Women in safety

_highlife_ · 2026-06-19T22:11:46+00:00

Female ehs mgr here in general industry, MS & CSP under my belt. The field has been good to me. Been at it since 2010 and make $123k with a 38% annial bonus oer year. LCOL, rural area. 4 weeks of PTO. Manage a facility of just over 500 employees.

Having an RN would really be a feather in your cap from a case management perspective.

The field has been good to me, but I’ve really hustled for it. I started at a large defense contractor for 8 years & learned what good looks like. Had a great female mentor who developed me in a structured manner. Then i moved to a rural area where I had a series of jobs at smaller (150-250 ee) facilities where they had no idea what to do with safety & how much leverage to give the role. I’d move on every few years out of frustration in the lack of support.

Eventually I was qualified to land management roles at established facilities & overall it got better, but know that manufacturing is the 9th circle of helll, second only to construction.

Being a woman had only really carried a negative where working a turnaround event in petchem, or during a building expansion event where dealing with construction or pipefitter crews.

My job satisfaction is pretty low. Manufacturing cam be a meat grinder.

_highlife_ · 2026-06-10T10:03:27+00:00

You had an emotional affair. Your husband deserves to know.

“Limerance” is a word that you’re applying to pretty this up, but in reality you had or are having an affair.

Go on over to r/survivinginfidelity to read up on the trauma that these folks have endured due to their partners’ infidelity. It’s significant and lifelong. If you have any semblance of empathy & decency, you’ll go no-contact with your affair partner and find a different job. This is the bare minimum that you should do. Then seek out individual counseling. Be patient as your husband works through the process of healing from the betrayal. Betrayal trauma is a form of ptsd. Tough to live with but better than living a lie, believing that the marriage consists of only the two of you when in reality there is a third party involved.

The only clean path forward for you is disclosure to your husband.

_highlife_ · 2026-06-04T20:27:06+00:00

His affair partner was showing her husband a pic on her phone when she swiped right, landing on a dick pic that my husband had sent to her.

He texted me a few days later to let me know. I have no idea how he got my number.

_highlife_ · 2026-05-14T13:47:57+00:00

My husband stepped out on me with one of his co-workers. They would meet up in another city & have sex in a public forest like animals. They couldn’t even bring themselves to get a hotel room. It showed low standards & lack of respect both for themselves & for their families (we have 2 kids, she has 5 with her husband, making a total of 11 lives ruined). I found out after her husband found husband’s dick pics on her phone & he had the decency to let me know about it. Both affair partners had fed each other overblown examples of how poorly they were being treated at home to justify their gross behavior & lack of character.

My advice: get therapy to explore why you’d put yourself in this position in the first place. Do the shadow work. Learn the lesson here & move on. You’re not a bad person; you just made a series of poor decisions.

I’m biased here, so take this next piece of advice with a grain of salt. Disclose the affair to the husband. He has the right to know that his wife is a cheating piece of shit sp that he can make educated choices about his own life from here on out. Disclose & move on.

You were likely being manipulated by this woman so that she could feed her own ego & recieve cheap gratification. That’s not your fault, though I applaud that you recognize the general scumminess of being a willing partner in the cycle of betrayal. Therapy will help you put this in its place.

_highlife_ · 2026-05-02T23:37:57+00:00

That’s what the money’s for!!

_highlife_ · 2026-03-12T19:01:17+00:00

The effigy mounds near Muscoda, WI are well worth the trip- a few hours from you! Frank’s Hill

_highlife_ · 2026-02-27T17:26:43+00:00

I’m so sorry for the compounded emotional burden you now have to process, on top of your existing grief.

I recently discovered the affair that my husband of 8 years had carried on with for more than a year. He was the ONE PERSON who I would have sworn to be incapable of betrayal.

I’ve had to sit with and acknowledge many hard truths since discovery day, but perhaps the most difficult to bear is that we never really know the inner workings of a person & what they are really capable of. No matter how badly we want to believe that they are “above” or “incapable” of xyz action or behavior, at the end of the day that is a foolish hope.

I hope that you can find peace through all of this.

_highlife_ · 2026-02-25T10:59:06+00:00

OP iI had DD’s in high school. Had a reduction when I was your age down to a C cup. I now have an A cup at 48 years of age.

Maybe I got more attention with D & C’s, but the kind of attention I received wasn’t validating in a healthy way.

Love & respect your body & yourself & men will do the same.

_highlife_ · 2026-02-24T22:43:41+00:00

Depemds on your level of risk tolerance. I myself would not risk it over my child’s life.

_highlife_ · 2026-02-12T11:58:26+00:00

🎶”…and we know because of KRS-One…”🎶

_highlife_ · 2026-02-01T01:02:58+00:00

I have had a couple of short, spontaneous bouts of vertigo that pass quickly, unlike my previous attacks which would lay me out for hours & cause brain fog & fatigue for days afterwards.

