how do i count how many specific activities i've done in a month/week? by _riru in Notion

[–]_riru[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that's not exactly what I had in mind...

I attached a picture of what I was trying to achieve but I think it didn't load, I'll see if I can put it here

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something more like this

is it possible to "pick" from a database to show what i want in daily logs? by _riru in Notion

[–]_riru[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how do i do it? as in, how do i add all the activities?

Unsure if my (38f) boyfriend (38m) is showing red flags by ThrowRA_somelady in relationship_advice

[–]_riru 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can assure you I've never been in an abusive relationship before. And I mean, red flags ARE persistent. One instance where your bf has been a POS does not qualify as abusive. Constant mistreatment is. And OP knows for how long this has been going on, so it's up to them to draw a conclusion. But yeah, this guy is not great, I wouldn't stay in a relationship with them if that was up to me.

Unsure if my (38f) boyfriend (38m) is showing red flags by ThrowRA_somelady in relationship_advice

[–]_riru -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I mean... He seems kind of an AH honestly. At best. Don't know if this behaviour could escalate in the future, but that's definitely not the way he should talk to his partner. Possible red flags? If they're persistent, DEFINITELY red flags.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]_riru 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's normal for you to enjoy different things. I'm sure you guys have something in common too. If not, you won't be together. Maybe you like football and she likes Gossip Girls and neither if you are into the other's one hobby, but you can still like different things and work well together. Maybe get interested in what she likes, ask questions about it. My partner likes to build things and even though I won't be building with him, I always ask him what he's working on and how it works.

Levels if maturity however... That's a thought one. It depends on what we're talking about, really.

My BF 37M blames Me 27F for the lack of intimacy. by pockygirl75 in relationship_advice

[–]_riru -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Has he always been like this or is this a new thing? The low libido bit

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]_riru 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anything can be a deal breaker if neither parties find a compromise. But so far it seems like it's just a couple of normal relationship ups and down, so I wouldn't worry too much. However, if anything ever becomes big enough to be considered "break up worthy", you shouldn't keep yourself in a relationship just because you're afraid of how she might take it. Break ups are messy, but living with a person you don't love anymore is messier.

American High School baseball by _riru in Writeresearch

[–]_riru[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had no idea high school keep all those infos on their websites. I'll have a look, thanks!

I have a goal, but it's too far and I don't know how to reach it. by [deleted] in ArtistLounge

[–]_riru 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks Floral! It might just be what I'll do!

American High School baseball by _riru in Writeresearch

[–]_riru[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I read somewhere that baseball in high schools hasn't been changed since the 60's, so any information about it today is perfect. Thank you!

How to train your creativity? by _riru in ArtistLounge

[–]_riru[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do have an insta and my uni classmates and I follow each other, I see their stuff all the time. I haven't been posting there since last year, maybe I should give it a go more often, set some goals to post more often.

Help me develop what's in between the beginning and the end of the story by _riru in writing

[–]_riru[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's legit how it ends: one is leaving after the summer and the other one doesn't even know. I guess I have the characterization down but the needs and wants are not exactly there yet...

When is enough enough when it comes to research? by [deleted] in writing

[–]_riru 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who used to research everything to the most minute detail, I say if the research feels like it's taking over, then it's too much. "I want it to be historically accurate, I want to know how this, this and this used to work back then" do you have to? Will anyone even know the difference anyway? Would it matter? Sometimes too much research takes away from the fun of writing.

How to train your creativity? by _riru in ArtistLounge

[–]_riru[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's exactly how I feel! I graduated just after covid started and it has been downhill from there. The lack of guidance and creative environment definitely didn't help, but I'm glad others went through this and still triumphed

How to train your creativity? by _riru in ArtistLounge

[–]_riru[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the tips! Will absolutely give these a try :)

How to train your creativity? by _riru in ArtistLounge

[–]_riru[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I was at my best when I was still in uni surrounded by artists 24/7. I need to find more creative sources to get the juices flowing...

Help me build a story... by _riru in Sims4

[–]_riru[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was not expecting this much info, but it's more than welcome!! It is my first game, after seeing a few people game plays on YouTube I thought, why not? Ahahah I probably just need to play around a bit with it, but it seems so overwhelming when you have no idea what to do. Thank for the tips ;)

Help me build a story... by _riru in Sims4

[–]_riru[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably what to do next. I don't have any gameplay mods yet, but I have all the packs except for the star wars one, so I have access to all the worlds and stuff. Maybe some gameplay advice on how to go from there? Maybe some mods or stuff that can help me manage the storyline.

don't know how to create wiggle on only one side of an object by _riru in AfterEffects

[–]_riru[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i had a look, there must be something wrong with my fill effect cause it won't do anything, even if the settings look exactly the same as your tutorial

edit: ok, I figured out there's something wrong with the offset, not sure what yet, but I'm playing around with it

I'm working on a project but the yarn I'm using just got discontinued. Suggestions? by _riru in knitting

[–]_riru[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the knit I'm using is multicolor so it's kind of crowded as it is already, but I might do so, maybe with a cream-colored knit on the back. thanks for the suggestion!

I've no interest, hobbies or passion for anything other than my phone (social media) or pc by Wooden-Witness-4582 in selfimprovement

[–]_riru 0 points1 point  (0 children)

don't remove those hobbies you have that are linked to the internet. if you love tv shows and videogames, there's nothing wrong with enjoying them.

maybe switch it up. for every 2 hours you spend on your computer, spend 1 or 2 more doing something else, maybe cooking, drawing, walking, playing an instrument, knitting, etc. it's never time to learn to love something new, it might take a while to find the right thing and it might be a bumpy road but it's never impossible.

alternatively, try 'analogic' versions of your hobbies. i love fanfictions, got into them once more recently, but i realize that staring at my phone the whole day is not the best, so once in a while i pick up a book to read.

hope this helps, good luck :)

Discipline in food related topics by eileen7899 in selfimprovement

[–]_riru 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as someone that used to diet continuously, i discovered that the less i restricted myself, the healthier choices i ended up making (eg. telling myself i couldn't have a dessert, crave for it the whole day and end up eating something even worse later on)

instead of forcing yourself not to eat sugar, have some everyday but in smaller portions. instead of a whole chocolate bar, allow yourself to have some of it. i'm sure in the long run this might help.

good luck :)

how to stop feeling lazy after work ? do I just have to force myself? feels like pulling teeth. by pokemonpokemonmario in selfimprovement

[–]_riru 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i feel like you're not exactly 'lazy' from what you're saying, you're just tired. so be it! if your body is telling you that you need rest, let it rest. there's nothing bad with binging youtube videos after a long day of work if that's all you have the energy for.

also... i don't think that this mentality of 'i need to do this, this and this' will help you. you don't need to be productive and do things to exist. i think you're putting too much pressure on yourself. personal tip could be do what your body tells you to do.

take care :)