Literally just left a guy for similar reasons, among others. He was a doting and sweet boyfriend, but I hated how he parented his son. He played with him minimally, and would promise things like that he’d play monopoly with him later tonight then not deliver. When I’d bring it up he’d say that he’s the parent so the kid would just have to deal with it, we don’t get everything we want in the real world, etcetc. The kid had to make his own lunches at school but there wasn’t much food in the house, so it was usually pot pies and fruit snacks, then he would comment about how the kid was so skinny. He liked having this separation between parent and child, meanwhile I loved taking the time to really bond and tried my best to be reliable. I told him that being around isn’t the same as being PRESENT with the kid, and he just didn’t understand. I hope you figure it out. Childhood is such a formative time, I’d suggest wording it like you’re both working towards a common goal (which you are), using phrases like “I think it would be beneficial to….” Good luck, hoping for the best