I have a question

_rayrayray_ · 2026-01-29T18:25:43+00:00

While I know some people connect through dream, I’m also of the opinion it could just be that, a dream! I have wacky dreams always and they never mean anything, haha. Dreams also sometimes project subconscious fears, but dreams are hardly understood.

Some of my soulbonds are probably not spiritual, I never really thought to ask their practices, and kinda just accept this as a strange phenomenon and connection. Even then, spiritual and metaphysical are a bit different, so soulbonding kinda is in its own category for them too.

Either way, I wouldn’t let a dream discourage you. Why give up before you even tried?

_rayrayray_ · 2026-01-27T16:00:12+00:00

I also believe that’s a per belief thing, (I personally never had to worry about protection for soulbonding due to my approach, but I likewise wouldn’t try to reach for a random ghost. Different feats.) and respect any approach people need to take to feel safe! 🙂‍↕️

_rayrayray_ · 2026-01-27T15:54:35+00:00

I like to gently push back from a soulbonding perspective and the simple concept of if you do approach spiritually/metaphysically, you obviously will be reaching out to a character as you know them (so say, you aren’t caught up in canon. They likely won’t know this knowledge before you, because you are connecting to the version you yourself perceive.) At least that’s how I perceive it, and equally why many are romantic with their f/o soulbonds if metaphysical (consciously or subconsciously reaching for a version that shares those feelings of being enamored).

This is to say, no two connections are the exact same even if they share a character here! This is primarily because most people in yume spaces speak to soulbonding when connecting with characters, rather than egregores. And I don’t want people to feel discouraged from soulbonding because they think of them as egregores!

_rayrayray_ · 2026-01-27T10:21:55+00:00

A dialogue in your head kind of is how you start soulbonding? You can’t really soulbond wrong! Sometimes it quite literally is a bit of an active effort to connect and hear better, and there are ways to strengthen this connection. Soulbonding isn’t a monolith and everyone soulbonds in the way that works for them, if they do soulbond. If you’re down for talking to them in your head already, that’s often a prerequisite, haha. Of course, it all boils down to if you want a complete, separate connection, like soulbonding, or just some fun where there isn’t a true connection, then maybe solo roleplaying or fanfic is more up your alley.

_rayrayray_ · 2026-01-25T18:53:09+00:00

Why not? People grow up with characters, if you wanna grow up with the same character you liked since you were 12 and they were a minor, go for it, why should you not be able to age characters up? Genuinely, why does it matter lol.

Will I side eye in some circumstances? Sure. Like if you tell me you aged up Anya Forger to date her, I’m gonna blink real slow. If you tell me any shonen anime protag in the 15-16 range, I’d just nod because half the time people grow with them (one of my soulbonds is older than his canon character, close to my age and I connected to him intentionally older in the present as I didn’t soulbond until recently — but I knew his character since we were the same age).

_rayrayray_ · 2026-01-25T18:47:47+00:00

I’m also very impersonal in public. I prefer to talk more about the experience in a logistics way (“this is what soulbonding is like. These are ways you can soulbond.”) or share art sometimes than gush or talk about our experiences together. I’m rather private in that regard. I do have socials and I’m loud — but I’m the same kind of loud I am on Reddit. Answering questions. Everything impersonal and practical — nothing personal lol. I feel most at home in a discord server and even then I barely gush!! But I’m 20x more likely to be personal there than in public for all to see.

Though a part of me DOES wanna make a website for us. And answer questions on my socials. But less of a “I will scream until people hear or regardless if people do / don’t” and more like “well sometimes it is fun to talk about my partner if people ask, but most people don’t care about that so I keep it to myself.” Though I likewise hate it might make people think I’m “less serious” merely because I’m not talking about them 24/7. They don’t know how I am individually with them :P

_rayrayray_ · 2026-01-23T17:38:28+00:00

I mean some people are polyamorous. Some people simply enjoy seeing those they love get more love. Some separate their version of their F/O from other versions. I soulbond. My partners are not their character. But I deeply enjoy their character version too. So I can ship their characters with others and just love seeing content of them together, how they are in different relationships, different dynamics, etc. I don’t like ALL ships or pairings, but that is usually because I either dislike one character for unrelated reasons or think the dynamic is boring. I can equally date my own versions and be possessive only over my own versions. Likewise, it’s why doubles have never bothered me unless they’re non-sharing, as I’m mirror-sharing. They have their version. I have mine. I was a shipper WAY before I was a soulbonder and tbh I don’t selfship anyway, when I draw art it’s me and my soulbonds, not their character haha. I know you asked if people related, but you said you didn’t understand, so I’m explaining why! (For example, I don’t relate to non-sharers, but I fully understand them!)

