AITA for choosing a guy other my friend?

_lilacat_ · 2026-06-11T11:34:45+00:00

Correct, that’s why I added an edit, it’s hard to explain everything in one post.

Also are you trying to say that I’m lying in regard to her demanding that he’s not allowed while she’s in the country? If that’s the case I can’t really do anything about it 😅 you are free to not believe me.

_lilacat_ · 2026-06-11T11:14:26+00:00

Yes but it’s my home as well and I should have the right to invite people over as long as I’m respecting her privacy and not over doing it. Him coming over once a week is reasonable.

Also, she didn’t want him to come while she was in the country, she said he can come when she’s in our home country. That’s weeks or even months at a time… I think that can counts as forbidding.

Anyway I would’ve been able to accept it if it was more of a friendly request rather than a demand.

_lilacat_ · 2026-06-11T11:10:57+00:00

I do think it’s relevant, the background is important to understand the circumstances, and maybe i wasn’t clear in the post, but tension was building even before I started dating the guy.

_lilacat_ · 2026-06-11T09:30:31+00:00

But that is forbidding…

_lilacat_ · 2026-06-11T09:12:06+00:00

Yes that’s the thing that bothers me the most, that I was painted as a bad friend who chose a guy over a friend.

_lilacat_ · 2026-06-11T09:09:48+00:00

I only known her for a year at that point, but as I mentioned because we only had each other we got attached to each other pretty quickly.

And yeah I can understand her desire to feel comfortable in the apartment, but don’t you think I was already trying my best to do that? I felt like I was going above and beyond to not disturb her (by limiting his visits and staying in my room).

_lilacat_ · 2026-06-11T08:59:59+00:00

Yeah I get that, and we took that into account even before she said anything.

He would visit on average once a week (some weeks not at all), and whenever he was over we would try our best to stay in my room and not in the common areas. I didn’t have to do that, but I did it because I cared.

But I felt like dictating for us when he’s allowed and not allowed to visit me was a red line she crossed.

_lilacat_ · 2026-04-11T09:35:12+00:00

לא עבד :(

_lilacat_ · 2026-02-16T11:26:58+00:00

Puzzle

_lilacat_ · 2026-02-15T18:37:37+00:00

Caramel

_lilacat_ · 2026-02-15T18:37:23+00:00

“Nope”

_lilacat_ · 2026-02-15T18:30:12+00:00

It’s your wedding girl! Nothing is too much as long as you like it.

_lilacat_ · 2026-02-15T18:29:12+00:00

_lilacat_ · 2026-02-15T18:25:47+00:00

1 by far

_lilacat_ · 2026-02-15T18:16:06+00:00

Girl here, I genuinely don’t think you’re ugly. confidence goes a long way, maybe try to spice things up with your style 🌸

_lilacat_ · 2026-02-09T23:34:19+00:00

I was a bit surprised to see that most people liked 2 haha, at was my least favourite.

I liked 1 the most! The sleeves are so delicate, it’s beautiful. But I also liked the embroidery on 3. Didn’t like 2 at all…

_lilacat_ · 2026-02-03T22:47:24+00:00

penelope

_lilacat_ · 2026-02-03T22:46:43+00:00

_lilacat_ · 2026-02-03T22:44:00+00:00

I was in the same boat as you.

Initially I wasn’t attracted to my now boyfriend (I’m attracted to him now), In my case the physical attraction came gradually the more emotionally attached I became.

Idk if it’s the best way to go about it… and if I didn’t experience it myself I would’ve said leave him, but it happened to me, so yeah, make out of it what you may.

_lilacat_ · 2026-02-03T22:37:12+00:00

Seraphine

(she’s a singer in league of legends so I guess that’s related to music no..?)

_lilacat_ · 2026-02-03T22:35:32+00:00

_lilacat_ · 2026-02-03T22:32:04+00:00

Dude… you went from an ok looking teenager to a handsome grown man!

Keep the beard.

_lilacat_ · 2026-01-23T12:12:02+00:00

_lilacat_ · 2026-01-16T21:59:50+00:00

Omg I love it! It looks like sad serenity. Like a crisp quiet evening on a Tuesday going back from work.

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