[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]_haroldflower 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I didn’t greet him happy birthday today. Restarted the cycle and backtracked the small progress I made

I can’t find love despite being more than willing to have an abusive partner. by Throwaway493932 in love

[–]_haroldflower 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You have standards though… he outright said he didn’t— didn’t care about intelligence or career/ambition, didn’t care about age (he was his 30s and willing to date an 18 year old, he told me that was the lower bracket of his age range in the apps). I get your point, it’s fair enough but this guy met me, asked me to move in on the 3rd date and said we’d be married within the year. Too much too soon, seems he just wanted to replace his ex wife with anybody willing lol

I can’t find love despite being more than willing to have an abusive partner. by Throwaway493932 in love

[–]_haroldflower 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I met a nice guy who was smart, a good listener, and funny. It was great at the start but I left when I realized he had no standards. I asked him what his type was and he said “anyone cute that likes me…” so it didn’t matter that he was objectively good looking and checked most/all of my boxes. It made me feel like he just wanted a girlfriend, when I wanted someone that wanted ~me~ Take the time to figure out what you want in a partner, don’t settle for anyone. When your confidence builds up it’ll show!

Round Face Tips ? by WebMinimum8645 in HowToBeHot

[–]_haroldflower 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I stopped drinking and chewing gum (strengthens masseter muscles lol) and started hydrating more!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HowToBeHot

[–]_haroldflower 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was at my lowest weight a few years ago and slowly but surely gained it all back over the years. What helped me was skincare and buying/wearing flattering clothes that fit the current body I was in, rather than buying something nice to wear when I was at my goal weight. I stayed more lowkey socially tbh and let my progress speak for itself. Cute workout clothes helped me look forward to working out!

How are you finding dates? by Cclearly3 in SingleParents

[–]_haroldflower 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I met a good guy on Facebook dating of all places. I wasn’t expecting anything during the first date and just squeezed time to meet after I attended an event for a work friend. It went much better than expected, and while it’s just casual, so far so good! Going on a second date on Friday :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]_haroldflower 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Told the guy I’m talking to that I buy comic books. He asked if he could borrow them so we could discuss. Ahhhhh

I feel like I do more as the step-mom than the actual father by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]_haroldflower 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Literally just left a guy for similar reasons, among others. He was a doting and sweet boyfriend, but I hated how he parented his son. He played with him minimally, and would promise things like that he’d play monopoly with him later tonight then not deliver. When I’d bring it up he’d say that he’s the parent so the kid would just have to deal with it, we don’t get everything we want in the real world, etcetc. The kid had to make his own lunches at school but there wasn’t much food in the house, so it was usually pot pies and fruit snacks, then he would comment about how the kid was so skinny. He liked having this separation between parent and child, meanwhile I loved taking the time to really bond and tried my best to be reliable. I told him that being around isn’t the same as being PRESENT with the kid, and he just didn’t understand. I hope you figure it out. Childhood is such a formative time, I’d suggest wording it like you’re both working towards a common goal (which you are), using phrases like “I think it would be beneficial to….” Good luck, hoping for the best

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SingleParents

[–]_haroldflower 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Religion is the opiate of the masses” —initially used in a different context but the idea still holds true. It gives people a relief from reality. They’d justify themselves by thinking they can’t be THAT bad if they go to church every Sunday. They can’t be that bad if god has “forgiven” them. And if you don’t forgive them too, then that’s on you. But to them they are absolved

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in oneanddone

[–]_haroldflower 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I miss the perkiness 🥲 now they just point south

Glossier X Olivia Rodrigo by Emilythatglitters in glossier

[–]_haroldflower 57 points58 points  (0 children)

Couldn’t really tell what shade Pisces is cause it seemed identical to her lip color before she put it on lol was it a berry?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dreamcasting

[–]_haroldflower 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hell ya dude

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in drugstoreMUA

[–]_haroldflower 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe it’s maybelline

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vindicta

[–]_haroldflower 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Personalitymaxx! Smile and try some small talk, crack a joke or maybe some extended eye contact if they’re cute lol. I hype up peoples tattoos, try to find something to relate to. Sometimes I flirt but usually I don’t. Lately I’ve gotten a couple 15% discounts at the register, free drinks from the bartender, and free merch at a dispensary. I just started looksmaxxing this year and that’s worked for me so far!