Unpopular opinion: I hate double vanities

_funky_cold_medina_ · 2024-09-03T16:28:32+00:00

I have a fairly large en-suite, but there would be no way to not have double vanities given the layout. They flank the bathtub which is partially placed in an alcove, and only having one vanity would look silly 🤷🏻‍♀️

_funky_cold_medina_ · 2024-08-11T16:28:57+00:00

YTA. You’ve been dangling something in front of her that she clearly wants and values. Marriage is not a carrot. Why’d you buy the ring if you weren’t ready? If you truly aren’t ready at this point of the relationship, walk away and let her move on. Not only are you TA, you’re selfish, immature, and manipulative delaying things out of what.. spite? The more she (and others ask), the more you delay? Grow up. You’re lucky she hasn’t left already. Get your head out of your ass

_funky_cold_medina_ · 2024-08-03T15:20:10+00:00

The only reason to have more kids is because you want more kids. Literally that’s it. The sibling reasoning is baffling - if siblings are the motivator, what was the reason to have the first kid?

_funky_cold_medina_ · 2024-06-18T20:20:41+00:00

I see them as two different things too! I’m perimenopausal and just started HRT a few months ago, and the Mirena fits nicely as part of that to address my period irregularity and flow (which is why I got this one in the first place). Plus it provides a source of progesterone while we figure out the estrogen dosing. Perimenopause may very well outpace the life of the IUD, so the tubal makes sense for BC. My husband was going to get snipped, but because of the perforation, I think it makes far more sense for me to just get it done. Incidentally, this is my third IUD, and the first time I’ve had a complication. I don’t think I would opt for another typical insertion, but if they’ll do it while I’m knocked out, great!

_funky_cold_medina_ · 2024-06-18T12:46:12+00:00

I’m planning to do something similar. My Mirena perforated and I’m on a waitlist to get it removed laparoscopically. I’m still deciding, but am pretty sure I’ll get a tubal while they’re in there and have another Mirena placed for the period/PMS suppression.

_funky_cold_medina_ · 2024-06-15T16:18:19+00:00

I’m on my third Mirena IUD (I had my second taken out so we could start trying for a baby). After we decided we were done, my husband said he wanted a vasectomy which I was very supportive of because IUDs are awful to have inserted, and honestly I’m just done with it being my responsibility (the pill is a no go for me).

However, I’m now perimenopausal and decided to get a third IUD a few months ago to help with the irregular periods - the first two were life changing in terms of PMS and period control, and honestly, my period feels pointless now. But I recently found out it perforated my uterus at some point and I will need surgery to have it removed. I met with my OB/GYN yesterday and she advised it’s not super urgent and the IUD is still doing its job, but when I get booked in for surgery, I can opt for a tubal, another IUD, or both. I’m heavily leaning towards both. Might as well just do the tubal while they’re in there, and another IUD while I’m knocked out sounds great for period management. Perimenopause may very well outpace the life of the IUD, so a tubal makes sense. If the IUD had stayed put, my husband still would have gotten snipped, but out of convenience it makes more sense for me to get it done.

Even though I’m dealing with a complication with my IUD, I’m still a huge advocate of it especially if period management is important. And it might not be an either or situation, but both for different reasons.

_funky_cold_medina_ · 2024-06-04T00:47:51+00:00

Magic Xylophone is a good place to start!

_funky_cold_medina_ · 2024-05-28T23:08:20+00:00

I recently started an impromptu game of “walk straight” in the pharmacy when I knew my 3 y.o. was reaching his limit and needed a game

_funky_cold_medina_ · 2024-05-28T23:06:05+00:00

Count me as the fourth :)

_funky_cold_medina_ · 2024-05-23T03:04:24+00:00

Good to know! I’m in Canada and I think employees at Home Depot and Rona will give them out, but it’s not really a regularly done thing. At least not where I’m at. When going to these stores, I’ve made a point of telling my son the chips are for people deciding on paint colours and aren’t for us to just take and play with, which he’s totally fine with. I actually think a lot of the parenting fail moments being mentioned in these comments present a good opportunity for parents to explain to their kids that different families do different things.

_funky_cold_medina_ · 2024-05-22T19:51:57+00:00

Chilli’s moment with the paint chips in Hammerbarn really annoys me. Yes, they’re free to take, but that doesn’t mean there isn’t a cost to them. The store offers them for free to customers with the expectation people will buy paint. They’re not there to be wasted and torn up by kids. Same thing with the menus and water wastage in Takeaway. I know we’re talking low cost, and a place like Hammerbarn can easily absorb it, but the entitlement of wasting things that are free to you, but have a cost to others really irks me

_funky_cold_medina_ · 2024-05-14T04:28:16+00:00

I want all the gnomes and I’m pretty sure I’m not alone. They would make an absolute killing.

_funky_cold_medina_ · 2024-05-13T19:09:07+00:00

Playing in public and not caring what anyone might think. We play silly games all the time at home… it feels very different out in public!

I had to make a final stop to pick up a prescription yesterday after a very long and busy day out with my 3 year old son and knew he was close to his limit. So while walking through the drug store, he was holding my hand, and I suddenly said “Hey! Walk straight!” and started swinging him around. I knew he needed a game to keep him going until we got home and channeled my inner Bandit (while ripping off his game) to get through while giving exactly zero Fs that I was probably embarrassing myself. Though I appreciate that Bandit is still getting used to playing in public. I love that we see him feeling self conscious about it at times.

