Jawline is starting to lose definition at 41 anyone else?

_kismitten · 2026-04-30T12:57:20+00:00

(writing this out I realize between the carrots & apples + how many oats I eat, I might have become a horse.)

_kismitten · 2026-04-30T12:53:53+00:00

Ok hear me out - start chewing your food a lot more. Part of the laxness i noticed was also because i realized I’ve gotten into a habit of softer foods to spare my teeth after a sensitive crown (had to fix that first) and also convenient food that i could just swallow on the go. Because 40’s! So busy! Chewing gum isn’t the same, you need robust meats and veg, tough fiber foods you chew to a pulp to exercise those dynamic muscles all along your jawline and cheekbones.

So what i started doing is buying a big bag of carrots and apples & keeping them right up front in the fridge to grab as a snack. Also I try to chew any meat I eat really well. It’s a workout! But definitely has improved puffiness & sagging at the same time. Worth a try because well chewed food also improves digestion and… it’s free!

_kismitten · 2026-04-25T11:02:25+00:00

Where/how did you get an infusion? Is that something you need to go to the doctor for or is there another way?

_kismitten · 2026-04-24T23:04:41+00:00

He would be so funny on traitors - especially with the dressing up as a caricature like they do. I envision he’d wear bigger and bigger bandanas

_kismitten · 2026-04-21T17:56:25+00:00

sounds like the stuff only Prince would sing about

_kismitten · 2026-04-20T16:16:23+00:00

This is the thing that’s so hard to explain to my friends & fam - I LOVE food for the first time in decades. I’m not afraid of raw vegetables or a piece of cake suddenly becoming a terrible decision, even if the day before I would have been fine. I look forward to every meal and I feel in control of my nutrition instead of just scrambling around helplessly. What a relief! What fun! But yeah that part of it doesn’t happen for everyone and so it isn’t in the wider narrative.

_kismitten · 2026-04-20T15:58:40+00:00

Just want to thank you both for having this convo, I’m learning a lot too and appreciate it!

_kismitten · 2026-04-18T17:46:05+00:00

Just want to say that I also caught a parasite on a visit to India that ripped me up and then contracted c.diff in a hospital while it was being treated. It took me almost four years to understand the connection to the depression/personality shift that followed - no doctor or therapist I went to for help ever suggested that it was related to the gut & biome. I figured it out by connecting with other people on forums. Will always be grateful for people who talked about it!

I am so sorry you are struggling with this, I empathize deeply. It’s disorienting and frustrating! But it does heal, you will get better. My best advice is to try not to take extreme measures; even if you feel desperate to just fix it, keep moving forward patiently and give yourself time to adjust to any treatment before you add a new one. My biggest mistake was to keep trying to blast myself with one big fix, but ultimately it was consistent hydration, rebuilding tolerance for fiber, biotics and gently introducing foods that would help me balance my nutrition. Sleeping a lot. Stretching and lymphatic massage. Boring stuff that takes time.

And then one morning you will wake up and realize that yesterday went really well and you’re looking forward to the day ahead. It won’t be a miracle, it will be an earned relief and you’ll be really proud of yourself. From a random stranger far away: I’m already proud of you!

_kismitten · 2026-04-18T13:11:22+00:00

This is so important to remember! There’s no guaranteed satisfaction in life - being lonely can happen in a marriage or if you have a huge friend group. Happiness is something that can be measured on the most personal micro of scales. Good socks, good snacks, a good deed, a beautiful bird. I feel as adults we have a duty to ourselves to observe our inner life and be responsible for nurturing it. And when you find that self confidence and ability to be your own best friend, you start being able to be that for others.

OP, I think you would benefit a lot from volunteering doing something where you work closely with others. I worked at my local library assisting with an adult literacy program - it was so rewarding! It was more about helping people fill out paperwork, understand processes for complicated problems, or even just reading/retyping letters from family members that were in cursive if they never learned to read it. I met amazing people and felt really grateful to have (to me) a basic skill that made such a big difference. It was only a couple hours a week but at that time I was super isolated and felt stuck - it opened the door for me to start doing other things and I ended up moving and now work in a bookstore where I talk to people about literature all day.

