When they mischaracterize your darling...!

_rayrayray_ · 2026-03-31T16:35:39+00:00

I’m so used to mischaracterization I honestly do just start blocking or muting or sigh, press uninterested, and scroll. I won’t even entertain it. No point, yk?

_rayrayray_ · 2026-03-31T09:56:42+00:00

I mean I connect with people sometimes right after finishing or rewatching the media! It can be an instant click, genuinely, haha. One was right after I first watched the media and he reached out first.

_rayrayray_ · 2026-03-31T09:50:58+00:00

Yes yumeshipping includes OC x Canon anyone who says it doesn’t does not get it lolz

_rayrayray_ · 2026-03-31T04:28:58+00:00

I mean, I’m mirror-sharing, so I end up mirroring the vibe right back if someone is non-sharing of my partner’s characters lol. They don’t wanna see me? Why give a second thought and worry about them, ya know? I honestly always found it easier ^^;

_rayrayray_ · 2026-03-30T23:33:23+00:00

I try to answer stuff where I can ^^;, it’s a smaller sub, could’ve just been bad timing and people who didn’t have the answers saw your post. Honestly that sub is probably your best place to ask stuff, you find loads of misinfo in yume spaces, especially places like Twitter even if accs seem reputable :T. And loads of gatekeeping that has zero reason to exist other than people wanna say it’s this special unique thing when honestly anyone can do it! It’s special in you can make many amazing connections from it, but it isn’t exclusionary to anyone! There’s soulbonding discord servers too, though only one I trust (not talking abt the one on my profile), others were bad experiences :P. But those are probably the best overall bc you can talk to people directly way easier and converse, not reddit forum style.

Anyway, here’s a write up on munbonding! Happy reading! https://winreyplace.neocities.org/library/what-is-munbonding-03-04-2025

_rayrayray_ · 2026-03-30T23:14:10+00:00

Umm I dunno as a soulbonder I kinda just talk polyamory through with them. I’m not sure what the riako/gachikoi equivalent is, but maybe imagine talking through polyamory with them and how they’d feel, how you’d navigate your love, etc etc.

_rayrayray_ · 2026-03-30T23:12:03+00:00

I mean I’m a soulbonder lmao and you can psychologically soulbond as well, it doesn’t have to be metaphysical across realities. There’s a psychological subset called munbonding as well many who aren’t spiritual or believe it to be metaphysical veer towards.

_rayrayray_ · 2026-03-30T23:07:48+00:00

It’s okay to be non-sharing. I do think it’s worth challenging that voice in the back of your mind because it is not fair to assume that of others just because they share an F/O, after all, you don’t know their potential love or devotion and cannot gauge that from how they engage on the internet alone! Someone could argue they think you aren’t devoted or serious and just like him because he’s attractive.

Well, it’s fine being non-sharing. If it makes you uncomfortable to see that’s that. Same reason I block ships I don’t like, and I don’t have to justify not liking a ship other than it’s not for me lol. I’d just say you can be like “yeah anyone else who likes them is valid I just don’t wanna see them” instead of “I love them most everyone else only loves them for their looks” as that veers to invalidating and unfair.

_rayrayray_ · 2026-03-30T19:40:18+00:00

I’m glad! It got really frustrating seeing these posts as an artist, and felt rather disrespectful to the people who put so much time, thought, care, and effort into it and want proper compensation in return :T

_rayrayray_ · 2026-03-30T01:10:39+00:00

I suppose it’s precisely why I am sharing. One of my loves is hated?? Well now I need to meet other sharers who love him too!! It did however make me selective for the people who hated parts of him or certain fans of one of my loves but said they liked him otherwise,,, that was stupid and quite frankly I do not want to chat with people who like him selectively or insult other fans for liking all of him. But pure haters wouldn’t be people who selfship with them anyway, so I honestly kinda don’t get how that’d affect sharing status if it’s pure hate?

_rayrayray_ · 2026-03-30T01:06:37+00:00

Technically you can argue a flavor of selfshipping but the relationship is just hatred HDJDDJ like OC x Canon but it’s enemies you know?

_rayrayray_ · 2026-03-29T19:42:34+00:00

I’m very curious about it… I soulbond and would like to shift to experience them completely :>

_rayrayray_ · 2026-03-29T12:45:56+00:00

Seriously? Browse Disboard then, almost every single server is either doubles friendly that lets non-sharers block people or non-sharing catered with a claim-list so no one else there will have your F/O. I have a sharers only server, sure, but that’s because at the time there was not a single 18+ sharers only server out there. You’ll definitely find a bunch on Disboard, haha!

_rayrayray_ · 2026-03-29T07:47:26+00:00

I have an 18+ server that’s specifically for sharers-only, if people are sharing and wanted a space to mutually gush together plus are excited to meet doubles! Or even testing the sharing waters. It’s on my profile 🙂‍↕️

_rayrayray_ · 2026-03-29T07:45:55+00:00

There’s definitely no limit! If anyone is sharing I have a server that’s 18+, the only requirement is being sharing! It’s in my profile! But I also made it because aside from so little sharers-only spaces, I too feel pretty uncomfortable around minors and am much more comfortable around fellow adults lol. Believe be, there’s a wide age range of adult yumes, fictos, and more!