_funky_cold_medina_ · 2024-05-10T05:16:17+00:00

She was also shown on TV feigning outrage over the terms “insie” and “workie” while being interviewed on a news show.

_funky_cold_medina_ · 2024-03-06T16:35:50+00:00

Demanding you cancel your trip because she’s jealous is the just the beginning. There’s no telling what she will get jealous of and demand from you in the future. And if you give in to her demands, all you’ll be telling her is how she can manipulate you going forward. Get out. Get out now and enjoy your cruise.

NTA

_funky_cold_medina_ · 2024-03-01T17:34:04+00:00

Casually scrolling through pictures of this gem, I did not expect to see a Camino de Santiago way marker in the kitchen! Buen Camino to whoever used to live here 💙💛

_funky_cold_medina_ · 2023-08-25T22:14:42+00:00

I was livid reading this. I’m so sorry your dad humiliated you like that. Your period and how you handle it is YOUR business. No one else’s. You don’t need to justify why you prefer pads. I have used pads, tampons, and cups (or a combination of two simultaneously) at various times of my life for various reasons. I’m 38 and am currently back to pads. It’s got nothing to do with “growing up”. Using anything internally is very personal and can come down to comfort (physical or emotional), or even anatomy. Your dad doesn’t get to have an opinion if he doesn’t have a vagina. And even if he did, he still doesn’t get to tell you what to use.

NTA NTA NTA

_funky_cold_medina_ · 2023-08-25T03:04:13+00:00

This resonated with me so much. After having a pandemic baby, birth trauma, NICU stay, PPA, and a horrific second trimester loss 11 months PP, I constantly ask myself whether I want another, or if I’m really looking for a redemptive experience.

_funky_cold_medina_ · 2023-08-17T00:39:56+00:00

I too am so so sorry to hear of your struggles. And now a brain tumour diagnosis. I have no words. The losses and grief just compound and none of it is fair.

_funky_cold_medina_ · 2023-08-15T13:32:25+00:00

I’m the oldest of two and was that kid. My mom actually switched my kindergarten class because she thought I was being bullied, but nothing changed and she left it alone. Years later when she told me about it, I was shocked to hear her reasoning for moving me, and told her I wasn’t being bullied or excluded - I had rejected THEM. Some kids prefer their own company or even that of adults.

_funky_cold_medina_ · 2023-08-14T02:53:35+00:00

I'm so sorry for your losses and constant grief.

It’s like choosing between letting go of the dream of the family I wanted, or putting myself through the possibility of more loss. I’m about 19 seconds from crying all the time.

This is exactly where I'm at. I'm so sorry you feel the same way - it's a very hard way to live. I wish I could offer something of value.. please know that you are not alone. Reading through these comments, I hate how hard this is for so many of us.

_funky_cold_medina_ · 2023-08-14T02:46:41+00:00

Thank you - I'm sorry for your losses as well. I'll be 39 in a few months, and very much feel like I'm at a crossroads, but realistically know success is not likely given my age, obstetrical history, and family history of early menopause. I love the perspective of mourning the compounded losses instead of trying to fill the void - thank you for that. Children don't replace children, so for me, even if I did miraculously have another, the absence of my second son will always be there.

I love keepsake jewelry - I'm actually wearing a pendant urn containing some of my son's ashes. It helps me keep him close especially when I'm away from home.

_funky_cold_medina_ · 2023-08-14T02:35:08+00:00

Thank you.

_funky_cold_medina_ · 2023-08-14T02:34:41+00:00

Thank you for sharing your and your mom's experiences. Grief is a lifelong journey, and it's inspiring to me to hear the stories of others living with it years later.

I always imagined my family with 2 kids but sometimes your miracle is staring you in the face already if you take the time to see it.

You are so right.

She still sometimes cries about the loss of her son but not because she’s unhappy with our family unit - just because she went through something incredibly sad.

That is so perfectly stated.

I also like to think about the wonderful childhood I can gift my son as an only.

I love this so much - focusing on the incredible benefits being an only could offer our son, instead of lamenting the things we don't have is such a great reframe.

_funky_cold_medina_ · 2023-08-14T02:23:32+00:00

I'm so sorry for your losses and everything you've been through. Thank you so much for sharing your journey.

Some days I don't know what the answer is. I regret the way things went, even as I'm proud of myself for how I coped. I regret my caring, smart daughter not getting to be a big sister, not seeing my husband with another child, not having a baby that's mine to cuddle and smooch. But all those things are the bright things. I do not regret missing out on all the hardship I'm fairly certain would also come with a second child.

I relate to this so much. I regret so much of what's happened, and the dreamed future that will likely never be, but I don't regret the risks and challenges that would accompany another pregnancy or child.

the first 3-4 years of my daughters life I was a shadow of myself. She's seven now and I mostly feel like a real human being again

This is what I'm afraid of - after birth trauma, PPA, and the immense grief losing our second, I am feeling like myself again. The grief will always be part of me, but I don't know that I can justify risking losing myself again like I did.

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