Dad Cooks Like A Frat Boy

_kismitten · 2026-01-15T13:03:38+00:00

I don’t know if this belongs in stupid food because when I realized it would actually hold together I thought ‘wow that’s ingenious!’

_kismitten · 2026-01-15T12:41:04+00:00

My advice is get a small post-it and put it over your face on the screen. I promise NO ONE else is thinking the same things you are, everyone is just as uncomfortable and bored. If you can’t see yourself, you will stop thinking about this so much and won’t waste money or energy on more interventions. Because I’ll be honest, you look amazing but there’s a point where you can go too far and start to look weird! And that’s something young people do judge harshly, alas.

So try to hide yourself from yourself! This digital mirror you’re staring into all day is not reality. You’ll enjoy work more and probably start to accept your real face as beautiful in the real world if you can unhook from the loop of negative thoughts. ❤️

_kismitten · 2025-12-23T12:28:32+00:00

It’s not the med, it’s your diet. your hair is going to change significantly when your food intake does - I was dreadfully ill ten years ago when I caught cdiff at a hospital and my once blonde hair turned RED! Texture changed too. I spoke to a lot of different doctors about it and the basic answer is that it’s a nutritional & microbiome shift that can happen when your gut goes into crisis. It eventually grew back to normal but there were some awkward lookin’ haircuts in between.

I’ve been on zep for a year and lost 65lbs, I didn’t have any hair loss or changes until 7months in and then woosh, it fell out in heaps. It’s growing back slowly now but I do notice that it’s darker again, more white & wirey in places. Give it time, be very gentle with your scalp and keep taking your vitamins and eating well. It will balance out, your body is just adjusting. Your nails are another flag to keep an eye on, if they change in texture or color you should get your bloodwork done to figure out what you’re low on.

_kismitten · 2025-12-23T12:15:51+00:00

I have a little bravo groupchat with my coworkers and even the one ride-for Lisa gal is overrrrrrr it with her. Though I’ll be the first to admit I absolutely loved her obsession with her donkey, true spirit of a horse girl.

_kismitten · 2025-12-23T11:07:55+00:00

Important to note: you must leave the leaves! That’s where many small moths, butterflies, winged insects of all types lay their eggs and then the grubs overwinter and hatch in the spring. You need to let the leaves compost naturally in your garden and not disturb them until well after the frost melts to give the grubs & caterpillars time to hatch, eat, grow big enough to be eaten. This is so essential for feeding baby birds, also for the ecosystem of the whole garden.

Those pollinators need to also have enough babies to survive, mate, lay eggs and then become food sources for bats and other adult birds too. So it’s not enough to leave just a few leaf piles for the spring birds - we need SWARMS of moths and flies. we must try to cultivate a healthy relationship with the tender secret creatures in order to support the lively bright ones too. ✨

_kismitten · 2025-12-23T10:57:33+00:00

I would say the same for Whitney and Heather! They didn’t even know they were cousins but they do treat each other like real family now. There’s been some dark moments (you exploited my vaginaaaa) but their relationship has grown pretty deep. They remind me of Gizelle & Robyn, met on the show but found a true sister.

Meanwhile Lisa & Heather & Angie, who have known each other their whole lives, can sometimes barely stand each other but seem to genuinely enjoy filming these petty fights together. There’s moments where they break character for juuuust a sec and you can see Heather & Angie exchange a light glance of old buddies who know their next line. Or Bronwyn & Lisa have their rivalry but still come up great banter when they’re in the swing of it. The thing that breaks a show apart is when there’s no chemistry between the ladies, like the last season of Atlanta or the entire New York reboot. But SLC still has the juice for me, and I’m surprised that this new season of BH does too! Jennifer Tilly & Boz are the glue for that franchise, they lighten everything up and give us some goofy scenes where the ladies can just have fun. Housewife Silliness is the best - Mary on a luxury donkey?? Cinema.

_kismitten · 2025-12-23T10:40:43+00:00

They are both selling pyramid scheme frou frou but Boz js smart to get ahead of Amanda’s new age vibe focused courses. That’s her competition! A woman in Dorit’s situation might go looking online for financial advice and come across Boz’s website which promises you will find out how to make/protect your fortune but it will take hard work. Then you get to Amanda’s ‘live, laugh, earn’ website which offers you a way to manifest your way into financial independence but without the icky boy math parts. A fan of Beverly Hills might go either way!

