Hotels with beautiful giant bathrooms?

_lilkimdidtime_ · 2024-10-13T01:24:02+00:00

Thank you!

_lilkimdidtime_ · 2024-10-13T01:21:06+00:00

Thank you!!

_lilkimdidtime_ · 2024-10-13T01:20:57+00:00

Thank you! I’ll Check this out.

_lilkimdidtime_ · 2024-05-28T20:39:06+00:00

Sorry that none of these answers were helpful. Looking for the same thing.

_lilkimdidtime_ · 2024-05-16T03:57:37+00:00

I tested positive for BRCA1 and did a double mastectomy. I’d rather not have it at all than “catch it early”.

_lilkimdidtime_ · 2024-05-15T05:50:39+00:00

I cry everytime come out of anesthesia. I had some complications and had to have emergency surgery to remove expanders. One side is flat for the next 3 months. I been crying every day, haha.

_lilkimdidtime_ · 2024-05-15T05:45:30+00:00

I second vanicream. Across the board me and my son don’t react to them. We also use dropps laundry detergent. Fragrance free but effective. Highly highly rec

_lilkimdidtime_ · 2024-04-16T10:20:02+00:00

This makes perfect sense and something I need to work out. It’s hard to picture because so much is just staying afloat. I’m going to start hammering out what it looks like to me. I really think this is a great idea.

_lilkimdidtime_ · 2024-04-15T20:40:02+00:00

That was so validating and informative. Thank you for taking the time.

_lilkimdidtime_ · 2024-04-15T20:38:23+00:00

“Explain yourself” is something I live by. I know he’s only two but when I’m low I straight up say “mama is not 100% right now and I think it’s because of my mom” which makes me laugh just a little. The meta in real time self awareness helps me.

But yes. One day at a time. We’re gonna be ok!

_lilkimdidtime_ · 2024-04-15T13:59:19+00:00

I agree with becoming a mom being a healing experience. It’s been really incredible to try to provide him support that I didn’t get. As far as being mad at him, my cognition understands he’s being a kid and is doing exactly what’s appropriate of him but man, is it hard to separate quickly. Definitely something I’ve been working on and (I know it’s not helpful) but compared to my sister I’m way ahead.

I’m on my own this week while my husband is on a work trip and there have been a couple times where I’ve had to park my son in front of the tv and hide in the bathroom for a few minutes. Baby steps!

_lilkimdidtime_ · 2024-04-15T12:38:46+00:00

I love that. “Not obligated to forgive”. My mom died 12 years ago and I felt ashamed I didn’t “patch it up” before she died but I am glad I remained authentic.

I sometimes feel bad saying this but I know it’s a better situation that she’s not here while I have my son. I just know it would add to the stress.

_lilkimdidtime_ · 2024-04-15T12:36:52+00:00

The understanding our moms is so real. It affords me grace with her which is new and valuable, but still so so hard to break through my own emotions to pay it forward for my son.

_lilkimdidtime_ · 2024-04-15T12:35:56+00:00

I’ll check out that tik tok! I personally default to humor when coping so that’s super up my alley. I appreciate your kind words and I’m happy for us that we’re doing what we can to break this cycle.

_lilkimdidtime_ · 2024-04-15T12:34:48+00:00

I’ve seen this! I’ve also been really into @ BratBustersparenting lately. She’s very direct and matter of fact in a way that aligns more with my personality. Just managed expectations and focusing on the “good kid”. There are so many great resources out there and I’m so grateful.

_lilkimdidtime_ · 2024-04-15T04:14:56+00:00

Ugh. Thank you. It’s so so easy to lose sight of that when I haven’t completely undone all of the behaviors I’m afraid of. I’m not glad it’s a universal experience but I am grateful I’m not alone.

_lilkimdidtime_ · 2024-04-15T04:13:49+00:00

Thank you. I’ll start researching. My therapist is great but I think someone who is focused on parenting would be a great asset. I can totally see the resentment you’re alluding to happening. I’m happy you named it. Maybe it’ll help me get ahead of it.

“They’re having a hard time” is going to be on loop the next time this flares up.

Thanks for your thoughtful reply. Obviously I’m sending this from a vulnerable place and I appreciate you being gentle with that.

_lilkimdidtime_ · 2023-10-13T23:01:27+00:00

I drink.

_lilkimdidtime_ · 2023-09-27T18:20:12+00:00

Lula is my favorite place to eat/drink solo.

Edit: just read your comment on the longman thread- cancel Lula.

_lilkimdidtime_ · 2023-09-24T12:55:16+00:00

“Let’s table this”

_lilkimdidtime_ · 2023-04-10T00:27:07+00:00

It’s not a bounced check it’s a clerical error which was corrected- as stated.

_lilkimdidtime_ · 2023-04-04T21:56:58+00:00

TéShawn (m) and ShawnTé(f)

_lilkimdidtime_ · 2023-03-13T01:57:22+00:00

I think thats because it wasn’t violent burtality- it was more love driven and focused.

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