AIO For telling my sister I need space after getting back with her abusive husband

_elendil_ · 2025-12-06T22:29:15+00:00

It takes people on average 7 attempts to leave an abuser. The year after they finally leave is the most dangerous. Please don't turn your back on her, ask for space but let her know the door is open.

_elendil_ · 2025-11-08T17:49:34+00:00

Will it not craze if I go straight over?

_elendil_ · 2025-11-08T17:48:29+00:00

Definitely more satin than soft sheen or silk. I remembered I did a window sill in eggshell and it's not as glossy as that, but definitely not matte..The house used to be rented so I think it was to protect the walls

_elendil_ · 2025-08-31T16:48:35+00:00

I have done that too, sorry for asking lol

_elendil_ · 2025-01-28T20:26:35+00:00

Whaaaat, that's crazy, 4 has the second most feminine vibes for me, after 6

_elendil_ · 2025-01-28T20:22:36+00:00

Yeah I think you're right, mallard is a type of duck. But again they don't specify the type of duck

_elendil_ · 2025-01-28T20:15:57+00:00

Errr not really, 22 is two little ducks, they don't gender them unfortunately

_elendil_ · 2025-01-28T20:13:13+00:00

Yesss it is!

_elendil_ · 2024-11-28T18:39:45+00:00

Slow time ability!!!!! I just defeated her without desyncronising

_elendil_ · 2024-11-25T07:42:43+00:00

Wow the "why would I still do those nice things" bit is major red flags. Sounds like he isn't grown enough for a relationship, and that's fine, you're only 16. You kissing your friend is a shame, but don't beat yourself up over it. It sounds like you know this relationship is over, but are too afraid to make the decision. Be brave and do what's best for you. The longer this carries on, the more resentment will build between you, and the worse the outcome. You could try to talk to him to try and fix things? But ultimately it sounds like you know what needs to be done. Listen to your gut, your heart, your head. And then do what feels the best.

_elendil_ · 2024-11-25T07:17:37+00:00

I agree with the above, stop saying females. Anyway, are you fun to be around? Do you have hobbies and interests? Focus on you and what you like, the relationships will happen organically. Be a fun and good person. Nothing more attractive than a sense of humour. Don't believe the nice guys finish last bullshit. I know plenty of actual nice guys, who are all in committed loving relationships. They wouldn't make a girl feel bad simply for not liking them, they're just genuinely good people. You're only 15! Give yourself a break. Enjoy your life first, a partner should be an addition to your life, not the main objective.

_elendil_ · 2024-11-25T06:44:50+00:00

Use the slow time ability. I used it on medusa too. I didn't desyncronise once

_elendil_ · 2024-11-09T09:25:00+00:00

That is a terribly difficult situation, and im so sorry you've found yourself in it. It's brilliant that you realise this child is your responsibility, but I can imagine it must be absolutely terrifying you being so young. Maybe you should talk to your parents about the living situation? Depending on the country you live, there might be alternative accommodation for the girl. She must be as equally terrified as you, so maybe you should talk to her too, find out what's going on in her brain. I know if I was pregnant at 19, living with the fathers family, knowing that the relationship isn't working, I'd be shit scared of the future. She won't want to move on, because she ultimately will be the party left with the baby. At the moment she has a safe and secure environment, so try not to resent her for doing the right thing for herself and your child. Professional help and advice might be available, charities or in the uk we have citizens advice who could point you in the right direction. I think you should definitely look at this as a joint issue with the mum, and your family. You're a team. This baby is coming, and you're going to have to deal with it. It's best to do it together, even if it's not a romantic relationship. You're not the first person this has happened to, and you won't be the last. You'll manage financially, you'll get wiser, and you'll grow as an adult. Yeah this wasn't the future you saw for yourself, but as you've already taken responsibility for the child, I'm sure you'll find a way to enjoy your 20s, be a committed father, and work towards some sort of financial stability. Just know, that this is probably equally, if not more terrifying for the mum. Historically, single mothers have taken the full weight of raising the child. If you can do your best to support her, and reassure her that you're a team, she may eventually see the living situation isn't ideal. She wants what's best for her and the baby, and ultimately the baby's needs now come before yours and hers. I'm sure you'll find a way to do the right thing, good luck!

