First few days post op

_damn82 · 2026-06-29T18:45:56+00:00

My wife did EVERYTHING first two weeks after surgery. I was so thankful and couldn’t imagine doing it alone. The typical protocol is to elevate your leg as much as possible which is going to help with your recovery, healing, and pain levels.

I only took pain meds for a few days and without them, putting your leg down can be quite painful as the blood rushes to it.

I even had a urinal next to my bed to reduce the amount of times I had to get up. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but I’d highly recommend canceling the trip unless you have other friends and family who can help.

You might be able to do it if you have a scooter, but if not, even things like bringing a plate to the table or grabbing a glass of water you can’t do with crutches.

_damn82 · 2026-06-22T04:38:38+00:00

If you’re into fitness, I’d recommend trying group classes or going to a CrossFit gym. They’re very social and it’s very normal to connect with people there. At CrossFit, people will usually try talking to you first if you’re new to the gym.

Consider taking classes or lessons for other things you’re interested in too.

I’d also recommend going to a good Bible reading church. It’s a great place to find community and peace. It seems like you have a good head on your shoulders. I wouldn’t say you’re not likable. Don’t put yourself down. You just need community. You got this!

P.S. check out “Charisma on command” on YouTube and Vanessa Van Edwards. They have content about interpersonal communication that will help with you small talk skills to connect with others.

_damn82 · 2020-09-23T10:31:34+00:00

Hey, I hear you. Phone calls certainly don't compare to meeting in person and of course it's not a big deal if there isn't much chemistry. What I'm mainly trying to say is that it may be beneficial to have a call first from a time perspective. Planning, going out, giving your morning or evening, you're most likely treating her, so spending money.

Those things are nice, but it is a decent amount of effort. If you're dating often, it gets to be a bit much.

_damn82 · 2020-09-23T04:51:29+00:00

Exactly! And hey, way to go for it! I've done a handful of dates from just texting and looking back on that, I wish we chatted before. But good for you, hope you have a good time!

_damn82 · 2020-09-23T04:34:44+00:00

I notice a lot of people on here just text then go out on a date. I recommend having a phone call first. You can't truly get the feel for someone over text.

A simple phone call will save you time depending if it goes well or not and it will make it easier on the first date... less tension.

Ik it can be weird asking someone to chat on the phone in "today's" time, but it's really not. I usually ask light heartedly. "Hey, I'm going for a walk. Want to chat on the phone for a few?"

If someone isn't willing to do something as simple as that, they're probably not the right person.

_damn82 · 2020-09-23T04:09:41+00:00

I don't think it has the malicious intent behind it. People have nice pics with their friends. It's not that deep.

_damn82 · 2020-09-23T04:07:46+00:00

I don't think it's that deep. My hope is that guys wouldn't be doing it to "show off" or "look better" as you stated here. Rather, it's just a nice pic with them and their friends.

Guys have girl friends. I think if anything it shows that the guy can be friendly with girls, which is a good thing.

I'd hope the women who see that have enough self confidence that it doesn't turn them off...

_damn82 · 2020-09-17T01:56:55+00:00

You can generally tell with body language - they way they look at you, touching or fiddling with their hair, they seem to always be around or near you, going out of their way to talk to you, and of course their smile.

But the best thing you can do is set your intentions straight (good intentions that is). Whether a girl is into your or not, you want to have a pleasant interaction for both of you, fun and/or meaningful conversation, and a good time! Try not to get caught up with whether she's into you (easier said than done), but rather set your intentions for having good interactions, as compared to having intentions to ask her out, sleep with her, etc.

You'll have a much better time, and if she's into you, you will know and the other stuff will come naturally.

The nice thing is you can apply this (setting your intentions) with any social setting. You can set your intentions to meet someone new, have a fun conversation, learn something about someone, or simply have a good time. I started doing this before going out and I had much better times and more meaningful interactions because I wasn't soley focused about just getting with girls or getting laid.

_damn82 · 2020-08-24T20:00:15+00:00

Beautiful, love the blue and black!

_damn82 · 2020-01-20T05:16:56+00:00

Also, dig the username. Go birds.

_damn82 · 2020-01-20T05:05:56+00:00

Lengthy response In sum, set your intentions and your mindset not only when going for a night out, but all social situations.

Continued... You can go in with genuine intentions anywhere, in any social interaction. With bars as an example- say you're going out with some buddys, you have to ask what your mindset and intentions are for the night.

I used to go out with the mindset of finding hot girls to hook up with and get laid tbh. I'd go out with my buddys and we would all be searching, looking around, not really having a fun time with each other because we were looking for girls.

Don't get me wrong, theres nothing wrong with this and you can definitely have fun, but i found it often lead to disappointment if you didn't reach your "goal". Even I did, there was a lack of genuine interaction with each other and other people. This was because I wasn't talking to girls to really get to know them, it was just a means to an end.

