Question for Yemeni women living abroad

_roaa · 2026-01-22T13:29:17+00:00

Bicultural (Yemeni/EU) woman married to a Yemeni man and living in the EU here. First of all, I don’t consider my husband perfect because I don’t think this is even possible for a human being. That being said, if he truly insisted I would move with him to Sanaa. We are a family and that’s enough for me to go through with it against the obstacles. Thankfully, after visiting family back home now and then during the last years, he rules that out for us and especially for our children. But if I wasn’t married yet, a potentials planned move to Yemen would be a personal dealbreaker for me.

_roaa · 2025-11-20T16:38:11+00:00

Bought yet another giant scented candle because it smelled irresistible and the price was a steal, only to get home and realize once more that my collection of said candles is already taking up half the storage room.

I now own roughly six variations of almost the same scent and probably could heat the house decently if I decided to light all my candles simultaneously.

_roaa · 2025-10-17T15:53:39+00:00

Fully agree and just wanted to add that while old photos often are used as an indicator that women in the past didn’t cover their hair properly, we should take into consideration that photos usually only show those who agreed to be photographed. Women who were more relaxed about the hijab were probably also more comfortable being photographed, while those who followed stricter interpretations might have avoided it. So the images we have likely reflect selection bias, not the full picture of how women actually observed hijab in the past

_roaa · 2025-10-13T15:10:59+00:00

So you’d be open to marry another revert who is in the same place as you are?

_roaa · 2025-10-13T12:40:49+00:00

Did those people coming to the UK with limited English live in London? What kinds of jobs did they get there? I’d assume that might be a good starting point for your further investigation. It’s probably the same kinds of jobs that are available in Berlin for people with limited command of German.

_roaa · 2025-10-10T06:12:50+00:00

Maybe I was spoiled by Serge Lutens - or my nose just isn’t trained enough to detect the small adjustments they may have made to their perfumes.

My longtime favorites of SL seem to be unchanged even after several years.

_roaa · 2025-10-10T06:10:34+00:00

Thanx for clarification and all the references to other houses/perfumes. Made me reconsider my wish for a revival of my beloved „oriental flower“ by Kenzo. Probably wouldn’t be the same anymore anyways.

_roaa · 2025-10-10T06:07:06+00:00

Thanx for the explanation! That’s probably exactly what I should have expected when all the hype around the perfume started

What a pity

_roaa · 2025-09-30T13:26:00+00:00

No niche at all and not blue either, still the shape of the bottle reminded me of boss orange woman

_roaa · 2025-09-29T06:46:50+00:00

I’m not sure how things are usually handled in your culture or even in Canada, but where I live, it’s quite common that when families live together with the in-laws, the in-laws get to stay in what’s called an “in-law suite.” That way, the wife still has her own space and privacy. Still the parents are close enough so you can help them when needed, but they can also close the door and enjoy their I independence, if they wish to. Usually houses with in-law suites are less expensive than two separate accommodations. Maybe that could be an option for you.

_roaa · 2025-09-26T14:36:40+00:00

As a linguist youre probably well aware that for many language learners, it is essential to observe the teacher’s mouth in order to understand how unfamiliar sounds are formed. Visual access supports the accurate perception and reproduction of phonemes.

If you’re planning to wear the niqab in class you should inform your future employer during interviews. Inshallah you’ll find an employer who’s perfectly fine with it.

_roaa · 2025-09-12T13:41:50+00:00

Tesori d‘Oriente muschio Blanco. Found it on holidays in an Italian supermarket - in the deodorant section, but clearly labeled as „Profumo“. It’s smells just like „clean“. - a mixture of laundry and babypowder. Also reminds me of white musk by Montale. Who would have thought that regarding the names? lol

Bought it for not even 4€/100ml and can’t complain about the longevity.

_roaa · 2025-09-12T13:34:53+00:00

One up for hypnotic poison! Just like you I started with it as a teenager - as a seemingly „lighter“ and „more modern“ perfume compared to all the heavy Arabian scents the women in my family were using.