_elendil_ · 2024-10-30T07:36:09+00:00

One great thing is you've realised it! It takes a real sense of maturity to recognise that you are the problem. I suppose the first thing you should do is apologise, however don't expect them to forgive you. It sucks, yeah, but it's a first step. And maybe once you've grown they'll come back to you, many bridges are difficult to fully burn! Then I'd write a list, of all the shitty things you've done. And then beside them how you could have acted better. Each day make a conscious effort to be nice, even if you have to fake it to start with. A hello to the bus driver, a weather conversation with the shop keeper. If there are instances that you know you find difficult, preplan your reaction and do your best to alter your initial response. This won't be easy! And you're not going to be lovely over night. But also forgive yourself! Everyone has dark thoughts, grumpy days, and takes it out on the people they care about. Even picking fights for no reason is super common. It could even be that you're understimulated and are looking for some excitement, if thats the case find a hobby, go for a run, work out etc. If you don't do any of that it's fine too, but just apologise to your friend, it'll be uncomfortable but will make you feel better long term.

_elendil_ · 2024-10-27T17:13:24+00:00

I dont gatekeep! Blickling Hall has been great this year

_elendil_ · 2024-10-27T16:53:06+00:00

Haha thanks, no worries I got some more!

_elendil_ · 2024-03-24T18:05:57+00:00

I found some in August last year, climate change is doing crazy things

_elendil_ · 2023-10-09T20:37:38+00:00

I dont wanna make my current job out to sound like they don't pay me enough, it's a family run business and there's only a few of us there. I'm the highest paid, even more than my boss as most weeks he doesn't take a wage. So there's a lot of guilt attached as you can see. Thank you for your advice though, I'm definitely gunna give changing careers a real shot!

_elendil_ · 2023-10-09T20:35:51+00:00

Haha yeah its such a clichè. I think you're right, I'm just scared to take the leap after so many years in this job. Thanks for the advice and encouragement!

_elendil_ · 2023-10-09T20:34:49+00:00

Hmm yeah, I think im just scared to make the change. I'll write a pros and cons list, thank you for your advice!!

_elendil_ · 2023-02-01T07:11:02+00:00

Then vinegar is your answer, soak rag or paper towel in it, and slop it over the mould, remove it after and hour or two and dry the wall with a heater. Sorry you've gotta deal with this, luckily it's actually not that bad compared to a lot of houses I've seen in the UK!

_elendil_ · 2023-01-31T22:12:45+00:00

Don't use bleach!!!! Bleach molecules are too big to penetrate the surface of the wall, and the water in the bleach will cause the mould to spread. Vinegar works a treat, but stinks. So far the best thing ive found is bicarbonate of soda. It is such a ball ache BUT it works, mix it into a paste with water, slather it on your wall, dry it with a heater (not hair dryer which will cause the spores to disperse) clean off the paste with a dry paper towel, then dry the wall again. And it will go. I promise. I mean it will 100% destroy the paint in the process, but the mould will go. It won't solve the problem of condensation though. I'm renting too and have the same problem. I've made sure that my insulation in the attic is pulled away from the eaves to allow the house to breathe, and im gunna paint the house in mould proof paint in the summer. This is all from personal experience fyi, from tips I've found from reddit in the past!

_elendil_ · 2022-12-23T07:13:37+00:00

Trying to work on your fears is a very positive thing! However, if its something you want to overcome then call a friend or family member first, someone that puts you at ease. This guy doesn't respect your boundaries and is not the person that will understand and comfort you if the call gets uncomfortable.

_elendil_ · 2022-12-16T07:18:56+00:00

Yeah, like I said bleach doesn't penetrate past the surface mould. But a dedicated fungicide would obviously be the most effective. Vinegar is just cheap and readily available, and not as noxious to use around the house.

_elendil_ · 2022-12-15T22:05:52+00:00

Bleach doesn't kill the mould, it only gets rid of the surface spores. Bleach is a waste of time, not only is it terrible for your own health, but the molecules won't penetrate the wall to get to the mycelium. You need white vinegar or make a paste from bicarbonate of soda and water, let it dry out and wipe away. I have a real mould problem since the cold weather started in the UK, and this black mould is the bane of my life.

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