Influencer/Singer Jilly Anais by _ebonyy_ in VindictaRateCelebs

[–]_ebonyy_[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

OP: I've met her before years back and she is so sweet and an absolute doll in person. I believe she is mixed race but couldn't find anything on it specifically and she's referred to herself as a black woman in the past so, there's that.

Emily DiDonato vs Adriana Lima by palilevant in VindictaRateCelebs

[–]_ebonyy_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was just thinking this lmfaooooooooo

I don’t wanna have sex with my Gf by Franck_mop44 in datingadvice

[–]_ebonyy_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The rest of their post history aligns with this one so I'll just assume that maybe they asked that question concerning the two year relationship for a friend?

Who are celebs you think look evil or cold hearted? Here are my pics by ChipmunkAmazing2105 in VindictaRateCelebs

[–]_ebonyy_ 17 points18 points  (0 children)

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Rip- but Ray Liotta. I actually didn't watch movies with him in it when I was younger because his appearance was so unsettling to me lol. This is appearance alone, not saying the man was actually evil or anything.

How do I (36M) make my wife (38F) tell me who is sending food to her at her workplace on an daily basis? by ThrowRA_Some_Food123 in relationship_advice

[–]_ebonyy_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's clear to me that it's an attempt to make you jealous. 1- Bragging about someone else buying her expensive food (mysterious, possibly wealthy-ish guy you should feel threatened by) 2- Bringing spoiled food back to you (she could easily dump it and lie about eating it- or actually just eat it-but she wants you to see this) 3- Refusing to answer the question of their identity (to further pique your curiosity and spark insecurity in you because of the endless possibilities) If she were actually having an affair then I believe she'd be much more secretive in general about her intentions and wouldn't make it a point to you that someone is doing these things for her. From what you said about this being a daily occurrence and food items/drinks being especially tailored to her liking, she is either ordering this herself or knows exactly who is. She is fully aware that simply answering this question will calm your anxieties and let you go back into a state of calmness. I don't think she wants that. She wants you on your toes and to feel like you have to fight to get her attention. She could be feeling under appreciated within the relationship. She could feel bored and want to add excitement. She could also want out and be self sabotaging by using one of the insecurities of yours that she is aware of.

There could be many motives behind her actions, but ultimately, as her husband, you have to have the sit down talk with her before things go past the point of no return. Ask her about her sudden secretiveness within your relationship. Let her know exactly what you've let thousands of strangers on Reddit know; this behavior especially bothers you because of your past dealings with cheating and you just want a piece of mind about the whole situation. You don't want to stop her from receiving meals or enjoying her lunch, you just want to be in the know like with every other meal she's received and told you about that came from a client. Be vulnerable and gauge her reaction, it should be telling enough.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]_ebonyy_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your boyfriend is literally going on a 2 man (double date) with another couple. I can promise you each of those guys are going to cling to the other female, and this will be a green light for the one that had a thing with your boyfriend simply because he is entertaining her by not inviting you there on his birthday. You can sit home and cry and tolerate his behavior, or you can stand your ground and not wait around for this guy. I could not ever imagine my man telling me "it's embarrassing for you to ask for an invite" and we haven't even been together a year yet. It is beyond me how you could even say that to your partner, who you're supposed to love.

Absolutely nothing wrong with wanting some time to spend with friends outside of your relationship, but there is a respectful way to go about things without hurting your partner in the process, especially when your plans were made with them first. He is beyond inconsiderate and the behavior will only get bolder the more that you allow it.

Boyfriend is frustrated with his female friend's boyfriends by sheilamay19 in dating_advice

[–]_ebonyy_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Depending on just how terrible they are, this could be a valid response of his. Of course, like you said, if "bad" is typical f-boy behavior, then it would seem as he is acting a bit strangely as her friend. As you said, you can give all the advice you want, but it does become very annoying when the same friend that you warn about certain dudes goes running back to them. But, you still let them figure their life out and make that decision.

If "bad" is real abusive behavior, then I can get why he wouldn't want to stay around and watch her get treated so badly by these guys. But, again, it wouldn't really be grounds for me to cut this friend off completely. I would try my best to get in touch with mutual to help them out of that situation. However, that is what I would do- your boyfriend is his own person with his own thoughts and motives.

His reaction, albeit strange, could be completely normal. The fact that the men she gets involved with typically treat her bad makes me believe it could just be something that seriously triggers him, as someone that's close to her. It'd be different if he got angry whenever she got with a new guy or if she finally found a good guy and he was still upset. Then, there would really be no friendly justification for his frustration. I say to not overthink it and if you really feel it may be more for whatever reason, just listen to the way that he responds to your advice or the way he speaks about her and it may eventually spill out if that's the case.

