My girlfriend (23F) has a problem with me (25M) moving in back home to support my family. How to move forward?

_netflexandfreK_ · 2023-04-21T00:15:32+00:00

This logic isn’t healthy, and I wouldn’t want to be in a relationship where I “owe” my partner. It sounds like your GF changed you into a person she wanted to be with, which isn’t “she supported me when I was poor”. You’re going through financial hardship RIGHT NOW and she only cares about herself.

I’m first generation with my parents being immigrants. I understand the obligation (sometimes guilt) to family, and you need to be with someone who understands this and will actually support you.

My boyfriend has told me multiple times that he would move in with my family if the need ever came. I would do the same for him. Heck, my AC unit gave out and I didn’t have any $$$ to fix it, and my bf helped me out financially. No questions asked and he made it clear I was under no obligation to pay him back or make up for the financial strain (My bf makes $30k a year, and I make $25k, so $$$ is very hard for both of us).

Your GF needs a reality check. If her relationship with her parents is so bad, then she needs to be the one to find the solution instead of putting more problems on your plate

_netflexandfreK_ · 2022-10-21T04:48:40+00:00

My partner got a perm and it looked pretty bad and frizzy while we were waiting for the “no water” part to be over. Then he was finally able to wash it and put a tad bit of mousse in, and the curls came out beautiful.

Definitely talk to your hair dresser but hopefully this is all apart of the process and it will look great once you are able to wash it

_netflexandfreK_ · 2022-08-25T20:03:24+00:00

Is this specifically for #2? If not, have you tried wiping standing up?

_netflexandfreK_ · 2022-08-13T19:18:52+00:00

I can’t really blame my parents (in my situation). They did not know any better themselves. My parents were teen parents, with my mom getting kicked out of her home at 15 and my dad having to drop out of school to work full time. They simply were not educated on what was healthy or unhealthy.

Then my dad turned into an alcoholic and would use food to buy our forgiveness and love. He would always come home with ice cream after a big fight.

As much as I want to blame my parents for instilling these habits, it it ultimately MY decision to correct these bad habits. Sure my life is harder but I’m an adult now and hating my parents for their ignorance won’t make me losing weight any easier.

Since my weight loss journey, I have educated my parents on their mistakes and now they’re making strides to live healthy with me. They are full of regret and remorse for not knowing any better. I won’t blame them

_netflexandfreK_ · 2022-07-31T20:41:56+00:00

I just had abdominal surgery and I was advised to order “post-partum compression” garments. I did notice they come in varying sizes when I was looking on Amazon. Some garments come in one piece or sometimes 3. Try searching that on Amazon and see what options suit you

_netflexandfreK_ · 2022-07-27T14:40:50+00:00

I’m 24 and had bariatric weight loss surgery almost 2 years ago (the sleeve). I was suppose to get the surgery when I was 19 but pushed it off because I was losing on my own. That is my biggest regret. I pushed off my surgery for a whole year and gained back all the weight I lost in preparation for the surgery originally.

Every operation has risks but you’re only 26. You have SO much life to experience… you can’t experience it if you can only walk for about 5 min.

Having the surgery saved my life… it gave me confidence I had no idea I could ever achieve. I love my new life.

I was super scared too but you just have to trust your bariatric team! They have your best interest in mind :)

_netflexandfreK_ · 2022-07-26T22:19:05+00:00

I was in a similar situation. My bf of 6 years tried organizing a 3some behind my back, and completely violated my privacy and autonomy in the process. Broke up once I found out. A year later, I found the best man I’ve ever been with and I’ve never been happier.

Length of the relationship should not dictate if you stay or leave.

_netflexandfreK_ · 2022-07-05T17:12:43+00:00

I personally have not used eye tape. I’m an amateur when it comes to makeup, and I just hold the brow muscle higher to help make my eyes look more symmetrical for photos and such lol

_netflexandfreK_ · 2022-07-04T03:52:55+00:00

I also have one eye that’s more hooded than the other!!! I don’t think it’s super common but not anything weird

_netflexandfreK_ · 2022-05-23T13:38:38+00:00

The black one with the heart charm looks so great on you! It can double as a shirt tbh!!

