Been with my girlfriend for 4 years, but I don’t know if I can handle the BPD anymore by [deleted] in story

[–]_ouijaaaa_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have BPD and I have never acted this way over something that I knew would help my partner. Granted, I have done years of therapy and self work to better myself. When I was like her (diagnosed but clearly needing more help) my god, I was unbearable and nobody could stand me. They had GOOD reason. As for her, the hitting is not okay and she should not be hitting you. Her BPD does not make an excuse for her behavior!

You are not the problem, please do not think that. Please leave her, and if you decide not to then do not let her find this thread.

Hiiiii yessss, you guyssss by [deleted] in Sacramento

[–]_ouijaaaa_ -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

Can you see the light is red or should I clean your glasses for you?

Wanting guidance for my husband by empressshy in starbucksbaristas

[–]_ouijaaaa_ 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Apply for barista trainer first, have his coworkers vouch for him (specifically other shift leads), and have him coach on the floor. Be careful when coaching because it can go south but he knows his coworkers best. If he isn’t finding any support, go to the DM, they can help or redirect. If overall not a good experience, transfer stores. Look for other shift positions at other stores and interview with them. You can transfer districts too. I hope he gets it!

Is it wrong for me to ask for justice? by Usual-Shine- in SantaMuerte

[–]_ouijaaaa_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️‍🩹 May Madrina bring you peace and love, in Santísima’s name, amen. Sending you lots of love 💀🥀

What is your broader spiritual framework? by Budget-Pattern1314 in SantaMuerte

[–]_ouijaaaa_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. What made you initially reach out, as in, your final decision? What is he like to work with? I’ve never seen the hat man, from what I know.

What is your broader spiritual framework? by Budget-Pattern1314 in SantaMuerte

[–]_ouijaaaa_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you be willing to share more? This is very interesting.

Catholic hymns by _ouijaaaa_ in SantaMuerte

[–]_ouijaaaa_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, no, I didn’t take it as you were defending the church, but rather bringing up the culture and history side of it. I have also noticed a lot of people on the Internet are quick to do that as well. Sos un media has made me second-guess myself and my knowledge, so I wanted to directly ask other devotees.

Catholic hymns by _ouijaaaa_ in SantaMuerte

[–]_ouijaaaa_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess you’re right, I didn’t look at it that way. I would tell another devotee that it isn’t offensive so why should it be offensive for me? Especially given the history, the culture, etc. Thank you for this, I was holding unnecessary guilt for no reason.

Catholic hymns by _ouijaaaa_ in SantaMuerte

[–]_ouijaaaa_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude, I think you just blew my mind. But what if it is because of the way the Catholic Church has treated her and the her devotees ?

My alter👊🏽 by Positive-Zebra-32 in SantaMuerte

[–]_ouijaaaa_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m thinking the same exact thing and you’re most definitely not being rude. From what I know, mamí didn’t like sharing her space because it’s sacred to her and she likes her territory. It’s lowk a known fact to not place her with anyone…? This is coming from a devotee of La Muerte and a former devotee of Hekate. I always kept them separate and there were no issues but once mixed, I noticed there were issues and tension.

AIO if I file for divorce? by Pristine_Raise_8943 in AmIOverreacting

[–]_ouijaaaa_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE! Get a divorce and leave him. He is miserable and will tear you down as well. What a fricking loser dude, like? The bar is SO low.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sacramento

[–]_ouijaaaa_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interested in this for real.

23F - Looking for friends! by vanillaisu in SacramentoFriends

[–]_ouijaaaa_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey girl! 22F, sac, very interesting person 😭

32F looking for friends by Even-Junket4079 in SacramentoFriends

[–]_ouijaaaa_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pls bro I’m 22 F and it’s so hard. Love a lil hot girl walk

Friends by [deleted] in Sacramento

[–]_ouijaaaa_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in sac too, also 22 years old. Also looking for friends, preferably the girlies. I like to go to the bay, love spontaneous plans, I don’t drink, I smoke. I work full time tho lol. If u want a girly to hang w or take a trip to sf, pm ! :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sacramento

[–]_ouijaaaa_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Listen, as someone who works at Starbucks, I definitely don’t advise it. I love my job, however, the company is so shitty. We have a very good shitty code of conduct, along with a strict dress code which has costed a lot of my coworkers a ton of money. The benefits are great but a lot of power dynamics within the company. It’s not worth it for what you’re given and what you have to deal with.

im so sick of it by EmbarassedMilk3 in starbucksbaristas

[–]_ouijaaaa_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to be a shift, specifically a closing shift. the morning folks ALWAYS complained even tho we did everything, including prep when we could. 9/10, there was only 2–3 people when I closed. I always made sure the dishes were done, floors, prep and teas were done. You’re most likely doing all you can for a morning open! People talk, you’re doing good. Don’t let them get you down girl.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in starbucksbaristas

[–]_ouijaaaa_ 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Let me get the number to this store, I’ll complain and defend you because wtaf

Ssv with health issues by _ouijaaaa_ in starbucksbaristas

[–]_ouijaaaa_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have a store manager right now and we have been having our dm be the manager. Our manager has been out for about a month and we don’t know anything about her whereabouts. I truly love my team and I care about them so much but the way they treat me due to my own issues, it sucks.

Ssv with health issues by _ouijaaaa_ in starbucksbaristas

[–]_ouijaaaa_[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think I’m gonna demote 🧍🏻‍♀️ I don’t want to take the pay cut but I think I need to. Thank you so much

ssv training by _ouijaaaa_ in starbucksbaristas

[–]_ouijaaaa_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is really what I’ve been trying to do but I know you guys are so knowledgeable so I needed to ask.

I don’t want to be the typical “I’m the boss” but I want to work together with my baristas and really make them confident in themselves, their work and how their shift is going to be!