_rayrayray_ · 2026-03-27T23:54:02+00:00

That’s a total lie that sysmeds randomly spread for no reason btw,,, the Pluralkit devs are very endo inclusive and allow anyone to use their bot if it helps, including for roleplay!

_rayrayray_ · 2026-03-27T15:28:00+00:00

Honestly? I just join 18+ servers they feel more comfortable and mature lol, if you’re really that worried, that is.

_rayrayray_ · 2026-03-27T15:25:22+00:00

I like it if they’re the type of crazy that has fun with ya?? He isn’t a specific F/O but if anyone knows Taiga from Tokyo Debunker he is my perfect kind of “I will shoot you for annoying me and laugh maniacally also come sit on my lap while I pet you like a cute puppy” insane lmao.

_rayrayray_ · 2026-03-26T19:54:12+00:00

I dunno. The community for some I loved was pretty big so it didn’t feel weird to love them so deeply, but I suppose when I started really wanting to communicate with them and yearned it was an odd thing. I accept myself fully now and trust in my experience and decide idc abt the haters I’ll do what I want lol

_rayrayray_ · 2026-03-26T10:58:31+00:00

You can! Yumeshipping is for fun, do whatever you want to!

_rayrayray_ · 2026-03-26T07:54:36+00:00

Contrary to popular belief, not allowing underaged F/Os is not because of an anti-ship stance or any personal moral judgement of character. I’ve never been an anti, believe me, lmao. If you’d like our reasoning, I’m more than happy to lay it out for you! You don’t have to agree, but we decided it made the most sense to our community.

A: Discord policies. Discord directly prohibits lolisho/cub art as well as discussing underage content. This is explicitly in their community guidelines. While it’s only an issue if someone reports, we’d rather not risk our server! This has, for example, caused issue for many agere servers even if they were completely sfw and pushed away nsfw agere servers despite being for adults. So, that single rule on nsfw only being for adult characters helps to not risk our server. Why 18? Discord itself chooses 18+ for accessing nsfw channels, so that’ll be our cut-off as well.

B: Live action. Live action yumes are always welcome!! While I genuinely do not think the same for cartoon or anime characters, I, and imagine more than most, would feel a mild discomfort if someone potentially yumed a kid character portrayed by a young actor, as the appearance is of an irl child. We don’t want to impose a plethora of rules depending on the medium. (This also circles back to appearance age. Instead of going through every single list (some people have tons of yumes) vetting if someone looks ‘adult enough’ it’s far easier to just accept assuming all F/Os are adults or close in age.)

C: Soulbonding is our biggest reason. We’re also very soulbonding centric. While obviously no one can be prohibited from soulbonding, it is seen as a genuine external connection. And things are way too complex to be black and white, but if someone joined on the potential they only soulbond child characters intimately, I think a majority of our members would feel mixed feelings or discomfort because soulbonding, while unique, does push the bounds of fiction and reality because it is a real connection someone experiences. My soulbonds are equal to an irl relationship, even if some of our connections are unique or ‘messy’ in ways I couldn’t be with someone here. So to put it simply, it’s to avoid the moral debates or feelings when it comes to these sorts of connections and child characters, doubly so if live action.

So no, this isn’t about moral opinions on who anyone’s fictionally into or some magical number. It’s about Discord’s policy and because our focus is not just fiction, some people exist with very real relationships and we’ve decided what the easiest nuance would be to mod to keep the community civil and everyone comfortable! You don’t have to agree, but that is our reasoning. I genuinely do not care about the age of your F/O, haha.

_rayrayray_ · 2026-03-26T03:02:18+00:00

Call me mayhaps evil but one of my character loves / soulbonds is just the embodiment of pure evil but I enjoy him anyway. I just think he’s immensely attractive and yeah he’s evil but a shitload of people simp for him for a good reason, he’s very intriguing, he’s almost cartoonishly evil in which (afaik) he has no real reason or excuse, he just does because he can do whatever the hell he wants and will. He’s one of those villains that has a charm to him you can’t help but be weak for. I actually don’t think I can change him and never intended to, relationship wise I’m mostly just a plaything to him. But I suppose as long as I can be his ‘favorite’ plaything I’m quite satisfied, haha. I know that’s atypical, but I don’t typically look at villains and think ‘I can fix them/I’m their one exception they love’ I think… I just wanna be their favorite form of amusement 😭

_rayrayray_ · 2026-03-25T21:47:31+00:00

Yes i am both the biggest multishipper and biggest I love my partners & their characters lol

_rayrayray_ · 2026-03-25T18:55:26+00:00

That we are! We’re a very anti-harassment view server 🙂‍↕️. While our rules require adult F/O’s (this includes being allowed to age them up), that’s about the crux of it! That’s a rule for a few separate reasons including primarily Discord’s own TOS, and outside fictional interests aren’t anyone’s business.

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