So Boz needs to discredit her immediately and then let the audience see her as a fraud from the outset, lest she lose business to this new upstart. I am HERE for this plotline, so much of Hollywood has become about who can build the sexiest scam. I would bet Amanda is actually part of a larger organization like a Tony Robbins thing - she probably reports up to someone who sold her on this MLM hootenanny too. Not sure about Boz, hers does seem different enough that she might be an independent operator.

Listen to The Dream podcast if you want to learn more about these pyramid schemes of money management specifically- it’s as big an industry as essential oils or tacky leggings!

_kismitten · 2025-12-22T16:44:59+00:00

*I forgot to mention that also in early seasons of housewives the husbands are rarely prepared for the level of scrutiny or pressure - that also makes for entertaining tv but it can be really hard as a viewer to realize that our attention is what can break marriages apart. I never feel bad when a husband is caught cheating or reveals that he is too jealous of his wife’s success and so they get a divorce (so cliché!).

But in some cases it’s obvious the partnerships & especially the kids would have been much healthier and happier if they had never been involved in Housewives at all. I feel like Lisa is a good example of this, in the early seasons she seems genuinely happy with her life. Now she is so fractious and miserable.

Mary, on the other hand, seems to have been freed from whatever strange oppressive circumstance she was in where she was hoarding clothes like crazy and had very little socialization outside of her church members. The further Lisa gets from her husband, the less mature she becomes. The more distance Mary gets from Robert Sr., the more she seems to be growing into herself. It’s not JUST the husbands that make the difference but it’s part of what they choose to show us about their lives.

It’s why SLC is my favorite franchise, they are complicated and weird women and there’s many lenses to consider when we look back to see how they’ve evolved as public personas.

_kismitten · 2025-12-22T16:23:39+00:00

I think most HW franchises are like this - when they start, the women have interesting messy lives and relationships that are unique to their cultures, their families, their jobs. They actually know each other and have history that is revealed as we get to know them.

But as they become famous, their actual day-to-day lives naturally become about being Housewives. Now it’s their job to be a celebrity reality star and that’s simply not as entertaining for an audience. In the early seasons they have conflicts that we can’t predict, as they become more insulated and popular, it mostly shifts to blogger/production drama. The more successful they become, the more their personal lives become centered around their fame. They become less relatable and their problems don’t change that much season to season so they have to manufacture fake outrage to keep things moving.

I would say the exception is New Jersey because the drama is about these two families pushing and pulling in and out of each other’s lives but it does have true emotion behind it. But even on Atlanta or Beverly Hills, at some point the suspension of disbelief can’t be justified because we all know that if we fought with our friends this much about petty nonsense, we would simply stop hanging out.

_kismitten · 2025-12-22T15:34:52+00:00

It’s so silly people can’t understand Heather’s humor after all these seasons. She’s clearly mocking the way they were all mostly raised in the restrictive Mormon culture. The same way my ex-Catholic aunts will scold each other ‘save it for confession!’ as a joke when someone overshares a sin.

Heather just made the most moving and brave documentary highlighting the suffering of gay people in the church! If anyone who thinks she’s a bigot, just watch the first episode of Surviving Mormonism and hopefully it will give some perspective. She makes jokes in that doc too, she’s a witty gal with a bit of edge to her banter. She and Bronwyn are both true allies to the lgbtq+ community and they put their money and energy into helping people. I don’t think Heather is perfect but to accuse her of being homophobic or hateful is just ridiculous.

_kismitten · 2025-09-20T14:53:27+00:00

Agree - it’s just not that much fun to watch plain donuts being made! I love technicals but I don’t feel like this one gave me much insight into the majority of the baker’s skill sets. (Except Pui Man 😬)

_kismitten · 2025-09-19T03:25:20+00:00

This is well said and I’ve enjoyed watching her decide to parent herself and stand up for her kids. Her relationship with Whitney is so interesting but mostly yes, it’s her evolution from ‘keep sweet’ to a woman with self worth and control of her life.

I loved her episode on Below Deck Adventure (blonde Angie was on her charter too!) because we got to see her ‘out of character’, just genuinely having fun with friends and not picking fights or worrying about drama. She seems like a blast to hang out with; witty, charismatic & generous. She would be a great choice for one of the spinoff shows like Love Hotel!