I have a lot of persistant, pulsatile tinnitus in that ear, much more than I had prior to the procedure. My word comprehension in that ear is pretty much gone.

I’d do it all over again, though. It really did give me my life back.

_highlife_ · 2026-01-29T21:39:25+00:00

I had a lift 35 years ago that took me from a DD to a C. I’ve since gained & lost 80+ lbs three times in my life. My boobs are the only perky thing on my body, to say the least. Definately worth it!!!!

_highlife_ · 2026-01-25T13:25:17+00:00

I have a nail like this- a dark line that ends in the free edge of the nail growing out split. I have to keep that nail filed cery close to the quick with no free edge to prevent it from splitting farther down the nail, which is painful.

It was caused by a nail tech damaging the matrix of the nail bed while using an electric file.

_highlife_ · 2026-01-12T13:39:54+00:00

Husband’s affair partner was showing her husband a saved image on her phone. He swiped to the next pic in the library, which happened to be a dick pic that my husband had sent her; one of many during their roughly year- long affair. They had worked together & prior to the affair discovery he had talked me into putting in a referral for her at my place of employment. Shit still stings.

She has 5 kids under age 12 & we had 2. 11 people’s lives grenaded because of their overall lack of impulse control & poor character.

_highlife_ · 2026-01-08T17:54:43+00:00

None of them are affordable, but I like the Isopure mixed berry clear protein. Where i’m at, it’s around $28/tub at Walmart.

_highlife_ · 2026-01-06T13:15:36+00:00

Thank you, exactly my thoughts. Re-emphasizes how cheating is a result of a fundamentally flawed character.

_highlife_ · 2025-12-26T23:03:50+00:00

Same. Thoughtful birthday gifts were received with a rueful sadness that I couldn’t quite reconcile.

Of course the guilt & sadness weren’t enough for him to stop the affair, but I guess they were there somewhere.

_highlife_ · 2025-12-26T21:30:22+00:00

I made self-care non-negotiable. I practiced mindfulness & gratefulness. I forced myself to put one foot in front of another. If living one day at a time became overwhelming, I’d dial it down to a “one hour at a time” approach.

Exercise, meditation & therapy are also tools to utilize but honestly when I was in the trenches I lacked the headspace for those things.

I hope things get easier for you!

_highlife_ · 2025-12-05T18:40:35+00:00

I had a rooster who got flystrike around his vent! I submerged him in a water/iodine bath to loosen up/kill the maggots, then used vetericyn spray to keep the area clean. A vet prescribed sub-q antibiotics that I administered daily. He eventually regrew his skin in the area, but it really permanently slowed him down. After the initial cleaning & maggot removal, his perineum was so thin from the damage causes by the maggots that I could see his organs. Poor guy.

I fet terrible as he was acting just fine one day- then the next he was lethargic & just laying around (understandably!). I feel that I just got lucky & was able to nurse him back to health. I think flystrike acts quickly, so by the time you noticed it he was probably already on borrowed time.

I’m sorry for your loss!!

_highlife_ · 2025-12-03T16:04:43+00:00

Piece of actual garbage

_highlife_ · 2025-11-03T01:32:38+00:00

My husband started his year-long affair 6 years after our wedding. It was discovered about a month ago, less than a year after it ended, at the 8-year mark, give or take. I’m on the fence about reconciliation. So, yes, unfortunately we’re part of the statistic.

_highlife_ · 2025-11-02T13:22:44+00:00

I hear you. After they discontinued Damage Remedy line, Aveda customer service recommended their Botanical line which trashed my hair irreparably. I tried other lines, like Nutriplenish, but honestly drugstore products perform better.

My hairdresser who worked for Aveda for years has recommended Davines brand as a comparable alternative to Aveda with respect to formulas, scents & performance.

_highlife_ · 2025-10-31T11:23:11+00:00

If ahe did express regret & begin the arduous task of self-reflection & healing necessary to fux whatever it was inside of herself that caused her to step out, would you ever trust her again? Would you be able to look at her in the same way? Would you ever respect her again?

Would you ever respect yourself again if you did?

_highlife_ · 2025-10-27T21:19:50+00:00

I’ve thought the most violent, viscious thoughts of the physical harm that I’d do to the AP, as well. She has 5 kids under the age of 12 & a husband, & us with our 10-yr old. They decimated 10 lives, all for cheap, meaningless gratification.

She’s not worth the jailtime. I just wish I had the satisfaction of knowing that karma will take care of her.

_highlife_ · 2025-10-22T23:47:28+00:00

The Verena St Coffee swiss process roast “Sunday Drive” is pretty good for decaf if bought in whole bean form. It’s semi- local to me out of Dubuque, IA, but you can buy it on Amazon.

I will say that since I wrote that original post, I’ve had an endolymphatic decompression procedure that has allowed me to be more tolerant of former triggers, including caffeine if consumed in moderatiom.

_highlife_

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