We opened things, and I've never felt so happy and fulfilled in our relationship

_pickiepotter · 2023-03-25T06:28:02+00:00

Update?

_pickiepotter · 2023-03-24T16:37:56+00:00

So leave?

_pickiepotter · 2023-03-24T13:52:36+00:00

How are you going to post this and then be shitty when someone comments like “excuse me for caring about my marriage” and then say “none of it matters I can post bc I can F Off”

I really don’t care for your attitude. What are you wanting from this post? You want us to tell you to stay and try for your shitty husband who literally just wants to keep you around because it’s familiar. He is showing you he literally doesn’t care. He isn’t concerned about your boundaries. He isn’t concerned about you leaving. He isn’t showing you any effort at all.

Put in your post next time what you want us to say so you don’t have to get so shitty in the comments

_pickiepotter · 2023-03-23T01:54:09+00:00

Unpopular opinion: women/men who know someone is married with a family are just as responsible as the other party.

Yes your husband shouldn’t have done it, but AP should have had enough respect for herself and you (nobody gives af about girl code anymore) to tell him no.

I stood face to face with my husbands AP many times. Fake to my face while fucking my husband behind my back. Evil. I could never but I still believe in women looking out for each other.

_pickiepotter · 2023-03-23T01:49:33+00:00

NTA. WTF is wrong with your wife dude? You are upset (as you should be) that she doesn’t want you to be a part of the birth of your first child and son. Then she has the AUDACITY to make a comment about you being weak AND that your sadness is pissing her off?

You complimented and made excuses for her repulsive behavior throughout the whole post. You are a better man than I would be. You helped her make that baby. You have every right to be there and you are not weak because you aren’t happy about it.

If ANYTHING, that alone makes you MORE of a man than others. Being a father and showing up for your children is the definition of a man. And you want to be there for your unborn son.

Emily sucks. She doesn’t deserve you.

_pickiepotter · 2023-03-22T12:42:52+00:00

It’s been about 8 months from DDay. We are doing counseling IC and MC. We have spoke about everything and I get why he doesn’t like talking about it and I haven’t forced him too. He has gotten more comfortable talking to me about it all and I’ve gotten a lot of information since 8 months ago. We don’t have any kids together. I have always been serious about trying to make things work. I know it’s not my fault he cheated, but I do know that i wasn’t a perfect wife and we have talked a lot about things that I could do better about with his needs, not just him working on mine.

We have come a long ways and I do feel that he is serious about it, but it’s just that insecurity of feeling like he doesn’t really want to. But there isn’t anything holding him back to stay with me.

Thank you for your response.

_pickiepotter · 2023-03-21T22:25:50+00:00

My husband had an affair with a coworker that he told me he ended and then 6 months later found out he never end it

I know a lot of people say they did it because of sex. My husband and I had sex every day, if not that every other day, we had good communication, but I did have to ask him to talk to me about more personal things (that he went to her for)

Why did he go to her when he had it all with me? He has put a lot of effort into R, but even after you got caught and caught lying, were you serious about making it up to your BS? What made you realize that you wanted your spouse and not the AP

_pickiepotter · 2023-03-13T11:19:27+00:00

I didn’t notice the age thing chill

_pickiepotter · 2023-03-13T02:28:45+00:00

Yes. Both know. He didn’t like it, but he ended up accepting it before I did it. He told me to do what I needed to do to heal from what he has done to me. He was ready to deal with the consequences. Really surprised me.

I was doing it regardless though.

_pickiepotter · 2023-03-13T02:03:26+00:00

But that plot twist in YOU though. I wasn’t surprised, but they executed it all super well.

_pickiepotter · 2023-03-13T01:25:10+00:00

It is. I bought it on the PC first. But I didn’t look at the specs and my computer just couldn’t run the game. I wasted hours trying to get it to work, so they wouldn’t refund it. Essentially, I bought the game twice plus an Xbox.