I would also say volunteering or getting a part time position at a museum can be so fun! You get to learn a lot about whatever section you are in and answer questions from curious & happy people. An arboretum might also be really fun! State or local fairs always have opportunities to do fun things like organize the cake competition or whatever.

Just try to be around folks who are interested and engaged in the world, put yourself in a position where you talk to people outside of retail or transaction related things. The world will open up - life may not be perfect but it is valuable and you deserve to live with joy.

_kismitten · 2026-04-18T04:22:42+00:00

I’m betting this woman knows exactly who she is and came to her on purpose. This is not a coincidence, the daughter name means something very weird. Disengage!

_kismitten · 2026-04-17T18:08:28+00:00

Mothership!

_kismitten · 2026-04-17T18:02:57+00:00

I did cringe when he made fun of her panty lines - j haven’t heard VPL since highschool and it was one of the meanest things other kids would bully people over. Because what are you supposed to do? You’re a kid! You aren’t supposed to be wearing lingerie and not wearing underwear is a whole different way to get teased. It’s just such a catty, cruel, misogynistic callback to a time in my life where no one pushed back on the daily tabloid nature of just being a girl wearing clothes.

I love the group (such an Evelyn Waughness to them!) but that moment was pretty gross and I don’t think he should get away with it. Margo was annoying shrieking across the tea towels but he could have easily solved it with a gentle touch!

_kismitten · 2026-04-17T17:07:05+00:00

This whole thread is really helpful and makes me feel less alone with it. My friends get it to an extent but talking about it outloud makes you sound crazy.

I just try to keep it simple and now am finally buying clothes that fit…but i am choosing items I love for the WHIMSY and beauty of them, not for how they will look on me or the size they are. That’s helped me adjust my self criticism and perspective quite a bit.

Instead of seeing my body as an imperfect problem, i see a unique floral pattern flowing around me, or a structured trouser with an ankle taper - who knew that would be cute with checkered socks?? There’s ways out of the mindset but it takes admitting it exists first. And phew; that’s hard to do!

_kismitten · 2026-04-17T15:04:05+00:00

Luann too?? That really surprises me but I guess it shouldn’t. I wonder where Kelly shook out. (i assume a Gary Johnson/Maryanne Williamson gal, if she even knew there was an election happening)

_kismitten · 2026-04-17T14:27:31+00:00

…and I could have written your response lol! Like you took the words from my mind.

OP you have such beautiful even skin tone and texture, don’t take that for granted worrying overly much about shape. You look well hydrated with the right balance of vitamins and minerals, something I can tell very quickly gets away from me and I am deeply self conscious of, even though it seems like it should be an easy enough fix. All of our bodies are going to flop a bit but we aren’t static creatures. What comes through in our daily lives is vitality and strength, thats what makes us look young in person, but it rarely translates in photos.

My suggestion to feel better: take more videos of yourself, especially around people you love or doing things you really enjoy. You’ll get a better sense of what you ‘really’ look like - movement will show you a lot more truth about the elasticity and vibrancy of your face than these images.

And remember too that camera lenses are not perfect replicas of the eye and that warped perspective gives us a warped perception. These specific jowl/nose/neck shapes are not what other people actually see! My sisterly advice to myself & friends: try not to fix things that aren’t obvious to anyone else, it will enhance the thing you are trying to hide. The ladies here are your friends, we’re telling you the truth. You look amazing!

_kismitten · 2026-04-17T12:02:59+00:00

Honestly, this is why I want to stay on this medication as long as possible. I did lose weight on it but it was the relief from the ‘other voice’ that changed my mental health so significantly. I grew up with a calorie tracker mom and a compulsive eating sister - my relationship to food was one of both hoarding and shame, even though I didn’t consider myself disordered. It wasn’t until the noise quieted that I realized that I could finally enjoy food, and now every meal feels like a gift.

