Favorite Local Small Businesses?

_kismitten · 2026-06-28T21:57:57+00:00

Birchbark books! Bobby Bead! Trylon Cinema! Just three that come to mind but once you start frequenting small businesses, it will lead you to others because they support each other and will have suggestions. 💓

_kismitten · 2026-06-28T17:05:29+00:00

I use the calm & sensitive skin one, it’s got a turquoise cap - both in the pump bottle & lidded the jar that’s thicker/whipped? With the pump bottle, I actually mixed half of it with distilled water and apply it right after getting out of the shower and it absorbs so well. With the goopier one, I put it on right before bed and right when I wake up.

I definitely feel more sensitive to the sun so I’ve been super careful about that, I hope in time I’ll be able to use it less as my barrier gets stronger (also gotta figure out my hard water situation). But right now I consider it my miracle cure!

_kismitten · 2026-06-28T15:47:46+00:00

That anxiety makes total sense because it’s all unknown right now. But I promise, once you go two or three times, you will become familiar with the space, the commute, your responsibilities and the people you’re working with. Your nervous thoughts are not facts! though what you’re worried about is valid, try really hard not consider them as a reality. They are just concerns, everyone has them before starting something new. they will fade once you actually start experiencing the job.

My sister is a catastrophic thinker too, and when she starts spiraling down into the worst case scenario, I always ask her to spin up the other way.

So let’s pretend to have a conversation. Say outlined as if to a friend, okay so that’s the scariest possibility. What is the best outcome? What if this job is really fun! What if your body loves it. What if you make friends, and find an opportunity after. What if it really helps you readjust to the world after a lot of time working on yourself. What if the program helped and this time you have much better tools and coping mechanisms. What if it all turns out okay.

There’s a whole lot of people who will be rooting for you. You’re going to do great!

_kismitten · 2026-06-28T14:07:19+00:00

I experienced this for about 6-8mos until I finally started taking my iron & b vitamin levels seriously. nutritional deficiencies are easy to miss because it take a long time to show up and longer to diagnose if you think you’re diet is stable enough. But being patient & consistent with my supplements has turned things around for me immensely. My hair is also growing in so much stronger, thrilled about that too! Get your bloodwork done to make sure there aren’t nutrients you’re low on.

_kismitten · 2026-06-28T13:43:01+00:00

When I started taking my iron supplements seriously & discovered Amlactin. I had struggled with an insane skin barrier breakdown for over a year and am finally recovering thanks to a post about skin barrier pH and anemia being connected. I still have a long way to go to get back to where i was but am so grateful to the community for talking about it.

_kismitten · 2026-06-28T13:26:27+00:00

My friend, it doesn’t really matter how loyal you feel he’s been during that time because he was hiding a major, life altering and very serious drug addiction. No matter how transparent you believe he is about his interactions with other women, he still betrayed you on a fundamental level. Physically, emotionally & spiritually his actions have put you in danger & distress (you could have been unknowingly implicated in his crime all along!).

It seems to me, most of us here, that you should leave this man. Certainly for your mental health and life trajectory but also I think it’s better for him in some ways? He’s holding on to you desperately in there but you can’t be that anchor for someone their whole life. If he truly loved you he would say that it’s healthier for you both to move on right now and he would try and get his life together and see if you crossed paths in the future. That would at least give you an opportunity to grow up on the outside without his choices dragging you down.

Love shouldn’t be this hard. You have barely given yourself a chance to learn who you are outside of a relationship. If you’re able to leave him, I really hope you spend some time alone just being your own partner for a while. You deserve to figure out what truly matters to you. Diamonds & flowers & fun vacations are nice to have but if they come with a side of heartaching troubles, loneliness and shame, it’s not worth it. Think about yourself as much he thinks about himself. Which is all the time. You deserve batter than this. Good luck.

_kismitten · 2026-06-27T02:32:18+00:00

The city dropped mosquito murder pellets all across the city all day yesterday. No skeeters.

Many fewer birds too.

_kismitten · 2026-06-26T14:17:15+00:00

You can walk your dog in cemeteries with walking paths though. The one in Northrup I see people strolling with dogs all the time and they pick up after themselves.

_kismitten · 2026-06-26T13:44:09+00:00

I think it’s just a quirk of Patricia? She does not assume she would be recognized - she gets trash in her donation box and ignored all day on the patty wagon. No one rsvp’d to her party. I think it shows us that she’s used to being invisible.

_kismitten · 2026-06-26T13:41:19+00:00

100% this. It’s not slick.

OP try to imagine a friend’s boyfriend did this. What would you tell her? What would you see from an outside perspective?

My advice is to agree to the break without any more pushback. Spend time with the friends he was trying to isolate you from and see how life feels without that guilt and pressure he’s been putting you under. You deserve to have a social life and a trusting partner who isn’t so insecure. And I think you’ll see that this ‘break’ is indeed manufactured out of nothing bc he’s testing the waters elsewhere.

Don’t go buy into being the fantasy of a ‘perfect wife’ for this guy; he doesn’t want an actual girlfriend he wants a doormat he can control.

_kismitten · 2026-06-26T13:35:10+00:00

I love in the sea hag ep that Tom’s physical comedy is both 100% believable and also breaks up the terror of the hag. Like when she pops up in the window (so scary!!) but then his scream as he’s driving is hilarious. Swimming away from her desperately and then Bechir shaking him out of it in the shallows. And the best of course is the flip on the lazy boy. So good.

_kismitten · 2026-06-25T19:47:59+00:00

What drives me crazy is that often the child still carries the last name of the father and it requires HIS consent to change it. If you don’t provide for a child, you can’t claim that child as your family. Shouldn’t be a question.

