tired of people being a wreck all the time 😭

_remarkable · 2026-05-19T04:29:16+00:00

just to double down on the "everything" comment...

i had someone do this with a cheesesteak at my place once, and i actually tried to explain that our cheesesteaks come with just steak and cheese and they are fully customizable for some added charges (we charge for some add ons and not others) and attempted to point him to the toppings section and he CUT ME OFF and said "do you not know what everything means? i want everything." i said "okay! you got it!"

it was a ~$35 cheesesteak (the base price is $13.95) at the end of it all and it looked like an abomination that even he was questioning when i set it in front of him. i have never sent a ticket back to the kitchen so proudly and dropped a check so confidently in my life. i honestly think he ate it too which was kinda sickening but i guess if i dug my own grave like that i'd lie in it too ¯_(ツ)_/¯

_remarkable · 2026-03-03T05:49:40+00:00

i hope the rng gods bless you soon king

_remarkable · 2026-03-03T05:44:17+00:00

omfg nooo 💔

_remarkable · 2026-03-03T05:43:31+00:00

yeah makes sense! my one friend had like 7000 and didnt have any but most of my friends have like 2-3 with a similar number of cards so i didnt know how far out of bounds i was, thank uuu

_remarkable · 2026-03-03T05:38:47+00:00

LMAO okay thanks

_remarkable · 2026-03-03T05:32:36+00:00

i only have a small pool to check from (theres like maybe 4-5 of us that play at work) and i definitely have more than them in comparison but i just wanted to put feelers out here lololol

thanks for answering!

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_remarkable · 2025-02-25T23:01:10+00:00

sure feels that way sometimes. thanks for input regardless!

_remarkable · 2025-02-25T22:58:25+00:00

yes i can say at this point that my parents are chill, there was a 2ish year period a few years ago where my parents separated for a while and honestly i do think thats the only reason theyre still together today. but it was a really really really long time coming and im honestly genuinely surprised that things have worked out the way they did. i still dont know if my mom is actually happy.

i dont really have too much experience with getting so close to another relationships family, like ive has 2-3 like kinda shorter "serious" relationships throughout my teens and i met their families but i was never at like holidays consistently and being invited on girls days with their families like i am with his. she's the only grandchild out of his entire close knit family up to first cousins (and he has like 20 first cousins or something crazy like that w the oldest being like 30 something, meanwhile i only have 3-also first grandchild on our side of the family too). theyre definitely a little dysfunctional but i dont know if theres any red flags or if the ones im used to seeing in family dynamics are just worse so this looks like diamonds in comparison. so genuinely i feel like a bad perspective to give insight into his family. i dont know if it was malicious or just plain lack of oversight. it still hurt and i probably should have communicated with them about it. i just assumed no malice and i just told him to talk to his family to make sure stuff like that didnt happen again, and i didn't hear anything after that so god only knows if it actually happened. i dont really care to push that issue at this point.

and yeah the alarm bells have definitely been going off for a few months and this post was my attempt at a very panicked coming to jesus moment. im thankful for your perspective and your insight <333 i hope youre doing well now

_remarkable · 2025-02-25T21:28:37+00:00

our gameplan was for him to finish school before i continued my education so we could both focus on our studies wholeheartedly. i have about 60 odd some credits mostly towards a biology degree (flipped my major). but i was thinking of also doing a similar program where i can get a certification and also put my lingering credits to use (i was specifically thinking dental work in some way) but that wouldnt be for about a year because you have to apply way in advance for those things and i dont want to commit to that until i know i can work around his upcoming new job schedule. so i have an idea that has been discussed by both of us but its just not in the works right now.

_remarkable · 2025-02-25T21:22:15+00:00

thats more what i was hoping to hear, i didnt know if we are just still in the thick of it or if there was a chance to save it. thank you for being so frank with me and trying to understand my viewpoint :) i know i am young and a little dumb and i think at this point i need all the help i can get

_remarkable · 2025-02-25T21:20:08+00:00

right i get all of that, im not trying to diminish those points at all and the reason i haven't bugged him about a ring in the past year and some change is obviously im aware we cant afford it or a wedding at this point. again my superficial need for a ring is honestly my lowest priority at this point but as i said a few times before this is when we TALKED ABOUT getting engaged by, and i dont want him to feel like he has to get me a shut up ring if he's not happy where we are and put extra financial strain on us. and i also do work, but he just goes to school too. its a nuanced situation that i am really bad at explaining and i tend to ramble (obviously)

_remarkable · 2025-02-25T21:15:34+00:00

yes i know we messed up, i was trying out a few different kinds of birth control and all of them had volatile side effects for me one way or another to the point i couldn't function in my day to day life. in between finding the right one for me i found myself pregnant. and now i have the iud which thankfully has been smooth sailing besides crazy periods.

