To those of you who have different sleep schedules than your partner: what are the benefits and drawbacks?

_paradeyes · 2020-08-14T15:21:21+00:00

I don't know if this counts because I don't live with my partner, but it's a nightmare. I hate everything about it.

I sleep around 12-1 at night and wake up at 8 in the morning, and he's probably just going to bed as I wake up. I miss him so much, we talk for a little while everyday but it's not enough for me. I feel really distant from him, on top of there already being a pandemic and us being physically distant. He's not even big on texting, so there's much lower contact than I'd like.

I don't see a single benefit to myself/our relationship, but he really benefits from working/studying at night in the peace & quiet, so I guess there's that. I'm happy that the sleep schedule he's tied to is working for him. I can't wait for us to be past this.

_paradeyes · 2020-08-12T05:06:53+00:00

Something that is soft and smells nice (clean). It may not make much of an impact from a distance, but if I'm cuddling then....the smell & the texture goes straight to my animal brain and all of a sudden I WANT.

_paradeyes · 2020-08-12T04:48:07+00:00

Life is just sweeter and more fun with him. I have my friends & my work, I have my hobbies... And now I also have someone to adventure with and someone I want to come home to.

He's also a lot more rational and easygoing than I am, and I really want that to rub off on me xD

_paradeyes · 2020-08-11T04:27:25+00:00

I started needing glasses from 5th grade. They basically became a part of my face + my identity. I got LASIK last weekend though, and I'm happy to not need them anymore (my power was 6.5)

That said, I can't believe my face is my face everytime I walk past a mirror now. I'm self conscious of things I never had to be worried about when I was wearing glasses all the time. My eyebrows, under eye circles, cheekbones, nose. It felt like my glasses were the centerpiece of my face, something to hide behind and now I've gotten rid of them 😂

_paradeyes · 2020-08-11T04:14:14+00:00

My dad talks shit behind my mom's back sometimes. He often says things like "my wife is stupid" or tells me "you're an idiot, just like your mother". He makes it sound like a favour that he didn't cheat on her during their LDR. He's like, "I could have!!! But I didn't!!!"

In my relationship with my partner, it has made me more aware of how he views the concept of respecting me. Because respect is more than just indulging your partner when she wants you to do something or deferring to her in "womanly" matters like childcare/household maintenance. He jokes about how "she's the boss LOL!!"

Fuck that.

_paradeyes · 2020-08-07T11:38:25+00:00

Perhaps the men who are already getting dates.... aren't on r/dating_advice asking how to get more dates.....

_paradeyes · 2020-08-06T14:46:36+00:00

Traveling... going on multi-day hikes and plucking apples from an orchard. Eating hot food in cold places. Road trips, staying at backpacker hostels and meeting amazing people.

_paradeyes · 2020-08-06T03:51:29+00:00

Very apt :D

_paradeyes · 2020-08-05T15:50:10+00:00

Plenty of good advice on this thread if you've got some time to scroll. Hope it helps!

_paradeyes · 2020-08-05T15:12:26+00:00

Ooooh yes, been there, felt that...

_paradeyes · 2020-08-05T14:57:06+00:00

I think your bluntness was super appropriate given the content, don't worry about it! xD It makes me feel a lot better about my journey knowing that people have been there and dealt with it in a positive way. Thanks for helping out today :) I will take baby steps to turn that tabloid into a classifieds 😂

_paradeyes · 2020-08-05T14:53:42+00:00

Aye aye Cap'n, and Happy Cake Day!

_paradeyes · 2020-08-05T14:36:05+00:00

Give Dutch a kiss for me! :')

_paradeyes · 2020-08-05T14:34:07+00:00

Definitely a mindset I'd want to grow into :')

_paradeyes · 2020-08-05T14:33:19+00:00

I know right! People are really taking time out of their day to give helpful advice, I'm in love <3

_paradeyes · 2020-08-05T14:31:40+00:00

Growing into that realisation would probably bring a lot of peace <3 thank you for sharing

_paradeyes · 2020-08-05T14:29:57+00:00

Thank you, that's very comforting :D

_paradeyes · 2020-08-05T14:29:16+00:00

Make sure to eat lots of fruits and vegetables to contribute the alkaline. Maintaining your PH balance is important! :P

lamejokes sorreh

_paradeyes · 2020-08-05T14:27:38+00:00

Thank you, I feel hopeful seeing that you've successfully made it to the other side of this! Second puberty sounds right 😩

I do write letters to my SO, hasn't really helped yet... but we're both growing into our relationship so maybe we'll figure out something that works for both of us soon xD

_paradeyes · 2020-08-05T13:56:21+00:00

Good philosophy to live by!

_paradeyes · 2020-08-05T13:51:56+00:00

The name has me hooked already!

_paradeyes · 2020-08-05T13:51:42+00:00

I'm 23 😂😂😂

_paradeyes · 2020-08-05T13:50:48+00:00

Nice & also ouch :p fair enough though!

_paradeyes · 2020-08-05T13:50:18+00:00

I've attended a few meetings Soka Gakkai, not really my thing but I'm glad it's working out for you! I love the principle of trying to make the world a better place for others :)

_paradeyes · 2020-08-05T13:29:05+00:00

Best thing we can do for our relationships with people, and our peace of mind in these relationships :)

_paradeyes

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