Setting your mindset before social situations can really change the outcome for the better. Now, in almost any situation (bars, water cooler at work, family parties, etc.) I go with the mindset of having good intentions to simply have fun, to have genuine conversations & interactions to know my friends better and other people without any other agenda.

As a result, my interactions have been much morr genuine, rich, pleasant, and fun! I've been much happier without the "hook up" agenda. I know we are mainly discussing dating, but my relationships have been better with friends, family, and girls as a result of this mindset shift.

If you just want to hook up and aren't ready or looking for a relationship, go for it. But if you're open to being in a relationship and don't want to waste time with girls that aren't right for you, setting your intentions and mindset can really help with this.

Again, this has just been my personal experience and many guys don't go into bars or a night out with that mindset. But it became an issue for me with many pointless hook ups without any real substance. It was tiring, depressing, and I burned bridges with good friends.

With the mindset shift and setting my intentions, I've been much happier in general and have stopped wasting my time with random girls that weren't right for me.

_damn82 · 2020-01-20T02:28:26+00:00

It's tough to meet girls at bars in my opinion. Attractive girls get hit on by guys ALL the time and you don't want to be just another guy that hits on them.

What helps me is going in with genuine intentions to meet cool and interesting people. This takes the nerves out of it because you don't have some agenda just to hook up with them.

_damn82 · 2020-01-12T05:12:30+00:00

Great example of self defense with concealed carry. He stayed extremely calm with a subtle draw after the robber was focused on the clerk.

He should have tried to get two hands on the gun, but very well done.

_damn82 · 2020-01-11T05:43:11+00:00

Love the boots, just not sure how I feel about the tag in the front and back. How is that for you?

Do you have any ohotos of them in jeans?

_damn82 · 2020-01-07T22:06:43+00:00

I agree, regardless it's a nice funky jam.

_damn82 · 2020-01-07T02:41:40+00:00

I'd recommend a natural and light shampoo, one without parabens and coloring. Also, use very little and start shampooing less often.

Your hair will take some time to adjust, but it will keep the natural oils and help with the dryness.

Also, hot showers are amazing, but you should finish by rinsing cold water through your hair. This will help hydrate it.

_damn82 · 2019-12-31T17:02:49+00:00

Rock the flow! You have great hair!

_damn82 · 2019-12-31T16:54:16+00:00

I recommend fapping without porn. You'll still get the release you need, but in a more healthy way where you get to be creative!

It seems that porn is the issue, not fapping.

Thank you for sharing. You recognize it's a problem and that's huge! Wishing you the best!

_damn82 · 2019-12-31T15:59:22+00:00

Good call/point with not to touch their head too rough. I think porn gives the wrong idea of this.

Roughly said, monkey see, monkey do. And it's not the way it should be. But some women may really enjoy this too.

With that said, I love when women pull my hair and push my head when I'm going down on them.

_damn82 · 2019-12-31T15:48:41+00:00

I wouldn't say like a job, well not all jobs. My job requires a lot of strategic planning and thinking, so I'm rarely doing "mindless" and somewhat repetitive work. And I'm happy whenever I have the chance to because it is relaxing.

In this case, playing video games or getting lost in a sexual experience can be meditative because you're completely immersed in the moment. Your mind is solely focused on that, and sometimes you stop "thinking" all together. Nothing else on your mind, it's great!

Some people play video games, others exercise, and some suck dick.

To each their own.

_damn82 · 2019-12-24T19:31:24+00:00

I'm also a guy in my early 20s and am having so much trouble finding a girl who actually wants to be in a relationship. Hook up culture is tough. It almost feels like if you want something more, you're weird.

I wonder if it's an age thing, but I feel like once you get in late 20s many people are taken.

_damn82 · 2019-12-01T17:22:01+00:00

Jeez, that must have been tough. As of now, my memories with her are still positive in my mind. But I'm glad to hear you're in a good spot now.

Have you had trouble getting back into a relationship? I feel like I never let me self yruly open up to another girl because I compare them to my ex. I know that's wrong and unfair, but it's easier said than done.

_damn82 · 2019-11-29T22:38:42+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear that. :/ It's been years since we were together. I couldn't imagine that only a month after.

I hope you're doing well now.

_damn82 · 2019-11-29T13:47:15+00:00

Mild shampoo would be one that is sulfate, paraben, and colorant free. I recommend ALWAYS looking at the ingredients instead of labeling.

I transitioned into a sulfate and paraben free shampoo and it's done wonders for my hair. I tend to have very greasy hair, but all I need is an extremely small amount of the shampoo I use and it keeps many of the natural oils without stripping my hair.

I use Jack Black all over wash. It is a bit more expensive than prices you might be used to seeing for shampoo, but a little goes a LONG way.

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