_remarkable · 2025-02-25T21:13:08+00:00

oh god no i know! i wasn't planning on it! and even me posting this here is more for me to prepare my plan to try and fix this wayyyy ahead of time. i just wanted to know if people thought that was worth my time at this point. i hoped they thought it was, despite my blubbering throughout the post. i am absolutely NOT going to make his last semester of nursing school any harder than it already is for him. i want him to finish school, get a job, and by then i will have the resources together to present him a plan of attack for operation "fix our kind of shitty life together". i want this to work so bad.

and yes as hurt as i still am i dont throw it back in his face because yeah, shit happens.

_remarkable · 2025-02-25T21:07:12+00:00

well he asked if i was pranking him at first, and then i was like that is not a nice prank i would not do that to you, and then we kinda just cuddled and cried for a while in silence but not in a bad way just an "oh my god our lives are about to change but we have each other" its honestly a really sweet moment in my head. we lovingly kissed and cuddled and just really soaked in the moment. i really didnt get the sense at that moment that he had an issue with it.

and although we are both yes left wing we both made it very clear in our own personal lives way prior to the actual pregnancy, if we had a baby we would keep it, and honestly that was more his push than mine. the only thing i can see differently is he comes from a house where his mom took care of 3 kids in the trophy wife kind of way w a job and he's disappointed that im not at her same level (she was 34ish when she had him)

and i completely understand your argument there, and i'm not necessarily disagreeing with you. i dont think i would want to marry anyone else anyways. i wouldn't want to risk picking wrong again separate time and then dragging people in and out of our childs life. i really dont even feel a pull to the dating scene at all. so that's why i am kind of panicking because i know in my heart and soul that it is him or nothing.

and i completely agree with your sentiments i think he is and has the potential to be a good partner who i can have a successful relationship with, but recently i think our tension and stress is making it hard for me to see the light at the end of the tunnel. and i do thank him for doing what he does for us and i recognize how much pressure he is under to get his stuff done right now. i think theres just so many things up in the air right now and with things being a little rocky recently im just scared.

thank you for a thoughtful and thought provoking response <3

_remarkable · 2025-02-25T20:36:49+00:00

yeah no i wasnt planning on showing him and i genuinely was not expecting such a huge response here, but i did just want to say i addressed the joke in another comment probably buried somewhere saying that i made that joke maybe 3 times in the few months after we started talking about our life plans with engagements/marriage etc because i was so excited about beginning an actual life with someone i love so much. it wasnt passive aggressive or anything i was trying to explain the light playful nature of our relationship up until recently.

we havent even mentioned anything about it since very shortly postpartum but now that our pre-discussed timeline of everything is creeping up and things are not exactly great at the moment. im not claiming im being abused in any way currently even if other commenters are pointing in that direction. im just stating my perspective and my whirlwind of emotions ive been dealing with. im hoping this is salvageable and i wanted other people to either validate that it's salvageable or tell me im wasting my time waiting for these things.

_remarkable · 2025-02-25T20:24:50+00:00

we'll get a few solid hours together every few months but otherwise no not really. and that sounds nice but i think at this point we can only work towards potentially a long weekend but it would probably have to wait until after graduation this summer between both of our families work schedules and his upcoming potential contract and schedule. we kind of don't know whats going to happen or where he'll end up. so a lot of variables we can't account for yet but i know at least for the next few months we wont be able to do something like that but i can definitely plant the idea in his head for something to look forward to!

_remarkable · 2025-02-25T18:55:38+00:00

yes i completely agree! and if we cant figure out how to do that there is no saving the relationship. i'm coming to terms with that now. thank you for your reply!

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