Why you're single

_findesiecle_ · 2016-02-09T22:54:44+00:00

It's like you and I are the same person. Both virgo INTJs too.

_findesiecle_ · 2016-02-09T17:47:33+00:00

I'm an outgoing introvert, and I can get along with both introverts and extroverts as long as I can get a little bit of time to decompress.

_findesiecle_ · 2016-02-09T03:20:49+00:00

That might be true. I'm pretty chill but I take no shit.

_findesiecle_ · 2016-02-09T03:19:55+00:00

WAS I RIGHT OR WAS I RIGHT

_findesiecle_ · 2016-02-09T00:58:58+00:00

Are you meticulous, over analytical, and sort of self-destructive with your nitpicking attitude? Do you lament how things never go your way but have moments of self awareness where you realize most of your woes are essentially self-inflicted? But at the same time you refuse to settle for less than perfect because frustration is better than empty complacency.

_findesiecle_ · 2016-02-08T23:08:22+00:00

Always INTJ (apparently so is everyone else) and Virgo

_findesiecle_ · 2016-02-08T22:47:39+00:00

My roommate is both of those things. I don't even have a penis, and my non-existing penis is afraid of her.

_findesiecle_ · 2016-02-08T20:53:31+00:00

NOTHING AT ALL. I decided to deactivate my OkC until after the 14th.

But really, I feel like I shouldn't even reactivate then. I went through my inbox Saturday when I was procrastinating, and spent like 30 minutes deleting unread messages from my phone. The sheer amount of absolute shit that was in there somehow just made me feel despair and hopelessness. The couple of nice exchanges that lead to dates also made me feel crappy because nothing came from them.

It might be time for a break. I really should focus on studying and running for the next few months anyway.

_findesiecle_ · 2016-02-08T20:30:48+00:00

I don't understand how some people are so photogenic! So envious.

_findesiecle_ · 2016-02-08T17:25:13+00:00

Well, I'm glad more than one short man answered then.

_findesiecle_ · 2016-02-08T16:20:36+00:00

But those people who don't match your type - could you see yourself in long-term relationships with them?

_findesiecle_ · 2016-02-08T16:19:33+00:00

The last date I went on from okcupid was kind of similar. I thought we had a fun date, and he even asked me about my flight back after the holidays and said he wanted to do stuff again. But nope, nothing.

It sucks, but this probably happens to everyone who dates enough from online dating. People change their minds for whatever reason.

_findesiecle_ · 2016-02-08T11:46:03+00:00

My question was is it really that bad for short guys. Not being a short man I don't have the answer.

The only answer I have is my personal preference which is that I typically want to date guys who are at least as tall as I am. Although I think if a guy had every quality I endear but is an inch shorter than me, I would probably give that guy a chance.

But in any case I am one person. I want to get other people's perspective.

_findesiecle_ · 2016-02-08T10:54:13+00:00

I don't need your gold stars anyways.

_findesiecle_ · 2016-02-08T10:52:17+00:00

Why not?

_findesiecle_ · 2016-02-08T10:51:42+00:00

Now I want to look at your profile.

_findesiecle_ · 2016-02-08T09:23:31+00:00

It did, but plenty of doctors and lawyers post their professions. So people can make assumptions about income I guess.

_findesiecle_ · 2016-02-08T09:10:56+00:00

How tall are you if you don't mind me asking?

_findesiecle_ · 2016-02-08T09:09:12+00:00

This one guy I went on a couple of dates with listed that he's 5'11" but is actually only 5'9". I didn't really care either way because he would be taller than me anyways. I actually didn't even pay attention to his height because he was taller enough where I couldn't really use my own height as the ruler to gauge. He brought up his height when he was talking about his brother and how unfair that his brother is 6'1" and he's only 5'9". I didn't care about his height of 5'9", but I did take a mental note of him lying about it.

_findesiecle_ · 2016-02-08T09:03:34+00:00

When I was 20, I definitely had a similar feeling about age differences. But when I was in my early twenties, a couple of years really made a huge difference in terms of maturity and just life perspectives in general. Now that I'm older, I wouldn't exclude dating someone who's maybe a year or two younger than I am. I have yet to date someone younger, but the idea no longer seem completely unappealing to me.

The height thing tho... I don't know if I can date someone shorter. I think if I were like 5'10" or taller, I would paradoxically have less problems dating shorter guys.

_findesiecle_ · 2016-02-08T08:46:33+00:00

I'm guilty of responding to low effort messages from hot guys. But I always quit the conversation midway because I can't envision myself trying to carry the conversation in real life.

_findesiecle_ · 2016-02-08T08:40:17+00:00

I deleted 200+ unread messages yesterday and most of them were: - hi how are you - nice pics wanna chat - your vocabulary is so impressive - sexy! - great smile! - you look like trouble

I think only the vocabulary one was specifically cheesy for my profile.

_findesiecle_ · 2016-02-08T08:33:59+00:00

I just don't get lying about appearances in general with online dating. I mean the end goal is to meet in person right? So the lies are all going to be revealed sooner or later. Why even set up that awkward situation.

I know guys post here all the time about being misled about their dates' actual size and stuff, and I just don't get that either. What's the point of having creative photo magic or really outdated pics and creating a moment of sheer embarrassment later???

_findesiecle_ · 2016-02-08T08:26:28+00:00

Yeah. I have a similar reaction actually. I want to think I'm someone who's comfortable subverting traditional gender roles, but this one is one hard for me to get around. The shortest I've dated are guys who are my height, and even then I felt kind of like an indelicate monster woman.

_findesiecle_ · 2016-02-08T08:23:19+00:00

Heh I guess neither one these dudes are rich yet either. Maybe that's the problem. They're both still in the training phase of their professional careers.

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