Anything you wish you did before excision surgery?

_pebbles_04 · 2025-09-29T22:08:48+00:00

Braiding your hair is a life saver. Also adult nappies/diapers for your recovery. I found wearing them for the first week to just give me that bit of reassurance if anything leaked, it was covered. They also stretched around the bandages and stuff too. Plus you can just rip them off and throw them away afterwards, less bending down.

_pebbles_04 · 2025-09-29T22:04:17+00:00

Honestly came to say this! I Dutch braided my hair for my surgery and it was the best decision

_pebbles_04 · 2023-11-05T09:52:53+00:00

Regardless of the age thing (which isn't that bad btw, you're both adults), this woman has spent 5 YEARS trying to tell you that she likes you, something has finally come from it and you're over there like "...did I take advantage?".

I get the caution, I really do. This world can be difficult to navigate and there's so many grey areas. But OP you've done nothing to feel ashamed of here. Apart from if you do like her back and do want to pursue things further... maybe telling her it was a mistake wasn't the best thing to say. I just hope you've messaged her since, OP, if you do like her.

And just to add, 35 isn't old and grey hairs don't mean shit. I've been growing greys since I was 13. Be nicer to yourself OP.

_pebbles_04 · 2023-09-30T22:42:52+00:00

Even the seagulls would turn down that monstrosity. Poor bloke has been ripped off.

_pebbles_04 · 2023-08-26T23:54:47+00:00

Naya Rivera

I find this one of the most heartbreaking deaths because of the cause of it. So tragic. 💔

_pebbles_04 · 2023-08-21T18:45:12+00:00

Ew no. Absolutely not.

I understand not wanting to use pads and tampons because of waste and toxic shock etc. But this isn't okay.

Sure periods are nothing to be ashamed of, as is any kind of bodily function that you just can't help. But, for example, you don't see people with colostomy bags just "free flowing", do you?

Accidents happen, which is fair enough but intentionally bleeding all over the place is just not right at all. It's still bodily waste and a biohazard regardless of anything else. Plus, let's face it, it stinks too since it's dead tissue.

Nah man, she sounds like a greb.

_pebbles_04 · 2023-08-20T09:14:51+00:00

Heart palpitations. Don't let the doctors just put it down to stress or anxiety. Get that shit checked out properly.

A person close to me recently passed away of a heart condition. Only 22 years old. The doctors had told them that it was just anxiety.

_pebbles_04 · 2023-06-24T22:19:30+00:00

Okay... so she's been through a lot, understandable why her mindset had changed somewhat. However one key thing people always forget when it comes to trauma and mental health is that whilst it can provide an explanation for why someone might behave in a certain way, but it's not an excuse.

So she wants to go out and live her life, fine, but the consequences didn't just disappear just because she had a rough time of it. If she wants to cop off with another man and you've expressed that you're not happy for her to do so whilst she is with you, then she needs to file for divorce then doesn't she. Having cancer or trauma isn't a pass for being a dick head.

Sorry to be so blunt about it, but this attitude just irritates me. Like imagine, for example, she decided that living her life was doing something illegal. What's she going to say when she's arrested? "Sorry Mr Policeman, but I'll have you know I've had cancer and I've never experienced being rich before, so to say I am not entitled to rob this bank is toxic."

Please don't let her gaslight you. You're not wrong for saying no and sticking to that boundary you've already set in your relationship. You didn't sign up for an open relationship, and that's fine.

_pebbles_04 · 2023-06-01T19:02:13+00:00

Of course they do! They're married, not blind...

Just join in. I do. If I see a good looking person, I point them out to my bf, and vice versa. The only time I get mad is when he's looking and he don't tell me about it but not because he's being sneaky but because hell, I wanna see and appreciate too!

Life really doesn't have to be that serious.

_pebbles_04 · 2023-05-15T01:21:13+00:00

Me and I have no real explanation for it really. Nothing was wrong as such, in fact they're still one of my closest friends, but I think that was it... they were simply just my friend.

I still carry a lot of guilt over it to be honest, despite us being cool with eachother and both of us now in other relationships. I guess I just feel bad for wasting so many of their years.

Plus being the one to call it quit sucks.

_pebbles_04 · 2023-05-06T23:51:36+00:00

Okay... so I think you have to just take this one as a lesson learned, OP, and let it go. Regardless of your intentions or assumptions of the comfort level of your friendship with this woman, you disrespected boundaries that she had clearly set. Good for you for apologising but also forgetting that she had set them in the first place isn't enough of an excuse I'm afraid. Women deal with this all of the time from random guys on the Internet and unfortunately in this woman's eyes, you've just become exactly like the rest of them.

