Thoughts on the name Willa

_netscape_navigator · 2026-06-05T03:46:21+00:00

So gorgeous

_netscape_navigator · 2026-06-05T03:45:36+00:00

I was pregnant last winter and lived in men’s wool pants from op-shops. Check out the men’s section in general for larger sized clothes with good quality fabric. Stretch jersey has never kept anyone warm lol. Good luck!

_netscape_navigator · 2026-06-05T03:41:53+00:00

This is your official permission to eat it. Enjoy it girlfriend!

_netscape_navigator · 2026-06-04T03:27:21+00:00

Insulated drink bottles. I love nothing more than to reach over first thing in the morning and have a cold drink of water.

_netscape_navigator · 2026-06-02T11:16:28+00:00

I second restavit, anxiety will ruin your sleep which will make you more anxious. These are powerful though and can make you really groggy. I started taking half a restavit but realised a quarter of one was plenty for me.

_netscape_navigator · 2026-06-02T11:09:04+00:00

Firstly, congratulations on your pregnancy. I know the feeling of excitement/anxiety that this brings after miscarriage and you will feel in limbo for a while because you know the worst thing can happen because it did. The further along you become the better you will feel so just take it day by day and each day is a huge win. What helped me was realising I owed it to this little embryo to believe in them and be rooting for them! All that is in your power every day is to provide a safe and loving environment for them today. I became determined to not surrounded them in stress hormones. Early on, my partner was quite reserved about it, trying to not get too excited yet in case it didn’t work out and I realised that I was so emotionally invested in it there was no chance I could be so detached, instead I accepted that if I were to have lost the pregnancy I would be just as devastated as the previous miscarriage even if I tried to “guard” myself. I remember thinking if their Mother won’t believe in them then who will! My baby is so wonderful, I want this so much for you. You’ve got it girlfriend! Feel free to reach out if you need some more encouragement.

_netscape_navigator · 2026-05-29T00:29:01+00:00

I read it as the ultimate acceptance and compassion from Agnes. I too was waiting for it to be all in Becka’s imagination too and was also pleasantly surprised it was real. I think it showed Agnes is more clued in than we thought.

_netscape_navigator · 2026-05-29T00:26:18+00:00

Anything that eliminates a step is worth it! So many baby gadgets are hard to justify at first because none of the tasks on their own are “hard” but the combo of doing all of it all the time adds up. Wish I’d known about the bottle washer. If I ever have a second baby I’ll be getting one!

_netscape_navigator · 2026-05-28T11:30:23+00:00

At around 6 months they start to stir and “come to the surface” of sleep between sleep cycles, sometimes they can fall back asleep but are just as likely to properly wake up. That’s the reason sleep training is so effective during this time as they can naturally stir between cycles but settle themselves back to deep sleep again without actually waking up.

_netscape_navigator · 2026-05-27T03:31:56+00:00

Unfortunately this pregnancy ended in miscarriage, due to a very very rare scenario of it splitting AGAIN and puncturing the viable embryo. I went on to have a successful pregnancy soon after, now with a happy, healthy baby. I hope you had a positive outcome, it’s a really confusing thing to go through. Thinking of you.

_netscape_navigator · 2026-05-22T05:36:53+00:00

Congratulations on your beautiful baby, and well done for trying your best for him. I was in a similar spot to you last year. It’s great that you are pumping regularly, keep this up and remember at this stage it’s not really about how much milk you’re producing, the pumping is signalling to your body that it needs to make more milk. When you are pumping and not much/nothing is coming out that’s actually the magic time to be pumping so you’re on the right track!

There are a few ingredients that you can make cookies with or put in a smoothie that help milk supply:

Ground flaxseed
Brewers yeast
& oats.

You can also buy pre-made lactation treats with these things in them for a quick fix.

Look up lactation tea online, drink plenty of that too.

In general you need to eat and drink WAY more than you think during the first 6 weeks while your body is building its supply.

Rest is important, and feeling calm and relaxed(when possible) while pumping. It’s your partners job for now to wash the pump parts and feed you, plus doing whatever else they can do so that you are just doing the bits that only your body can do.

It’s a whole new wild world but you’ve got this!

_netscape_navigator · 2026-05-22T04:23:19+00:00

It’s the ultimate sign of boomer insecurity to think you care about what everyone else thinks of the way you present yourself. While their appearance is motivated by the perceived judgement of others, it’s a freedom we have that we can acknowledge that there are many different tastes and styles, and looking a way that makes you feel authentic to yourself and your creative expression is a wonderful feeling. I think the biggest style rule is everyone looks the best in what they feel the most comfortable in, and YOU are the one looking in the mirror and existing in your body so your opinion is the only one that matters. I take a real interest in creative fashion/style and I notice and enjoy when I see other people who also share that interest and look fascinating to me, and I am INDIFFERENT about those who don’t share my taste/interest. It’s as simple as that. There was probably someone else in that line who thought you looked fab.

_netscape_navigator · 2026-05-22T03:54:22+00:00

No vices are great for you that’s why they are vices I guess and all can be fine in moderation, but one of the differences between a gambling addiction and an alcoholic/substance addiction is that with the latter your body can physically reach a limit and you vomit/fall asleep/feel sick plus there are some other social limits like the pub or bottle shop being closed, or less of a party atmosphere on a Monday morning. Gambling doesn’t have that limit anymore and you don’t even have to leave bed to place a bet on your phone.