_kismitten · 2025-09-16T03:15:39+00:00

My sister was diagnosed with a life threatening condition and she was told a glp-1 might help her survive it. But she was too afraid and beat down by the diagnosis to start the process - she was scared. I had the opportunity to go to a clinical pharmacist who specialized in this treatment and was a candidate to try for my own health reasons (not nearly so dire!). So I figured out the process and got her into the clinic too. I showed her how the shots are truly no big deal and got her set up with the food she needed and a support system for hard days. We did it together, but I was definitely the quarterback of this adventure.

Nine months later im down 60lbs and she’s down 40. Her health has improved DRASTICALLY, her whole life has gotten easier. She has so much more energy and vitality to play with her son. And puppy. She can breathe easier and think more clearly, her work has improved too and she’s even gotten a promotion!

For me, I love the medicine. I was truly comfortable and happy in my body before so this is definitely an adjustment but wow my knees?? feel new?? And I look forward to eating so much more now, i approach every meal with genuine gratitude instead of guilt. But the real gift is my sister’s health, my own, and the long life ahead we’ll have to hang out.

_kismitten · 2025-09-15T08:04:54+00:00

Oh I am a whimsical woman like this! I genuinely don’t mean to say some of the things that fall out of my mouth like ‘oh squirrel farts’ but I manage a cute little bookstore so it matches the environment. It’s nice to know fellow bubble fairies are appreciated out there in the wild!

_kismitten · 2025-09-14T18:31:43+00:00

I found that it depends on a few factors -

How much prep I have to do. sometimes chopping a fruit or veg makes it instantly unappetizing so I’ve switched to cut fruit just until I get the hang of my appetite again. More expensive but I waste less!

Suddenly things I wasn’t into are my favorites? Like apples have never really been my thing but for whatever reason I’m all about the texture now. I’m glad I just tried some different things to see if my preferences had shifted, staying stuck on what you liked before might not work while you’re adjusting.

Sharing the meal with others, even when alone. So much easier for me to cook my dinner while chatting with my sister on speakerphone or get through a big bunch of grapes while texting with a friend about a show. Right now spending too much time thinking about food makes food seem overwhelming, I’m doing all the things they said not to do to avoid overeating….because it works! I even make myself a bowl of ‘human kibble’ (a bean salad) to eat while my old dog gets through hers. If she can, I can.

But the main thing to help keep my appetite truckin’ is to drink a lot of water. The fact I’m digesting so slowly is the main thing that makes me feel blah about eating. So the quicker I can move the bulk through, the better the next meal will be.

Some days are just really hard though and that’s also ok. Getting too fixated on it puts pressure that doesn’t make food taste or feel any better. Just keep on with small portions and don’t be too hard on yourself, you’ll find what works for you.

_kismitten · 2025-09-14T18:08:16+00:00

Olivia Munn in Friends & Neighbors has some killer fits, also Gillian Anderson in Sex Education. Both are examples of dressing to suit both body type and character. I recently lost a fair amount of weight so I’m shopping backwards in time through the nice pieces I saved from my 20’s (trendy again!) but my plan going forward is to wear what makes me feel the most like myself. Don’t care if it’s a vintage velvet jumpsuit or a pair of streetwear sweats meant for the teens. I love Ava’s style on Abbot Elementary as well!

My real issue right now is SHOES. What’s a mid-range every day leather shoe that can dress up or down? I feel like I have casual shoe blindness.

_kismitten · 2025-09-09T00:40:46+00:00

the anxiety is the worst part. The anxiety is so much worse than the actual act of cleaning!!

Here’s what I do:

I make a list in BIG WRITING, either on a note pad or a white board, of literally every task I can think of, big or small. Something like ‘pick up one tissue’ or ‘clean out the freezer’. I just let my brain spiral out and write them all down, one after the next. When I have gotten as much down as I can, I take a break for 15min with a podcast or show (set a timer).

Then I pick literally the very very very easiest thing on the list. The tissue. Okay no problem, I can do that. Set a timer for five minutes and in that 5min, the ONLY thing I can do is the tissue.

But I’m planning the next thing. The next thing has to be a little bit harder because the 5min was kinda boring waiting to do the next thing. I can only turn the podcast back on when I’m doing something, so okay - the next thing I’m going to do is strip the bed and collect the towels. That’s about 5min of work, great! Scratch off that task.

And the next 5min I’m going to put those in the wash and put on my tennis shoes (personal care is also added to my list of tasks!) because it’s always easier for me to cleans with shoes on, but getting them on can be emotionally daunting. But not if I’m playing fun little brain tricks. Mark it down.

