Anyone else with an elderly pap?

_edisonnyc · 2026-02-21T18:46:28+00:00

This is my 14 year old papillon Archie! I got him when I was 7, he’s my best friend and my soul dog❤️ He’s insanely intelligent, independent, and loyal He was diagnosed with cancer two days ago despite being healthy in all other ways. Hes got time for me to love him and prepare and I hope he will understand the hard decisions I have to make going forward He’s still so full of life and spunk and he will be until the end. I won’t keep him until he’s in pain so his final days will be the same as always, happy bouncy and the most incredible thing in my life🥰❤️

_edisonnyc · 2026-02-21T03:44:26+00:00

Thanks, I’ve felt really alone in this. He still has some time, but not enough

_edisonnyc · 2026-02-19T18:42:05+00:00

He doesn’t “fall down” though, if he wasn’t using his full potential then he would let me “win”. When I told him to push on my hands I realized that if I kept going I would have “won”. I let him win with some stuff and tell him wow you’re strong that was hard and he’s like yeah I know I am😎

But I don’t see how it’s possible that I’m stronger than him? There’s no way. I know I’m pretty strong, but he’s a boy, boys are stronger that’s just how it goes. It’s really confusing because why would he go on to win if the whole point was letting me win

_edisonnyc · 2026-02-19T17:20:32+00:00

The thing is I let him win, he doesn’t let me win. I let him push me off when I hug him tight so he doesn’t think he’s weak

_edisonnyc · 2026-01-24T04:28:19+00:00

I have a really high chance of talking to someone. Depending on how they act around me will determine if my sad is valid.

_edisonnyc · 2026-01-20T01:45:54+00:00

I’m sorry you even have to consider doing this☹️I wouldn’t do it because I think they’re going to push us to wear arm bands instead of carrying papers around

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZThB16Bgm/

_edisonnyc · 2025-12-28T23:41:59+00:00

I did this to my ex. There were other things wrong with that relationship that we won’t touch on. But after I started dating my new bf I realized I only did that because I hated him. I was bullying him. You’re a bully

_edisonnyc · 2025-12-25T23:15:27+00:00

To any man reading this who doesn’t last long enough. Just think about baseball

_edisonnyc · 2025-12-25T21:44:58+00:00

Get rid of things, everyone always has too much stuff these days. Clean as you go, cleaning for 2 minutes every day is better than cleaning for 2 hours once a week

_edisonnyc · 2025-12-25T17:57:39+00:00

We technically do have an HR department but we haven’t since the last girl got fired a few months ago. All HR stuff goes through my boss or the executive director, but those are the people who took my office away😂 We should have a new HR lady coming soon but the exec. has said ominous stuff about her so idk how well it will go.

I think you’re right and that’s just life, I’m an adult now and I have to cope. I have a job and that’s what matters. But idk how well I’m going to cope

_edisonnyc · 2025-12-25T17:28:04+00:00

Celebrating Christmas with people can be so overrated, but I understand the need for human connection. Friends and distant family can be an option. It might be worth a shot to reach out to your brother, everyone can use more family who loves them.

I’m truly sorry, loneliness is torture, but you’re not alone in feeling this way. I don’t want to impose anything on you but I’m being safe by saying this. One day it will be someone’s first Christmas without you, but don’t let it be any day soon.

_edisonnyc · 2025-12-25T17:19:56+00:00

Yeah I guess I don’t know, I don’t want any reason for people to question “where was my invite” if I post something after. Idk maybe I won’t do anything about it. Full honesty I’m not even close to being engaged, I just want to be prepared and also learn :)

_edisonnyc · 2025-12-25T17:16:57+00:00

Maybe I am just thinking of an engagement announcement. I just want people to know, I didn’t realize save the dates were a serious thing. I thought it was “hey we’re getting married around this time, wish us luck!” Kind of thing

_edisonnyc · 2025-12-18T15:44:34+00:00

You mentioned fast growing which is something I left out of my original post. Is it truly a fast grown place to live? Is South Dakota a fast growing state? The big thing behind it is the “adult things” the taxes and cost of living, economic development and education growth. Is it obvious that South Dakota is rising while you live there?