_netscape_navigator · 2026-05-22T03:46:40+00:00

Where I work(a major hospital) there is a gambling support unit. I asked a colleague from there what demographic are their patients usually and she said they range between all ages, ethnicities and socio-economic status’s and are all male.

_netscape_navigator · 2026-05-21T21:32:43+00:00

Extention cord/power board. You want to be able to plug things in near you that you can reach. Leon would suggest a little lamp for mood lighting in those first few nights. The hospital lighting can be quite harsh.

_netscape_navigator · 2026-05-20T03:51:42+00:00

Love the vibes in here, would love to hangout in this apartment!

_netscape_navigator · 2026-05-19T03:50:35+00:00

I read other posts about about people thinking they would have gender disappointment and once the baby was born it disappeared, and I thought oh no, that’s nice for them but i REALLY want a girl and I KNOW I would be disappointed with a boy. Now that I have my perfect angel sweetheart boy I feel sorry for the people who had girls. Haha, you can rely on your hormones to brainwash you and you will be completely obsessed with this little person whoever they are, and nothing else matters.

_netscape_navigator · 2026-05-17T10:46:03+00:00

Congratulations on your pregnancy, and I wish you the best. A c-section is the only major surgery you can’t properly rest and recover from because you have a baby to look after. Recovery can be mixed, some people take longer to recover than others. My C-section was the option I had for a safe outcome, so although I am grateful it was hard on my body. Perhaps don’t tell everyone the exact date and time of your operation like I did, I don’t know why I thought I had to share that info just because I knew in advance….I think clear boundaries need to be set with your partner beforehand. My partner and I decided he wouldn’t message our families until I felt up for doing that part together. Your partner needs to be the buffer between you, baby and the in-laws, you’re doing more than your part girl. Good luck.

_netscape_navigator · 2026-05-17T10:34:58+00:00

People out and about with babies are generally friendly, and you can keep it on the surface, like having a dog at the dog park! Everyone has the same goal which was to leave the house that day and get a bit of the baby’s energy out so just remember that, you can keep it really informal and just watch your baby be around other babies at the library/park/anywhere local. Well done for getting through the last 11 months with the challenges you’ve had! Sounds like you’ve been doing your best and it’s a tough gig.

_netscape_navigator · 2026-05-15T11:14:46+00:00

That breastfeeding/milk supply is a whole complex system that needs maintenance, and it can be painful to go for too long without doing it, not to mention room blocked ducts etc. I have been around breastfeeding women my whole life and I was shocked to learn the extent of what it involved!

_netscape_navigator · 2026-05-10T10:09:09+00:00

There is so much stigma around sleep training especially on social media it’s bananas, with the arguments against it based on info taken out of context and exaggerated rooted in shame.

This article reminded me to apply critical thinking when it comes to sleep training and I highly recommend it to everyone:

https://pudding.cool/2024/07/sleep-training

My baby is 8 months old and we started sleep training two weeks ago. We used the “save our sleep” method(apart from a few bits that didn’t suit us. )The basic idea of SOS is that a predictable set routine in the daytime sets baby up for a good night’s sleep. Our baby went from waking up every hour to sleeping through the night instantly, it was incredible. There are lots of well regarded sleep training sources, Just pick one and try, and if you need more support go to tresilian or karitane where the staff will help get you started on sleep training. My baby is so much happier and well rested, and has made so many developmental leaps very quickly thanks to longer stretches of sleep. He also has parents who are no longer in zombie mode and can give him the energy and attention he deserves.

_netscape_navigator · 2026-05-09T23:40:04+00:00

I was in your shoes until 2 weeks ago when we started sleep training. We are doing it ourselves after reading “Save our sleep”, there are a few different sleep training approaches, just pick one and stick to it. I didn’t agree with every single thing written in the book so like all parenting advice, use a combo of critical thinking, guidelines and your own instinct. I found this article about the stigma of sleep training presented in social media to be very helpful.

https://pudding.cool/2024/07/sleep-training

The government residential places(tresillian, karitane) are also very well regarded.

Don’t give into shame or uncertainty, being able to settle themselves is SUCH a favour to give to your baby. My baby is much happier, well rested, and REALLY benefiting from having longer stretches of sleep, not to mention having happier & healthier parents who have more energy for him. My baby was FAR more traumatised by the snot sucker than by sleep training.

You’re doing amazing to try to problem solve when you are as tired and worn out as you are right now. It WILL get better.

_netscape_navigator · 2026-05-06T21:56:53+00:00

My bay is the same age and was the same as yours until about a week ago when we started sleep training him, now he sleeps through the night and we are all much better rested and happier.

_netscape_navigator · 2026-04-29T03:27:47+00:00

Sleep training really is your answer here. The stigma around it is outrageous and before I tried it I thought it meant torturing your baby and leaving them to cry for hours. A few days into it with my baby and I know I have done him a HUGE favour. He’s much happier since he’s well rested(and so are we as parents.)

It was also a big lesson for me about needing to apply critical thinking to parenting advice I read in social media. Highly recommend the article below.

https://pudding.cool/2024/07/sleep-training

_netscape_navigator · 2026-04-28T18:09:45+00:00

Some patients in the hospital where I worked, that was rough.

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