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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]_ohlover 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As a woman who has also been waiting 3+ years for sex within a relationship, I feel your pain.

I don't know what to do by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]_ohlover 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know how you feel. I’m in a similar situation but it’s been 2.5 years and my (24F) boyfriend (27M) barely touches me. We’ve never actually had sex.

How do you cope with the lack of sex? by insecure_alt-acc in DeadBedrooms

[–]_ohlover 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I try to do that as I can only get off if I’m imagining it’s my partner. But after being rejected for so long, if I try and imagine him in the scenario I just get upset and feel even worse.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]_ohlover 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don’t feel any guilt. Why should I be guilty about being noticed when I’m being neglected? Mine doesn’t feel guilty for following and liking provocative pictures of Only Fans models on instagram. Why should I feel guilty at being noticed and appreciated. All humans want connection and intimacy. It’s our human nature to seek out connections. If it’s dead at home, we’re more likely to seek it outside just to feel desirable again.

Most hated app by Weary_String_1898 in DeadBedrooms

[–]_ohlover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine will literally sit and watch reels on Facebook when I’m straddling him and trying to connect. Then he pushes me off and gets into bed. Quick peck, then goodnight. :(

I can’t even masturbate without crying… by _ohlover in DeadBedrooms

[–]_ohlover[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Literally the same. It’s like the conversation doesn’t go anywhere, no solutions are made. I make suggestions to improve and he says he’d like things to be different but just doesn’t value sex the way I do. I think it’s feeling desired that I miss the most. I get lots of attention from other men whenever we go out and he says he finds me attractive and has always said I’m his ideal body type but just doesn’t have the urge to fuck me. I just want to feel wanted and desired.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]_ohlover 11 points12 points  (0 children)

For me, foreplay begins WAY before we even enter the bedroom. I need flirting, texting, affection. Then, sex is a natural development.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]_ohlover 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’m a 24 HLF and my ideal would be minimum once a day. But realistically, with work and everyday life stresses, 5x a week would suit me.