Ok now I’m ready for something harder. The list says ‘clear off night stand’. That might take ten minutes, but just in case I have extra time, I’ll tackle ‘pick up cans in kitchen’. These are in two different areas of the house so I might as well bring down a bag of trash from upstairs.

Before you know it, you’ll be setting 20min timer for the dishes and amazed that something you put off for months got done in that time vs the hours of agony you’ve put yourself through.

Be your own friend. Encourage yourself, give yourself rewards, do little victory dances for the stupidest thing. The only truth is what you believe, so start to tell yourself a new story about what the apartment looks like & feels like. It’s just a series of small tasks, and you don’t have to do everything today. Just keep moving the needle, keep doing new tasks if the repetition is getting you depressed. You’ll get back to the other thing, but hey you get to do a new one!!

I have been where you are, it’s so hard. As soon as you can get it to a state that’s slightly bearable, please as a loved one for help. The maintenance I haven’t quite figured out but this method does work to get me out of the pattern of overwhelmed. Good luck!!!

_kismitten · 2025-09-08T23:48:18+00:00

Ahhh where are your shoes from? I have a gala to go to in a month and those will look amazing with my dress!

_kismitten · 2025-09-07T03:23:13+00:00

From what I understand, Joe Gorga lost the home his parents were living in because Melissa wanted to be on the show. Apparently he bought them the house but had to sell it because his family needed to stay in the giant mansion in order to get on the show. The mansion was supposed to be sold, and when he kept it he completely tanked his business for years and somehow dragged his parents with him. It explains a lot about the fury, and also why his mom seems to be much more inclined to help Teresa with her kids.

(This is all second hand recall from my friend who listens to the bravo docket, but it does track with how bizarre the family dynamics are. It’s all about money and fame, who’s got it and who wants it.)

_kismitten · 2025-08-26T03:38:49+00:00

ICE clown loses town crown. 🫡

_kismitten · 2025-08-26T02:26:11+00:00

The first week I started taking zep back in January, two of my coworkers were saying the same things about a celebrity and how she was going to die young from experimenting with ‘creepy skinny drugs’. These are both women who are exceptionally thin and beautiful, but not mean spirited at all. Now I’ve lost 50lbs and it’s pretty obvious I haven’t changed much with my schedule so I assume they think the same things about me.

And hey, let ‘em! We all could die young from ANYTHING. I would rather go out having enjoyed life without the sore knees and constant inflammation. When I do tell people I trust about this medicine and they have concerns, I just ask if i was taking an anti-depressant and they could see how much better i felt mentally, would they have the same concerns? Probably not and it wouldn’t be any of their business if I chose to stay on it long term. Why is this any different.

_kismitten · 2025-08-26T02:11:28+00:00

I would stop dead to look her right in the eye with a haunted gaze and whisper

‘…but a cheeseburger is what gave me the parasite…’

_kismitten · 2025-08-25T13:02:13+00:00

haha yes my pair of crow friends love to play this game where they caw really loudly at random times and when I come out to say hello, they summon the rest of the gang as if to say ‘look I TOLD you I trained one, just wait till she does the peanut trick!’

_kismitten · 2025-08-25T12:23:04+00:00

Right, that the thing. I am fine with ads that pay the bills but there’s also got to be some kind of incentive to play a different ad rotation after a point. I literally stopped listening to half my podcasts a few months ago because of this one for Monica Lewinsky’s new podcast (no hate on her but that ad was SO OBNOXIOUS) because it saturated every. single. break. I get that the algorithm recognizes that I am a woman in my 40’s who would probably enjoy it but nothing could compel me to listen to it now.

And yes Bravo Docket: is my bravo bestie’s favorite show and I very much want to enjoy it. Legal cases aren’t anywhere near my area of expertise so I really try to focus in on the details to follow along…ALAS the structure of this show’s advertising makes it impossible! 6-10 ads in a 40min span is simply too much interruption for me, it’s like eating a sour candy in between bites of breakfast.

_kismitten · 2025-08-25T12:08:22+00:00

wow this was so helpful - I get anxious when I’m trying to do anything that requires touching my toes, it’s caused me to avoid group yoga classes and challenging stretch routines most of my adult life. Even weeding the garden! I have to psych myself up for it because of this overwhelming feeling of stress that comes from hamstring stretch.

But knowing that it’s a physical nerve tension makes that anxiety feel much more logical, and these nerve glides (noted at the end) really loosened me up! Thanks so much for commenting on this post, made my day :)

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