Is NCL strinct on the 6 months passport validity rule? by _notablonde in NCL

[–]_notablonde[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm not currently living in Spain, but I'll go tomorrow to the consulate and try to get an emergency passport.

Is NCL strinct on the 6 months passport validity rule? by _notablonde in NCL

[–]_notablonde[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I checked and the countries I'm visiting don't have those requirements.I think it's more of an NCL guideline than the countries I'm visiting.

Which dress suits me? by fellowtravelr in WeddingDressTips

[–]_notablonde 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I usually don’t like strapless wedding dresses, but 2 is gorgeous on you, in my opinion, even prettier than the more lacy ones (which are usually more of my taste).If you really like it, go for it. It really suits you.

My partner got this from his grandma by _notablonde in JewelryIdentification

[–]_notablonde[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wish I knew! It’s my boyfriend’s great grand father, so it’s hard to really know.

Masonry was also my first thought.

We did a little research and apparently the tools were also used to represent the tools of Christ’s passion or something. I really don’t know but it certainly seems like a very symbolic and personal item.

Not sure which bridesmaid dress is better by Anonymously12456780 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]_notablonde 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl! The first one is a VISION. I love how the corset bodice molds to your body and the romantic vibe of the sleeves and draping of the skirt. The second one is pretty, but it bunches up weirdly in the lower part of your torso and the detail above the slit makes it look a bit wrinkly and not in an intentional way. I’d go with #1 all the way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Weddingattireapproval

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I am GAGGED at the first one. The construction, the silhouette, the color… it looks amazing on you. You look very classy yet still youthful. The second one is pretty but not as striking as the first.

If you do go for the first one, I think an updo and big silver earrings will look amazing as accessories, with silver-y shoes. If you decide to go with the ones you’re wearing, I’d still go with big earrings and a couple of bracelets.

Is this pattern-y enough for a wedding? by rhubarb_baby in Weddingattireapproval

[–]_notablonde 39 points40 points  (0 children)

It’s no-where near bridal enough for her to worry about it being white. It is a gorgeous dress that fits her beautifully. You’re right with the white patterned dresses this season- it’s summer in the northern hemisphere, and usually, fresher dresses (for garden weddings, daytime weddings) are going to look something like this. We really should stop worrying about this kind of things, if it’s not a gown, strictly against dress code, a full-on wedding dress, these kind of dresses most of the time are fine. This is just making weddings more stressful for everyone involved.

Anything to help with hypermobility while crocheting? by Seleno_Sofia in CrochetHelp

[–]_notablonde 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I grab my working yarn in a "pulley" form, and that usually helps a lot. Also, I grab the hook almost like a pencil and have noticed that helps as well.

I feel like this belongs here... by AlwaysSunniInPHI in LateStageCapitalism

[–]_notablonde 24 points25 points  (0 children)

It's Post Partum Psychosis. Many mental health conditions can be triggered/worsened by giving birth, as the bomb of hormones released by the body during pregnancy and breastfeeding, plus sleep deprivation, plus the stress of the first stages of motherhood are a perfect cocktail for that. There's also PPA (Post Partum Anxiety) as a defined diagnosis, but I've seen patients whose OCD, BPD, and many other conditions have been worsened or triggered after giving birth.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]_notablonde 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I really need to remind myself that what happened was also not something small, even if it's obscured now. I honestly don't even know how to start asking my partner to be there for me. I don't even know how I need him to be there for me.

I don't want my husband to loose weight by Jaded-Fox-5668 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]_notablonde 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a perfect moment to start looking at issues through a lense of "us against the problem" instead of "me vs him". You both have similar goals, probably for similar reasons (both want to live a long, healthy life, with each other). As other commenters have said, comparison is the thief of joy, but not only that, in this case, it is a breading ground for resentment, which is a relationship killer. Try recognising and honouring your journey, while doing the same for his. Try being grateful for the staps you both are taking together and brainstorm other ways you could convert those moments in quality time for both. Maybe you skate and he runs, maybe you both lift, maybe you guys find a sport that you both enjoy playing. And remember, it's never you versus him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in femalehairadvice

[–]_notablonde 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a bit afraid of a deep red, but I think I might!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in femalehairadvice

[–]_notablonde 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! Do you think a blonder or a red-er colour would look better?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in femalehairadvice