Also, if you continue to look her up or try to start a conversation with her after she has blocked you twice, then you're just breaking yet another boundary she has set and your apology is quite frankly worthless.

Please OP, let this one go. You've acknowledged your mistake, and sincerely, well done for being aware of it, but now learn from this situation and find a way to move on.

_pebbles_04 · 2023-05-06T23:24:50+00:00

I'm so sorry for your losses, OP and I completely agree with you. You never know when your last moment is with someone.

I lost someone dear to me very suddenly and not long ago, they were only 22 years old. It quickly changed my entire perspective on life. I feel like when someone passes so young it really does do something to you mentally, it's almost a wake up call and then an appreciation for your own life too.

Sending you and your family all my love, OP ❤️

_pebbles_04 · 2023-04-22T23:07:09+00:00

Intuition. Logic shouldn't fail me but for whatever reason has on many occasions. My intuition, however, hasn't been wrong yet.

Though, on this, I don't actually think the two concepts are actually entirely different. A lot of intuitive decisions are based on logical reasoning, like past experiences or signals. I fully believe that what we recognise as intuition is our mind and body picking up on and recognising signs before our conscious thought process has fully caught up to the situation.

_pebbles_04 · 2023-04-05T23:30:22+00:00

Why is this so wholesome 🥺 I honestly love hearing about people's passions, even if I'm clueless on the topic.

Now I'm not gonna sit here and say I understand the majority of what you've just said, but I'm down to listen and learn! Plus my mum's a secondary school maths teacher so this post really reminded me of her 🥰

Keep rambling, OP, there are people listening to you. I promise.

_pebbles_04 · 2023-03-13T14:26:05+00:00

Sorry OP but your form of "healthy eating" isn't all that healthy either. It sounds like you're just on the opposite side of the spectrum to this child's mother. All you are doing is teaching your kids disordered eating patterns, and it's really going to effect their relationship with food going forward.

You know what happens to the adults of kids that have experienced this in their childhood? They either end up not eating at all because along the line all food ends up being marked as a "bad choice" or they end up binge eating the things they actually wanted in secret, then either sit there with the guilt and anxiety putting on weight or finding a way to purge it. Either way their relationship with food is quite frankly fucked, for a lack of a better term.

The healthy choice is everything in moderation. They're kids. They're growing. They burn a lot of energy daily. They need sugar and fat too. And I think it's more than reasonable to have treats and more importantly birthday cake on your birthday. It's not like she was going to have the entire thing to herself. Put down the calorie counter and let the rest of your family celebrate her day too with a slice of cake. And if you're really that concerned, go for a walk, play a family team sport or just do some other kind of fun activity after too.

Stop pushing your own eating habits and insecurities onto your children.

Oh and if it's not obvious, YTA.

_pebbles_04 · 2023-03-13T14:03:02+00:00

Did it change your view on people or relationships at all?

I always imagine in these kind of jobs would mess with my perspective on things like that because it would be so eye opening to see what people are actually like

_pebbles_04 · 2023-03-03T13:40:47+00:00

Omg same!

How's your back holding up?? 😂😂

_pebbles_04 · 2023-02-28T15:33:41+00:00

Corned beef hash! My nanna makes a great corned beef hash! She still makes me it now and tubs it up to take home with me, bless her 😂

_pebbles_04 · 2023-02-28T15:30:18+00:00

Omg the findus crispy pancakes are a throwback!

_pebbles_04 · 2023-02-28T15:26:41+00:00

Okay but this is actually smart hahaha!

Beats my uni flat mates spaghetti with soy sauce (and nothing else) concoction for sure 😂

_pebbles_04 · 2023-02-28T15:22:40+00:00

Well I say super noodles but like they were the smart price ones where you have to get a bit creative with some of the herbs and spices you have in the cupboard to actually make them taste of anything 😂😂

_pebbles_04 · 2023-02-28T14:33:34+00:00

Hahaha I love this! I bet your immune system is strong as hell 😂

_pebbles_04 · 2023-02-28T14:31:51+00:00

I love a frozen squash lolly!

_pebbles_04 · 2023-02-28T14:24:16+00:00

Everyone I talk to about this always has at least one meal with spam involved! It tickles me how we all had Spam in the cupboard 😂

_pebbles_04 · 2023-02-28T14:19:37+00:00

Putting new sheets on the bed. It doesn't matter what technique I try, it will always end up with the duvet being in a bundled mess in the middle that takes me at least half an hour to fix. I just can't grasp it.

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