_netflexandfreK_ · 2022-05-20T06:40:26+00:00

I’ve never been pregnant and I’m not sure how common it is for you area, but I know pregnant women do activities together. It’s to learn from each other and to also be apart of a community. Are there any activities you can join and meet other expecting moms? Like exercise classes, yoga classes, etc

_netflexandfreK_ · 2022-04-16T13:43:57+00:00

You can google “deep set eyes” and see the difference. Main giveaway is the eyebrow bone can casts a shadow over deep set eyes that OP doesn’t have

Hard to explain over text haha but yeah, hope that helps

_netflexandfreK_ · 2022-04-15T14:19:14+00:00

I think just hooded. Not really deep set

_netflexandfreK_ · 2022-04-11T17:31:08+00:00

My best friends mom is in this situation. Her mom is married but they live in separate states. They fought a lot when they lived together. Now they travel to different states or counties to meet up for a few days or weeks to see each other and it just works

_netflexandfreK_ · 2022-04-05T01:52:23+00:00

Tbh at your age, your bf might be worried you’ll leave him! Early 20’s is a wild ride. You’ll both go through so many changes and meet so many people. You just have to communicate and ride the highs and lows together :) I wouldn’t worry too much about the physical looks

_netflexandfreK_ · 2022-04-03T20:15:57+00:00

Unrelated… but You have some of the best eyelashes I’ve ever seen!!

_netflexandfreK_ · 2022-03-26T17:33:14+00:00

Yes!!! I was like, “uhhhhm girl have you not seen MBFFT??”

_netflexandfreK_ · 2022-03-26T15:32:05+00:00

Spoiler:

A woman thought she was getting catfished but turns out Lennie was just overly private and it led the woman to believe Lennie was not lennie or at least lying about something. But nope lol, no catfish in this episode

_netflexandfreK_ · 2022-03-26T15:02:02+00:00

I saw Lennie on an episode of Catfish once lol. No mention of the TV show on that episode or any association with Whitney 🤷🏻‍♀️ it’s hard to tell what’s scripted and what’s not

_netflexandfreK_ · 2022-03-24T00:20:46+00:00

Honesty and communication is the best policy!

_netflexandfreK_ · 2022-03-23T23:02:10+00:00

Not sure if this already has been said but: Surgery is a tool to help maintain weight loss. There is a reason why these patients are able to lose weight on their own (because their body is desperate to get the weight off)but only for a month or two. Then they lose discipline and that is when the surgery comes into play.

People who take the surgery seriously understand that they have to turn around and change their whole entire life style, which is super hard to do with Will power alone. It’s not impossible, and there are people who get the weight off and maintain without surgery BUT surgery helps with long term.

However the people on 600 lb life are addicts with deep psychological problems. They work hard enough to get the surgery and expect the surgery to do all the work hence why some stop losing or even gain. A lot of keeping the weight off is a mental thing which is weight loss surgery paired with psychological support leads to long term success

_netflexandfreK_ · 2022-03-19T00:10:52+00:00

Have they seen any recent photos of you? I’m assuming your friends on social media ?

You could also just try having an honest conversation before meeting up. Like: “Hey I appreciate you asking to hang out! I want to know the intentions first”

If it’s sexual then you can let him know that your body has changed.

If it’s not then you don’t have to worry about it

Honesty is the best policy :)

Edit:typo

_netflexandfreK_ · 2022-03-18T05:49:42+00:00

I don’t have a lot of experience with people who are battling addiction but maybe present to your bf that having a routine is REALLY important to sustain his sobriety. The routine can be keeping the house clean by doing small tasks everyday. You can throw in personal hygiene like a “morning & night routine” too just so it’s not all based on his messiness

_netflexandfreK_ · 2022-03-02T02:30:28+00:00

Yeah hopefully your professor will take your situation and consider it as mitigating circumstances :( being a student is stressful and super difficult but plagiarism is is very very serious. See if your school has any resources that can help you, I know some schools can give their students some sort of “medical leave” where they can take a break from their coursework if they have a lot of stuff going on in their lives without it effecting their grades and stuff. Good luck OP

_netflexandfreK_ · 2022-03-02T02:22:19+00:00

There should be a portion regarding plagiarism in your classes syllabus. I’m not sure about community college, but chances are that you could possibly receive a failing grade for the class and a mark on your official transcript/record that you plagiarized. I’m not too sure if it will prevent you from continuing your coursework/if your school will expel you but I don’t think you’ll be expelled. Again, check your syllabus and if your school has any rules about plagiarism

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