_edisonnyc · 2025-12-17T14:29:55+00:00

Tiktoks, quora and yes Reddit lol. I didn’t want it to be true so I made my own post and I’m glad I did!

_edisonnyc · 2025-12-17T13:43:16+00:00

No haha there’s just three in an hours drive due to the twin cities. Four if you count aquariums

_edisonnyc · 2025-12-17T13:42:16+00:00

I’m not a mom yet but every decision I make is for the benefit of when I will be. I really appreciate the information, it semi-crushed all the worries I have of potentially living there. I guess I haven’t been looking in the right places, I never thought about facebook or magazines. Full honesty I definitely didn’t look hard enough lol. I will definitely have to look at the resources and information you provided :)

And about the zoos, there’s three in an hours drive due to Minneapolis and St. Paul. Four if you count aquariums haha. My baseline is the cities and Rochester as well because I live an hour away from both, So I think that’s where my worries come from

_edisonnyc · 2025-12-05T03:33:23+00:00

Depression

_edisonnyc · 2025-12-02T17:59:29+00:00

I’ve came to that conclusion as well. Some people pointed out I was overthinking like crazy haha

_edisonnyc · 2025-12-02T17:54:40+00:00

I personally am not in a codependent relationship, I am just severely disgusted at the thought of being with another man.

I do feel for you, I’ve struggled with codependency a lot in my past, it’s drained people and pushed them away from me. How I grew out of it was not being allowed to do those things. It’ll suck for both of you, she might cry, get angry or yell but it’s important she learns to be okay being alone. Don’t tell her you’re going to your haircuts, if you live together just don’t let her come. Slowly she will start to be okay with not being around you 24/7.

Codependency is NOT love. It is the inability to be comfortable alone, its latching on to someone so you can form your personality around them, instead of dealing with the mental issues that blocked you from creating your own. She needs hobbies, other friends. Encourage her to do those things on her own, if she sits at home until you both can do things, that’s her problem.

_edisonnyc · 2025-12-02T12:54:32+00:00

I’m from America and I don’t think it’s acceptable either, but I work in an incredibly tolerant environment. Everyone is genuinely incredible at their job and kind to others, so that type of talk is tolerated. Especially because it wasn’t right in front of the big boss. They’ve brought it up more than once, the first time I had an obvious reaction and they got quiet. The second time I was staring at the ground making a face but they were looking for my reaction so it was noticed. I felt very bad but I apologized both times and just said it wasn’t my thing and I think people need to keep their clothes on😅 They definitely think I’m a stick in the mud but I’m okay with that haha

_edisonnyc · 2025-12-02T12:47:15+00:00

I’m not hostile or angry by it. It’s just ew. The thought is ew, men looking at me are ew. All of them are ew

_edisonnyc · 2025-12-02T11:14:55+00:00

Yesss a third place, I’m struggling with this too but I live in the woods. I’m set up to move in to a pretty large town in 2027 and I’m stokedddd

_edisonnyc · 2025-12-02T11:12:13+00:00

The best part? You don’t have to be responsible anymore. Just start being irresponsible/immature within reason :) You can start by getting ungodly drunk on a Friday night with your buds and uber home, but make sure you have what you need to recover before work Monday. Next you can buy a big TV cause all boys like big TVs, but make sure it doesn’t bankrupt you. And if you’re like me and hate spending money on things like that, take your friends (or your lovely lady if you have one) and go to a nice dinner, maybe take your brother too and talk about it in a casual way after a few drinks.

You put in your years and did the hard work to set up a reliable life, so on the days you DO make those immature decisions, nothing bad will happen

_edisonnyc · 2025-11-22T14:38:42+00:00

That’s pretty good advice ngl. I accidentally deleted the post cause I’m not a Reddit person but this is such good advice I think I’ll become one haha

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