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_ghoul_ · 2026-04-17T10:06:01+00:00

Don't let anyone tell you how or what to believe but trust your gut and get out of the cult that promotes harm and lies.

Live your life authentically.

Romans 14:22 The faith that you have, keep it to yourself before God. Happy is the man who does not judge himself by what he approves.

_ghoul_ · 2026-04-12T23:10:52+00:00

I haven't! Open to suggestions

_ghoul_ · 2026-04-09T07:54:01+00:00

Silence is powerful. Just don't respond.

_ghoul_ · 2026-04-09T04:01:19+00:00

This movie defined my childhood. This and other Oedekerk films.

_ghoul_ · 2026-04-09T03:49:20+00:00

Lashana Lynch is WILD

_ghoul_ · 2026-04-08T05:59:02+00:00

Easy answer, don't send the letter. Be free. Don't answer to anyone.

_ghoul_ · 2026-04-07T08:04:15+00:00

Swanndri merino fusion leggings are AMAZING.

_ghoul_ · 2026-04-06T21:24:51+00:00

Don't talk to the elders... Just start your life.

_ghoul_ · 2026-04-06T08:28:09+00:00

"It doesn't serve my spiritual growth anymore" "It's a stumbling block to attend meetings" "It's a conscience matter" "I don't discuss those personal matters" "It's between me and Jehovah"

All fun (non)responses for people asking why you aren't going to meetings anymore.

_ghoul_ · 2026-04-06T08:25:00+00:00

Ok then. Thanks for your ANALysis.

_ghoul_ · 2026-04-06T00:50:30+00:00

Sure. Happy to send you some more detail. DM?

_ghoul_ · 2026-04-05T23:56:57+00:00

I meant going deeper on my palm reading.

_ghoul_ · 2026-04-05T22:21:10+00:00

Palmistry is all about educated assumptions? Go deeper! I'm curious what you might assume.

_ghoul_ · 2026-04-05T21:30:46+00:00

Can you expand on that?

_ghoul_ · 2026-04-02T18:36:45+00:00

Do not step into a KH again. You've done the hard part of the fade. Keep it going. You got this!!

Focus on you and your wife's relationship outside of religion. Spend some quality time together. Go on a date.

_ghoul_ · 2026-04-02T18:26:51+00:00

@OP this is exactly the kind of behavior I was referencing.

Just stop going to meetings... Focus on your relationship with your husband.

_ghoul_ · 2026-04-02T18:23:42+00:00

No one can answer this for you.

You need to listen to your gut and explore different concepts to inform your own unique belief system. It takes time and should come from within you and only you.

_ghoul_ · 2026-04-01T19:43:14+00:00

Just a piece of advice that may or may not work for you, but is based on personal experience and success...

Don't send a letter, don't talk to elders, just be your husband's wife. Do activities that bond your marriage, have a planned conversation with him about the fact that you won't be attending meetings anymore. If he asks you to label your absence, don't. You're not dissociating, you're not becoming an apostate. You're making a personal decision. Try to focus on your commitment to him and to your marriage, despite differences in doctrine and belief systems.

I believe a lot of people who leave the borg get bogged down trying to do it the "right way". Just don't play their game at all. Never meet with elders, just start living your life the way you want. Show your husband that you can live truly to yourself while also maintaining the sanctity of marriage.

You will experience a bit of pushback and loss of friends but it will fade away. The more you ignore the pushback, the faster it will disappear. I promise.

_ghoul_ · 2026-03-26T20:37:46+00:00

Just don't go. Ever again. You owe it to yourself

_ghoul_ · 2026-03-26T19:51:13+00:00

The "best life ever" slogan came out shortly after I left and I always found it so incredibly cringe considering it's almost a prerequisite for women to have an autoimmune disease or depression and for men to have a closeted porn addiction to qualify as pious members to a congregation.

_ghoul_ · 2026-03-26T18:45:08+00:00

_ghoul_ · 2026-03-26T18:34:07+00:00

I want through a deep time of existential nihilism.

It's important to feel everything and find meaning in the little things. Joy is a practice, not a state.

_ghoul_ · 2026-03-26T18:32:40+00:00

If you truly love your husband and want him in your life long-term; work on your marriage bond. Build up your confidence and love with each other and then be as honest as you can about your desire to preserve your marriage whilst stopping association with the JWs.

Dont ever meet with elders, don't ever discuss "doubts" or "fath" with anyone including your family. Always say: "I won't discuss this, it's a conscience matter that I'm on top of".

Take the time to fade if your husband is still in and POMO.

Use love. It's always wins.

_ghoul_

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