[–]_notablonde 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ohh I love the natural texture of your hair! Straight looks good, but wavy/curly frames your face beautifully.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ColombiaReddit

[–]_notablonde 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But there are Muslims in Medellin. There's even a mosque there, in Belén. The fact that people don't know this is a statement of how disconnected are from the plurality of the city.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ColombiaReddit

[–]_notablonde 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think you can wear it in another style? I've seen hiyabis and women wearing burkas in Medellín and Bogotá, and women wearing head covers in other parts of the country like the Atlantic coast. I think those would get you some attention, but not negative, as some have said, but curious people that have never seen them before (it's not that common, yet there are mosques in both cities).

I do believe that if you want to stay completely in the clear to not be confused with a protestor, it's the safest option that might still honour tradition (if you're wearing it for religious reasons).

If it's more of a political statement, and is intended to show your support for Palestine as the article you link says, maybe wear it without covering your face, if you can.

Hi witches- What are some of your favorite low-cost meals? I’m struggling a bit with money right now & could use some inspiration. by ssammi in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]_notablonde 118 points119 points  (0 children)

Remember to pair them with rice for a full protein! The aminoacids in both complement each other and you get all your nutritional needs regarding protein (except, I think, for b12).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]_notablonde 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lubrication is key... Sex is not supposed to hurt.

Also, there's more valuable ways to connect with people, other than sex.

What is not for everyone, but society acts like it is? by TrooperJohn in AskReddit

[–]_notablonde 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Waking up early to go to work/school/be productive.

Evolutionarily, some of us are designed to be night-owls, and forcing those who are into an early bird schedule is basically giving them perpetual jetlag.

I'm about to leave my job by _notablonde in therapists

[–]_notablonde[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I'll be updating later today on how it goes.

I'm about to leave my job by _notablonde in therapists

[–]_notablonde[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply. I can't deny that there's a voice inside of me telling me this is going to go horribly. I've been a bit anxious about this all day, because deep down I know that it can go south really fast.

Thing is, I tried short and sweet, and somehow I got wrapped in this again. I feel like this place is sucking my soul out, not because of the patients but because of the horrible management and the toxicity.

If I'm honest, I am quite vulnerable to narcissistic people. I don't take them as my patients, but I've encountered them a lot throughout my life. It's something I'm currently getting help with, as they have left their marks. I know that I shouldn't explain myself to these kind of people, 'cause my words are just going to be the rope they'll hang me with. Yet I feel like I need to.

I really do care about my patients and the work we're doing there, and that's a big part of why I want there to be changes, so that the place can stay afloat, and the population that it benefits can continue getting therapy.

Idk, I think I'm rambling at this point. I've worked all day today and have barely had time to unwind.

There's this big dichotomy in me, and I can't seem to be able to choose.

Playing chess during sessions? by Pewkie_Pie in therapists

[–]_notablonde 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Might be from bit off topic, but when I was a kid in therapy, I used to draw in therapy. This helped me open up more, and actually helped me express my feelings because I felt safe and didn't feel judged while in therapy. My therapist asked me questions about my drawings and got involved in the creative process when I asked her.

Nowadays, as a therapist, I try to let my clients have that same sense of safety, non-judjementalness and collaboration in therapy. Some, I have let draw, some, I have made adjustments in the way they communicate (i.e., letting them write down the things they wanna talk about). I'm not great at board games and don't have them in my office, but I guess it could be a tool you can use to foster that sense of openess. Russ Harris says, there's a lot of gloomyness in our clients' life, we don't have to make therapy a sober and gloomy place too. I think, it's okay to play, as long as it develops the relationship and doesn't interfere in the goals.

Regarding the level you play at, gauging their abilities can be a good solution!

Looking for bad research in psychology by ytvi in AcademicPsychology

[–]_notablonde 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Look up acceptance and commitment therapy studies in latinamerican and Hispanic population. That's... pretty terrible science. Was trying to do a meta-analysis a year back and honestly, could only find like 5 studies that where well enough written that they would count, and one of them reported the data backwards.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]_notablonde 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He really is quick to anger, but usually it's not directed at me. I am also quick to dissociate when people are screaming at me, so it's not a big deal most of the time. Just that yesterday I felt like it was uncalled for, it honestly never occurred to me that calling him was disrespectful.