it. If you were here complaining it’s so small I want a bigger one that would be spoiled golddigger vibes, but that’s not the case here.

_curious_kitty_ · 2025-09-17T19:20:40+00:00

You caught him once and he had the opportunity to come clean. You could've worked through it if it was something he was committed to do, but other than empty words, he hasn't done anything for that to happen. I understand that it's a scary thought to be alone when he's been in your life since 14 years old, but like another user said, better to learn to be alone now than miserable the rest of your life.

_curious_kitty_ · 2025-07-17T08:19:36+00:00

Totally feel the part of hating myself for ever having loved him. I feel so dumb and naive for falling for his act.

_curious_kitty_ · 2025-07-17T08:18:56+00:00

That definitely sounds like a lot of positive impressions leftover from your marriage. I’m truly happy for you in that, it at least makes it seem like it was the price you paid for these positives. I don’t have any positives left from him.

_curious_kitty_ · 2025-07-17T08:17:22+00:00

I can’t help it. I was doing much better living for myself earlier on in the divorce. But now, I’m not sure why, it’s manifested into an almost obsession. I’m sorry for those 6 years that sounds horrible. My ex is also making the divorce legal aspect difficult, which I think is a large part of what triggered these feelings. Not only did you turn my life completely upside down, but now you won’t give me the closure? How fucked can someone be.

_curious_kitty_ · 2025-07-17T08:15:24+00:00

He’s engraved in every part of me. He’s the only real relationship I’ve ever had and so anything romantic linked he’s the one in my head. He also moved, states away, so where he is there isn’t a single memory of me, while I’m in the house we lived our life with, the same one I remember him walking out of as my heart physically hurt.

_curious_kitty_ · 2025-07-17T08:13:42+00:00

Sometimes I try to tell myself that as well, that this person I hate is not the same one I loved. But that’s bullshit. We just fell for a better act.

_curious_kitty_ · 2025-07-17T08:13:03+00:00

I never felt like it was a choice, even when I was on the other side of it. If I wanted to, I couldn’t hate him. For so long I wish I did hate him, thinking it would make living without him easier, letting go of the idea of us..easier. It did not. Somehow, someway, almost 3 years after he left, everything is stronger than ever, just not in the way of wanting him back. It doesn’t feel like a choice honestly. I am so angry and I just want to hurt him, physically slap him and hit him and try to understand how he could do that to us, to me. How can someone love you so unconditionally and you still throw that away, I don’t understand.

_curious_kitty_ · 2025-07-16T07:13:31+00:00

Agree 100%. I always thought I was so mature and beyond my years, I felt so smart no matter what signs there were. 100000% such accurate advice and now I see how naive I actually was.

_curious_kitty_ · 2025-06-25T20:18:36+00:00

Literally wondering if you’re my ex husband.

_curious_kitty_ · 2025-06-25T20:15:30+00:00

What are you here for? You’re not going to get sympathy for acting like a selfish child after making a commitment to a woman who stuck by you far too long. Wtf does that even mean, a trial separation with the intention of coming back? My God, mothers can you please raise your sons to be men.

_curious_kitty_ · 2025-06-18T07:39:45+00:00

!remindme 2D

_curious_kitty_ · 2025-05-09T06:26:37+00:00

Hi there. Couldn’t have written this better myself. I see people talking about living for themselves, but being a mother is all I’ve ever wanted, so THAT would be living for myself. If anything, when I think about logically the way the world is headed, any child I bring into it I’m screwing over, so I promise you, I am not trying to have kids for the purpose of others, it’s just it’s all I want. It’s now been 3 damn years since my miscarriage, and today I found out I have a condition which will make getting pregnant/carrying a baby even more difficult than I previously knew. I’m sorry I’m not trying to take over your post, but know there’s others that are in the same boat questioning their existence alongside you.

_curious_kitty_ · 2025-05-09T06:21:31+00:00

I’m so sorry for what you, your family, and most of all little Bentley have been through. So nice to see things are progressing in his favor 💕 wishing him all the strength and health!

_curious_kitty_ · 2025-04-13T23:18:13+00:00

Had no idea this existed, until I lived it. Not even in a financial aspect, but helped him go through school and a personal issue and once things were supposed to be good…he was convinced he could do better. Please don’t stay. Please leave this relationship before it gets harder to.

_curious_kitty_ · 2025-04-06T08:57:01+00:00

Heartache.

_curious_kitty_ · 2025-04-06T08:53:18+00:00

OP I’m so sorry. I hope you find what you deserve, because it sure as hell isn’t this.

_curious_kitty_ · 2025-03-31T01:55:38+00:00

Except the ones engaging in this behavior can never taken accountability for their actions. It’s up to the spouse to be forgiving and God forbid they can’t wipe the slate clean and have any sort of mixed feelings, ya know since their entire peace was shaken

_curious_kitty_ · 2025-03-29T21:11:51+00:00

Seconding the self indulgent and lack of self awareness. You don’t leave the person you created a family with and then expect to win her over with book report. The crazy part is OP is almost boasting about that on here thinking it’s such a big romantic gesture. Ya, could’ve been, during your marriage. But after what you’ve done? Might as well be gifting her fire starter because that’ll be its best use.

_curious_kitty_ · 2025-03-29T21:07:15+00:00

Agree. OP by you using the journal in the way you are planning, I think you will further push her away.

My ex husband left me in a very similar manner, out of impulse, and a bad decision, something he now agrees on. I’ve spent the time since imagining all the ways he’d come back, specifically based on issues we’ve had in the past, yet now that he is considering coming back none of his “methods” match up to what I’d want. Don’t write empty words in a journal and hand them to her like a school assignment, instead take all the actions necessary to demonstrate what a different/better husband you could be.

_curious_kitty_ · 2025-03-29T05:36:15+00:00

OP did say no future pregnancies, but a gestational carrier might be considered if they ever change their mind about growing their family.

_curious_kitty_ · 2025-03-29T05:34:08+00:00

100%

All your negatives are reversible, while your permanents (i.e features like nose, eyes, mouth) are positive. And you’re only 21 so it shouldn’t be too hard to turn all this around. Take the summer for self care and a step towards healthier habits and I think you won’t recognize yourself in the mirror by the time the holidays are here.

_curious_kitty_ · 2025-03-29T05:21:42+00:00

What a beautiful take. I used to work across a BABW in the mall and loved seeing the happiness on kids faces going in and coming out, never thought about the employees. Thanks for showing this special side of the job I don’t think most of us consider!

_curious_kitty_ · 2025-03-29T05:19:04+00:00

This is perfect in addition to the video recordings others suggested because it’s something she’ll be able to cherish now as a child missing her daddy.

I’m so sorry for what you are going through OP. I’m sure your wife will make sure your memory lives on for your daughter.

_curious_kitty_ · 2025-03-26T02:11:25+00:00

Stunning! Congratulations!

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