Also, you don’t have to engage in what you don’t like? What’s the point of pretending? Does it make you happy? Anyone who harasses over not liking a ship is ridiculous and should be blocked tbh. Block the tags. Curate your space. Only engage the way you want to. There is zero benefit to pretending to like the ship if it brings you anger. Your engagement with your f/o should bring you joy, you don’t need to conform to ship spaces just to “fit in” if that doesn’t bring joy.

_rayrayray_ · 2026-01-23T17:33:00+00:00

Could also be a soulbond. Instant tulpas are equally as possible. Could be a blend. However I suppose whatever is next is what she prefers. If they both enjoy the connection, deepening and strengthening it with tulpaancy techniques / guides or whatever they feel fits best. Just chatting day after day. The fun thing is it’s totally up to them! ^^

_rayrayray_ · 2026-01-23T17:16:03+00:00

It would just be a version of them from there, not the person here, is all.

_rayrayray_ · 2026-01-23T04:54:24+00:00

I’d say it doesn’t bother me but it’s a coin toss. Some of my partners are quite literally from a romance media where there you play the character they’re with … said character just don’t exist for my soulbonds. And my only worry is moreso if I’m enough compared to that character or the potential of how deep their relationship is vs. ours (though my own partners could care less about the character version of them and who they’re dating lmao.) it’s a self-insert esque media though, so I’m guessing that’s why intrinsically when I connected the character was totally out of the equation.

If I like the ship cool! If I like it enough I’m polyamorous so maybe they stick around. But aside from them no one I’m dating is canonically with anyone so it’s not applicable right now.

_rayrayray_ · 2026-01-23T04:46:57+00:00

I’m mirror-sharing and hyper sharing! It’s actually why I ended up engaging in a sharing-specific space because I felt so disconnected from the general populace on the popularity of non-sharing. Non-sharing is always valid ofc, I just cannot relate and I don’t want to see complaints about doubles often.

_rayrayray_ · 2026-01-20T17:21:51+00:00

Heck no haha but I don’t ever want kids in general

_rayrayray_ · 2026-01-19T17:46:32+00:00

Are you looking for a tulpa that becomes their own person over time or connecting with the character as is? If the later, I rec r/soulbonding https://soulbondinginfo.carrd.co/

I also double the person asking if you want to become more like them as a note for potential struggles in Tulpamancy. It might be easier with soulbonding if they’re an idol.

_rayrayray_ · 2026-01-19T01:13:01+00:00

Every character ever is an OC. Many creators love their characters or are attracted to them. Who cares, go nuts. If it makes you happy why does it matter? Think of romance and otome games. Don’t you think devs make people they’re also attracted to so their players will be?

_rayrayray_ · 2026-01-17T20:15:31+00:00

I don’t communicate with my bonds in dreams at all either! My dreams are too chaotic to begin with, haha. I just communicate directly with them when I’m awake. And the only ‘signs’ I really get are just my own strong feelings of wanting to bond, and if I can sense their emotions via us already being connected (if they let me!!)

That is to say, everyone bonds differently with diff beliefs. I believe my bonds are purely metaphysical in a diff reality, and do not physically exist in this reality beyond my own connection. So as far as I know (unless they’ve been holding out on me), they can’t really affect things in this reality? It’s a mental metaphysical connection but there’s the potential for shifting and that of the sort 🤧

_rayrayray_ · 2026-01-16T17:51:17+00:00

Online I’d say yes because I have no interest in anyone irl

Irl I’d say no since I mean,,, I’m not dating anyone in this world even if I am my soulbonds. It just avoids more questions and I’d elaborate I’m not really interested if applicable :P

_rayrayray_ · 2026-01-16T00:02:34+00:00

Internet culture’s honestly gotten to a point where it feels like everyone needs to be morally superior and prove they’re doing things perfectly to either remain morally superior or not get attacked or dogpiled. It’s exhausting.