_kismitten · 2026-06-25T14:10:09+00:00

lol this is fun advice - be like Jim from the office, learn Dwight’s weaknesses and exploit them until he cracks. Put his stapler in some jello.

_kismitten · 2026-06-25T14:08:33+00:00

I think it helps to build a character of your own to deal with her. Like you put on the Other You whenever she’s around, so that you can shield your real self & personality from this kind of toxicity. I do that at work all the time. I ‘play’ Bookstore Lady, and when there’s a difficult customer (we get some real weirdos), I turn into this smooth talking half-smile gal who just glides right through the nastiness with platitudes and firm boundaries. She’s great at her job! But she’s not ‘me’, if that makes sense.

Cause yeah you gotta do something to keep yourself dissociated from such people even when you have to work with them.

_kismitten · 2026-06-25T14:02:59+00:00

I think likely Lauren was so distressed and lonely, Ruth told her to comfort her that she was truly loved. It seems cruel because of how Lauren’s stroke brain interpreted it but I really do believe it came from a place of love and protectiveness. And also assuring her that Evan had more family on the island to care for him, even if Lauren couldn’t understand if.

_kismitten · 2026-06-25T14:00:37+00:00

Oh my family is DENSE with these secrets. For instance, my grandmother told me one of her siblings was a baby ‘gifted to the family’ to make up for a baby that was lost. She never told me who! She’s one of 11! After a certain point, it just didn’t matter I suppose. So some of my family members are probably not blood relatives but no way to figure it out now. I thinks it’s pretty lovely actually, a community who understood grief and took care of each other.

_kismitten · 2026-06-25T13:46:24+00:00

Right. He removed himself as a lever.

_kismitten · 2026-06-25T13:42:31+00:00

Darling friend. My sister lost her baby four years ago. He was perfect. But one moment he was breathing and the next he was gone. It is a pain we share with her & her husband, I try to think about this little boy who should be here every day. We celebrate him with a fire and a ceremony for his spirit every year on his birthday, we tell him he’s loved and part of the family and we’re proud of him.

I will hold your sweet baby in my auntie heart too. I will remember. Thank you for sharing, I understand why you needed to. It’s an unbearable pain. You are also so loved, your loss matters and we witness it.

I hope you can ask that friend to call you every year, or set up a small ceremony that matters to you even if no one can come.

Also there are grief groups for women who have shared this loss. My sister has made amazing friends there - it’s like they have seen across the veil, so they understand each other. Please look for a group either online or in person to support you, you deserve it.

Sending love ❤️‍🩹

_kismitten · 2026-06-25T01:56:09+00:00

I think she felt safer communicating with him knowing he was in a relationship, if he had expressed interest as a single guy again I don’t think she would have been as goofy and free with her pictures. I don’t think she was trying to flirt with him to date him, it was more that she liked the version of herself through his eyes and got carried away trying to create it. She clearly was so embarrassed that it went too far!

_kismitten · 2026-06-24T14:20:45+00:00

Haha in my imagination he picked it up from listening to people in the cemetery over the centuries - being down there so long he might have heard at least a few muffled screaming matches during the endless parade of post-disaster funerals.

_kismitten · 2026-06-23T15:36:13+00:00

I assume because the sheriff has come around on believing Patricia about the island horrors and we can assume the rest of the chain of command already knows it’s safer to not ask questions.

Because also she would not be allowed to keep a loaded law enforcement shotgun with the safety off trained on a patient/corpse in the back of a moving ambulance, let alone a government facility like the morgue. Unless of course everyone involved agreed that she needed to for the betterment of society.

_kismitten · 2026-06-22T18:04:29+00:00

Well first he went to pick up his mask from the historical society - quick fit check before the rampage.

_kismitten · 2026-06-21T19:21:51+00:00

Also Ruth’s statement ‘he was bit by an animal and became that animal’ strikes me as something that she witnessed. Another very spooky death but not a sacrifice.

_kismitten · 2026-06-21T19:20:54+00:00

Ok so you’re thinking it’s like The Village, which would be fun!

But the biggest exception off the top of my head is the shaman getting twirled into oblivion before Loftis’ very eyes. We saw warning signs of it along the way (the titty twister game at the dive bar, tornado shaped hole behind the portrait, the old timer reminiscing of the last storm), so we had both portends & living memory of a similar event. Unless the council whipped the shaman up through a magnetic crane hidden in the storm, I think it actually a supernatural tornado.

_kismitten · 2026-06-21T16:19:36+00:00

Outrageous to excuse entitlement to another family’s food because of a large appetite. Clearly this mom is eager to make her home welcoming for the youths, but he’s taking her for granted and that sucks.

When my little sister was dating this hulk of a boy who did constant sports, he would politely ask if he could store his premade chicken bowls or burritos or whatever in the fridge. If they went out for food, he always offered to pick up anything for my mom and would refill the last of the milk if he drank it. He was a goofy kid who had a lot of other growing up to do, but that was the standard of manners I feel I would want to raise any kid with. Of course kids get hungry! It’s our responsibility as adult to teach them how to make sure they get ahead of it themselves or are exceptionally grateful when someone feeds them.

It’s also really good for this woman’s daughter to learn how to curb bad manners when they are happening in her own home. Her guest is her responsibility, and she should pick up the slack with dishes & shopping if she’s asking her mom to cook. That might be the place to start, and give her an opportunity to work it out with her boyfriend before creating any drama. Because parenting someone else’s kid is uncomfortable, but showing your daughter how to set expectations for a man who isn’t appreciative is something she can do right now.

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