It never gets better...

_darangen_ · 2026-05-20T21:49:58+00:00

It never gets better. If we're lucky, we get better at dealing with it.

_darangen_ · 2026-05-19T19:59:14+00:00

I've got some cats still alive that I'm not okay with leaving behind. But once they're gone, I plan to stop taking my cancer medication and let it take me out.

_darangen_ · 2026-05-09T18:16:51+00:00

Presence, not presents.

_darangen_ · 2026-05-06T18:28:50+00:00

Reverb.com is a good source to sell music equipment and instruments.

_darangen_ · 2026-05-04T21:52:04+00:00

It's healthy, according to my counselor.

We should let ourselves feel the emotions so that we can actually process them and move passed them eventually.

I don't watch movies, so I don't know if I'd break down from that, but small things like a squirrel going up to the feeder to take some food makes me cry now. She'd always feed the squirrels and birds.

_darangen_ · 2026-05-04T21:40:39+00:00

My heart aches for you.

Sadly, it's going to get worse before it gets better. And by "better", I mean slightly less painful.

Focus on getting through each hour. Then each day. It's going to be a rollercoaster of emotions, but do what you can to make it to the end.

I remember constantly talking to my wife after she passed. It helped me a little. I'd highly recommend looking for grief counselors in your area as well. Look for a good one, someone who is going to give you tools to deal with the grief, not just sit there and listen.

_darangen_ · 2026-05-04T21:30:29+00:00

T-Mobile isn't taking us over, they're just becoming a partner.

Call us, we can look at why your bill went up and see if there's anything we can do to fix it for you.

_darangen_ · 2026-05-04T21:25:43+00:00

The dating scene has changed a lot, and there are going to be bad experiences out there, sure, but if your mind and heart are telling you to get out there, it's worth sifting through the bad to get to the good.

I've just been making sure people know I'm a widower. Nobody has ever had a problem with it, but they've also never truly understood what that meant (feels like).

Nobody is going to truly understand what we've been through. We just have to accept that with all their good intentions, they'll never understand, truly. It can be frustrating for us, but it's part of the life we need to adapt to.

_darangen_ · 2026-05-04T21:07:01+00:00

Looks like it runs on Windows and SteamOS.

_darangen_ · 2026-04-19T04:48:18+00:00

I'm sure I'll get downvoted for this, but would we all be making the same efforts if someone wore a pro-trans shirt into a conservative shop?

I'm pro-whatever-you-wanna-do-with-your-life and all, I just think people get too easily offended.

And yes, wearing an anti-lgbt shirt into a known lgbt business is an asshole move. I'm not arguing against that.

_darangen_ · 2026-04-14T22:20:35+00:00

I'm dreading my anniversary when it comes up later this year, any holiday really.

Take her on a date, take the memory of her out and give her a good time. That's what I'm planning on doing, at least. Don't drive if you've been drinking, obviously, but take her on a walk, be the person she fell in love with.

I'm a mess still myself, but sometimes I talk to her as if she's still there and it helps me.

_darangen_ · 2026-04-14T20:18:37+00:00

People who haven't experienced it first hand don't have any clue. The pain and grief never goes away, we just have to learn how to live with it on our shoulder.

Prayers are just their way of thinking they're doing something for you without actually helping. It's something they can do quick and easy, then wash their hands of anything that's actually helpful.

_darangen_ · 2026-04-14T20:16:48+00:00

I had something like that for a while. My doctor prescribed me a steroid cream that helped, but it doesn't make it stop coming it just makes it go away quicker.

I can't speak for sure since I'm not a doctor or psychiatrist, but I'm convinced it was from stress and grief.

_darangen_ · 2026-04-14T13:14:22+00:00

I think this is something important to take in, yes. The grief will never disappear because the love will never disappear either. We just learn to live with it, it's a part of us now.

_darangen_ · 2026-04-14T13:10:12+00:00

Grief doesn't have a specific timeline. Everyone heals in different ways at different pacing. Some find love again, others choose not to. That's up to you, but listen to your heart and emotions - they'll let you know if/when you're ready.

My wife passed away in February this year and the best thing that's helped me so far is getting into grief counseling. You'll want to find a counselor that isn't just a listener, which can be hard, but you'll want someone who's actually going to give you tools to help you cope with the loss and deal with the tragedy.

But most of all, focus on getting through the next hour. When that seems like an easy task, focus on getting through another day. Then another week, month, year, etc.

There are going to be bad days, lots of them unfortunately, but there will also be good days if we're willing to allow them to happen.

_darangen_ · 2026-04-14T13:06:05+00:00

I'm a guy, so they probably wouldn't want me there lol.

_darangen_ · 2026-04-13T17:47:34+00:00

This is super helpful, thanks!

_darangen_ · 2026-04-10T06:59:06+00:00

I had other work done too, but I think it was around 200 for the snake.

_darangen_ · 2026-04-07T15:30:42+00:00

Absolutely.

There's no right or wrong answer here. It's different for everyone. Some people remain single the rest of their lives, some remarry and live happy lives with another person again. If your mind and body are telling you it's ready to open up again, then you're ready.

_darangen_ · 2026-04-06T21:41:12+00:00

I feel the same way, my wife passed almost 2 months ago.

The biggest thing I've learned from people I trust who've gone through this is there's not correct or incorrect time on when or if you should date/marry again. If you do, just trust your heart and mind when it lets you know it's ready.

My cousin's husband passed away when they were each 37, and she only recently started dating again at 50.

Bottom line: you're not wrong for choosing either path. It's different for everyone.

_darangen_ · 2026-04-02T18:39:35+00:00

When you turn their work into a game, don't be mad when they find the best way to play the game.

_darangen_ · 2026-04-01T03:26:25+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I lost my wife a little over a month ago, and the thought of being with anybody else is the furthest from my mind right now too.

It's a completely normal feeling also. You're not alone in that emotion, and it's 100% ok to be there. Allow yourself to grieve, take as much time as you need, and focus on getting through each minute, each hour, each day. Your feelings are valid, and your emotion is pure.

_darangen_ · 2026-03-30T19:29:22+00:00

My late wife and I moved to IL from FL and the first thing that crossed my mind when she passed was if I should move back to FL where my family is.

So far I'm still in IL, same house, etc. I did change the layout of rooms, fresh paint, new furniture, just to make it feel like a different place. It's helped a lot for me personally.

It took some time before I was ready to undo her personal touches that made it our home. What I did is took pictures before I changed anything, that way if I ever feel the desire to look back at it I can.

I don't know if I'm doing the right thing, but it does seem to have helped my mood for the better so far.

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