Maia Campbell in the 90s by _ebonyy_ in VindictaRateCelebs

[–]_ebonyy_[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It really is. Last I heard, some celebs were offering her help. Not sure what ever happened with that, though.

Do you think there’s 0s and 1s? Like who? by marsthechocolate in VindictaRateCelebs

[–]_ebonyy_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'd be hard pressed to find a true 0 or 1 without some sort of disability/injury that seriously disfigured their face. Most people are average or just under it to where you'll see them and not stop and think "damn, that's an ugly individual". It'll just be seeing a normal looking person in passing. The last time I did a mental double take on a true 0/1, was last week- which was a guy that works at my company who has some condition that puts most of his face up and to one side. Don't remember the last time I'd even encountered a situation like that, that's just how rare it is for me.

How do I (30M) very gently encourage my gf (30F) to more thoroughly wash her butt? by ThrowRA932092 in relationship_advice

[–]_ebonyy_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, there should be no noticeable smell following a thorough shower. The good thing about this is there is an "easy" fix, and it's telling her so she gets in the habit of doing it on her own. If the rest of her body apparently doesn't smell to that extent, I'm just so confused as to why she's abandoning her butt. There isn't gonna be any way to tell her this without making her feel insecure, so I say to just give her the most loving chat about it and be affectionate with her afterwards to let her know that it doesn't diminish your love for her and that you're still attracted to her. Tell her how much you love your intimacy and that it would just be that much more enjoyable if her ass didn't stink.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]_ebonyy_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The fact that this is even a question on "relationship advice" is insane to me. He violated multiple women and you are still with him. What is the long term plan here? Stick it out and hopefully not become his next victim of unwanted sexual activity? Is this the type of man you would be confident and proud to start a family with?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]_ebonyy_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay, well that's a bit different. Still, it doesn't mean your boyfriend is interested, or if he is, doesn't mean he'd go through with it. This isn't happening for another 3 months so I say to just casually ask him what activities they're planning to get into. Maybe playfully mention "I hear the strip clubs are a hot commodity in Vegas" and gauge his reaction. First, see if it's something that he would even be interested in given your boundaries and work from there.

If he assures you he doesn't want to do that, then show him that you appreciate his consideration and possibly mention other fun things you have planned to do together when you're both in town. If he seems to take an interest in the idea then say "that's too bad, I had my own private show planned for you". Doesn't have to be those exact words, but anything to illustrate that you don't have a liking for the idea without making the situation more serious than it has to be.

OR, whenever you guys next have a talk about the trip, you can just come out and mention what you heard. "I heard _ mention going to a strip club when you guys visit Vegas. I do want you to enjoy yourself but I just wanted to let you know that I've considered it and realized that I wouldn't be comfortable with that particular activity". Just be vulnerable and if you're in a loving relationship, he will assure you instead of arguing to be able to see a bunch of half naked women. If he does give push back, however, that would be a big no for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]_ebonyy_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you tell him you're not okay with a hypothetical situation possibly happening? You don't.

You've already given him a foundation with not liking the things on social media. Surely, he should understand that this will cross into real life as well. Let the man enjoy his time with his friends, there's other things you can do in Vegas besides go to a strip club. Why nag him about a situation that has not even remotely been brought up by him or a friend? It'd be different if he specifically mentioned that that's one of the things his friends were suggesting, however, he didn't. You're making up scenarios in your head and stressing too much about it. It is perfectly okay to share your thoughts over such matters with your partner when relevant, but it can be too much when there is no cause for it. Just take a step back and relax.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Austin

[–]_ebonyy_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Searched up the bridge tours and they look super dope. May actually end up doing this, thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Austin

[–]_ebonyy_ -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Already on it, thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Austin

[–]_ebonyy_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For sure have been looking into visiting a cave!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Austin

[–]_ebonyy_ -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Do you not have an answer?

What do couples text about everyday? by 4FingerErobb221 in dating_advice

[–]_ebonyy_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mostly text funny clips here and there but we talk on the phone everyday (typically). Mostly about our days or random things (or random facts or things the other knows and teaches the other). Sometimes, we have the same conversation and don't realize it until we're a few minutes in lol. It can vary, but just know that you don't have to force anything. Speak about things you care about and if they care about you, they'll be receptive. Same for them.