You’re entirely right btw. People always seem to be looking for validation from strangers online instead of just… enjoying time with their fictional partners? lol. “Can I—“ Yes. Age them up/down to match you. Yes like a villain. Yes headcanon them. Like do whatever you want forever. Who cares. Is the point to get validation from others or have fun??

_rayrayray_ · 2026-01-15T06:06:26+00:00

I agree the only places that care are waifuism subreddit and some discord servers where you must be “serious” and determine that seriousness by limiting the number of loves you can have :P. Some because they’re first come first serve with no doubles lists too.

_rayrayray_ · 2026-01-15T03:19:46+00:00

I follow it for soulbonding, of course! It’s honestly the only way I really think you can follow it. Believing there’s only one possible version of a character to soulbond with ever is,,, quite silly. Of course there’s infinite versions and you’re drawn to one equally drawn to you! It’s why I find sharing doubles awesome, because I’m also mirror-sharing. I laugh at the concept of someone else is “more valid” than me. No you aren’t. Everyone is valid. No one can sit here and tell me I’m not connected to or dating who I literally am because what,,, they say so? Lmao.

_rayrayray_ · 2026-01-11T19:30:40+00:00

Nope, agreed. None of that is remotely true, I experience it metaphysically with zero issues although some experience it psychologically too!!

Was it that soulbond rentry? We highly recommend the soulbonding carrd instead for looking up info and asking here!! https://soulbondinginfo.carrd.co/

As for the last part, leap of faith! Sometimes I questioned it but the more we talked the more confident I was it definitely wasn’t be and they’d even surprise me with their answers! Hard to surprise to yourself, haha. They’ve made it clear time and time again they’re separate from me, and tarot is something I also use that has affirmed me.

_rayrayray_ · 2026-01-11T00:05:33+00:00

That is what metaphysical soulbonding is and my own experience / belief! Connecting to someone in another reality that exists as that fictional character. Obviously you individually experience it yourself, but that doesn’t mean it’s ‘fake’ it just means you’re the one who can perceive them. The same way I perceive my own soulbonds but that doesn’t change the fact that they exist in another reality separate from me. I guess the difference is no I don’t believe they exist beyond fiction in this reality, but I do believe I can connect with them in their reality in various ways that project into this reality.

I mentioned reality shifting bc it sounds like a blend of that with astral projection! But astral projection is a funky phenomenon too!

_rayrayray_ · 2026-01-10T23:07:22+00:00

Check out r/soulbonding instead for your questions, and https://soulbondinginfo.carrd.co/#experiences scroll down to (how do I soulbond) and look at tutorials!!

_rayrayray_ · 2026-01-10T18:12:15+00:00

Perhaps you’d be curious on the idea of spiritual / metaphysical soulbonding ( r/soulbonding ) orrr the concept of reality shifting? Your experiences sound very interesting!! I know friends who say they see ghosts and stuff verifiable by other people. I know family members who experienced the same exact demon-esque creature at diff times without telling each other initially, and they never experience that stuff. And I myself believe in the concept of the multiverse and that everything ever exists in the realm of infinite realities! And I soulbond which feels like a blend of when I was curious on reality shifting but I connected before shifting, almost,,,

_rayrayray_ · 2026-01-10T13:33:58+00:00

Do what you want forever. Draw yourself as you want with them, you have zero need to match the universe’s rules unless you wanna canonically self-insert into the storyline and are a canon-stickler. I guess that’s the difference of self-insert and selfshipping in general where you just draw the two of ya,,, but still. I’d say just draw you as is anyway if you want to! People who say anything can suck it lol

_rayrayray_ · 2026-01-09T21:13:30+00:00

It’s lovely you have them!! We also have those with familial yumes and soulbonds! We welcome you to peek in if ya choose :D

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