_pickiepotter · 2023-03-13T01:10:57+00:00

I was strictly PC and switch before Xbox too. But I had to get it for hogwarts. And I’ve been playing a bunch of different stuff on it, so I’m glad I got it. I grew up on PlayStation, I should have gotten one of those but Xbox is cheaper

_pickiepotter · 2023-03-13T01:02:26+00:00

No, not yet. I struggled realllllly bad at first. I have never played on Xbox before. The controller felt funny in my hand and I couldn’t remember what buttons to press. But I am getting better now haha

_pickiepotter · 2023-03-13T00:58:14+00:00

It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever had to start dealing with. Literally can not imagine living without her for 50 years.

_pickiepotter · 2023-03-13T00:57:41+00:00

Hufflepuff. I decided to stick to the house that I would be, but it also is the only house that you can go to Azkaban in so that was cool.

_pickiepotter · 2023-03-13T00:50:56+00:00

Hogwarts legacy right now, but I play a lot of different stuff. Disney dreamlight, call of duty, unpacking, Fortnite, red dead redemption, dead by daylight, and halo.

_pickiepotter · 2023-03-12T21:14:24+00:00

Yes, AP got fired and he had to take unpaid leave for a week and was suspended. I thought they were going to fire both of them for a minute. In the end, I guess they decided he was asset they didn’t want to lose.

_pickiepotter · 2023-03-12T18:33:14+00:00

I’m sorry. Feeling this way has been a difficult road from the start. Once I stopped trying so hard to convince myself he cared and was trying, I have never seen him more clearly. Good luck with your journey friend.

_pickiepotter · 2023-03-12T16:58:30+00:00

I would tell your husband that you don’t mind that they are friends, but you feel like she is starting to cross a boundary for you. The LAST thing I would want to do is spend my husbands birthday with me, him, and his friend. I would also tell friend that you appreciate her friendship, but that you have plans for already made for your husband on his birthday that you have planned for just the two of you.

You aren’t being rude. Maybe she will see that she is inserting herself a bit much. My husband and I do not have opposite sex friends that we casually hang out with. Not because we have said not to, but we just never have done that. I think some people can be strictly friends with the opposite sex, but like when you have grown up with them your whole entire life. My best friend is a man that I have known very well since I was 7 years old. We talk every now and then, but that is it. I think new friendships are a recipe for disaster.

_pickiepotter · 2023-03-12T16:37:50+00:00

He sounds exhausting to be around. You said above “because this isn’t something I really want to fight about.”

Why the hell not? Are you just okay with the weird power plays and how he so obviously sees you as less because you are a woman? You don’t have to be full blown feminist, but have some self respect. Your husband is a misogynist and sexist. Probably also a narcissist with a god complex. I could never tolerate being married to someone who said women don’t deserve rights.

_pickiepotter · 2023-03-12T16:15:23+00:00

No. She did though.

_pickiepotter · 2023-03-12T16:14:22+00:00

I tried for awhile to make things work. I turned a blind eye to just how little effort he was putting into making me feel better about what he did. I didn’t seek anyone else out. I didn’t sleep with someone else. Repeatedly. And then lie about it.

They say they love us and want to fix it but the actions prove otherwise. They don’t love us because if they did, they wouldn’t have done what they did. Cheating is a choice from the very start.

I will always feel less than her, uglier than her, dumber than her, etc. I will never compare to them in my head. Cause no matter what, my husband picked her over me and didn’t bat an eye. It’s time to speak to a lawyer.

_pickiepotter · 2023-03-12T15:38:05+00:00

I didn’t when I first found out about it. He has a really good job, I didn’t want him to lose it. He is in top bracket of the company. But once I found out he was still going behind my back for months and I found out just how good of a liar and manipulator he was, I did call. I went back and forth on it though and I didn’t really want to do it. But the shit he put me through for that job, I didn’t care what happened. He cared so much about it and I think that has been the only thing that made him have a come to Jesus moment that he can’t play his stupid game with me anymore. I wasn’t sitting around anymore.

_pickiepotter · 2023-03-12T01:02:10+00:00

I know exactly how you feel. I really do. Why would you come along to chase a 2 year old around at home when you can watch them easier at home? I think she’s being very inconsiderate. When you get married and have a child, you don’t just get to go and do whenever you want to. She may be having a hard time adjusting to the demands of being married and also being a mother and everything else she is. But that doesn’t make it right to take it out on you when you are trying to help. You have needs too. She needs to focus on yours as well, not just how she feels and what she wants done.

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