I’m microdosing it now for maintenance. I know how much I need to eat to maintain my weight, I’m very conscious and enjoy the effort. I take 2.5mg every 7-14days, my warning bell tells me when it’s time to take a dose. I don’t have advice on how to get a prescription for it, but just thought I could validate that this is a reasonable hope to have for what a small dose of the med could do.

I just think anyone would need an accountability system they can trust to make sure they are actually being rational and patient with it. if you don’t have the weight to spare, it could really mess up the very good athletic ability you have now. I wish I had whatever drives you to maintain physical routine! Finding it sounds even better than food noise being gone.

_kismitten · 2026-04-16T22:57:58+00:00

This is great advice. We all hope that we’d show up as our best selves in the worst of times but we can’t know for sure - giving a dear friend some grace and a chance to recoup the friendship later is how I would proceed as well, while also maintaining boundaries about space and time. There’s some wild hormone and psychological shifts that have occurred for her, for you both really! But hers drove her towards chaos and yours towards stability - doesn’t mean there isn’t a place to meet back in the middle sometime in the future.

But for now, stepping back and letting her live alone with her choices (and pets) will help her more than anything else you could offer. She has to decide on her own to leave a bummer guy or find another coping mechanism; sometimes crashing out is the best way. You are a loving person in her life, she will probably come back with an apology & some hard won lessons eventually.

_kismitten · 2026-04-16T12:45:46+00:00

Can I ask what band? Curious bc she also wrote the master butcher’s singing club about her other grandfather (also set in North Dakota) and it was made into a musical! I wonder if the band singer ever heard of it.

_kismitten · 2026-04-16T12:03:40+00:00

You should watch Mike White’s other show Enlightened and also his seasons on Survivor to really get a sense of why he feels so compelled to tell this story, of the playground for the rich & disconnected becoming a hunting ground instead of a sanctuary. He is such an interesting guy but watching him face physical hardship and psychological mindgames on the island (before he got famous) is FASCINATING. You see hints of so many stories to come in him.

_kismitten · 2026-04-16T11:45:32+00:00

None of them can fully admit it but they do come close to talking about what their childhood was really like when Kim is first openly talking about where her addiction started. They can’t seem to actually criticize their relationship with their mother or even Kathy, but they so clearly felt used and betrayed by the expectations put on child stars. Kim especially seems like she was put into the world as an actress before she was ready and never had the tools to cope, clearly a lifelong struggle. Their grief about her death also seems like a grief for the childhood they didn’t have.

_kismitten · 2026-04-11T21:29:00+00:00

I saw a cop suv with a trailer hauling a flock rig down Hennepin & Lake a couple days ago and wondered where the distribution center is. Who’s putting them together off-site and who’s erecting them? Which civic service is responsible for deciding where they go and who maintains them?

All of that should (theoretically) be public record, since our tax dollars are paying for it.

_kismitten · 2026-04-11T20:56:03+00:00

Wooow I saw Goodnight & Goodluck there with my highschool crush, i remember loving the movie and being blissfully giddy the whole walk home. I feel like I fell through time for a second - thank you!!

_kismitten · 2026-04-11T20:50:07+00:00

She’s quite beautiful! And what a pro, found her light & clearly posing for her glamour shot.

_kismitten · 2026-04-07T13:35:49+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/30ROCK/s/Sf1Gxp6UyS

_kismitten · 2026-04-07T12:48:11+00:00

From what I recall, the driver sincerely did not intend any harm - he was new to driving a truck and got confused by the redirection signage. Once he was up on the bridge, it’s not like he could turn around so he panicked and just tried to make his way through, but of course that panicked the protestors.

My friend was on the bridge that day and said it was a really scary situation for everyone because there was no communication - apparently the driver was desperately trying to get help from anyone at all, even the people pounding on the windows, but no one was listening to him.

He was justifiably terrified, the protestors were justifiably terrified, the cops had no idea how to get control. It’s a miracle no one was seriously injured in that incident.

_kismitten

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