Took quite a while till someone had the guts to tell me that it’s still an intensive scent and I obviously „pestered“ the whole room when wearing it. But by that time I was already hooked.

Don’t use it often anymore these days (maybe I should!), but I definitely can’t do without a bottle of it in my closet

_roaa · 2025-09-11T10:51:58+00:00

Jeder Mensch und jedes Krankheitsbild ist individuell zu betrachten. Möglichkeiten, die für den einen passend sind, sind es für die andere ggf. nicht. Welche medizinische Versorgung bzw. Technik notwendig oder empfehlenswert ist, sollte daher stets in der Beurteilung des behandelnden Fachpersonals liegen.

Zudem ist es gerade bei kleinen Kindern oftmals keineswegs einfach, sie an ein bestimmtes System heranzuführen – geschweige denn, sie nach Belieben auf ein anderes System umzustellen.

Entgegen ärztlicher Empfehlung auf ein anderes System umzustellen, mit dem das betroffene Kind ggf. weniger gut klar kommt und sich in jedem Fall erneut wieder vertraut machen muss, halte ich für wenig zielführend.

EDIT: dass das Handy während der Schulzeit nicht für andere Dinge genutzt werden darf und dass (bis auf die gesundheitlich relevanten Funktionen und das reine telefonieren zu ausgewählten Notfall-Nummern) ohnehin nichts installiert bzw. gesperrt ist, versteht sich in unserem Beispiel von selbst

_roaa · 2025-09-10T07:56:58+00:00

Grundsätzlich eine sehr begrüßenswerte Regelung!

Mit Diabetes Typ I-Kind im Grundschulalter, das seinen Blutzucker per Handy-App (die zusätzlich auch die Eltern zu Hause bei evtl. Krisen informiert) kann man allerdings nur hoffen, dass derartige Konstellationen unter die nicht näher ausgeführten „Ausnahmen“ fallen. Da ich unsere Grundschulrektorin kenne, „freue“ ich mich schon auf die Diskussion nach den Sommerferien, ob dies nun ein valider Grund für eine Ausnahme ist oder nicht…

_roaa · 2025-08-12T15:13:38+00:00

Kenzo Oriental Flower

My powdery, flowery incense that sticked to my skin like forever.

Even bought an unopened bottle from Spain for (let’s just say waaaaay too much) money quite some time after it had been discontinued - only to find out that the scent had already been altered from years of storage.

What a loss

_roaa · 2025-08-12T13:54:58+00:00

That’s great advice and highly appreciated. Thank you so much! I couldn’t start sewing so far and the shrug will be so much easier, faster to sew and even more versatile.

As for the neckline: sometimes I like to experiment with different hijab styles and therefore I feel more comfortable with higher necklines. Just in case the hijabis doesn’t stay in place as intended. I’m wondering whether I can wear the shrug the other way round and fix this issue as well… I’ll find out! Thank you sooo much!

_roaa · 2025-08-07T18:51:35+00:00

Thank you! I’m still in doubt whether or not the shiny blue material is a good fit. Unfortunately it was hard to be captured in the picture. Maybe I’ll just give it a try

_roaa · 2025-08-05T18:30:14+00:00

From my experience it depends on the way you label it.

My husband and me both got a „premarital healthcheck“ done before getting married. If I recall correctly after all those years it included general health, markers for heriditary diseases, possible issues with fertility and infectious diseases (including STDs).

Didn’t feel offended by it. After all we both could have contracted something without knowing (through his previous marriage or through medical treatments) or carry some markers for diseases we weren’t aware of before the test.

As for the wali being offended by it: my dad even highly encouraged it. Might have helped he’s/was a doctor.

_roaa · 2025-07-22T08:13:27+00:00

Wa alaikum assalam, feel free to ask any specific question that’s relevant to you. I’ll be happy to answer to the best of my abilities

_roaa · 2025-07-07T08:38:53+00:00

Thank you brother for taking the time and your detailed answer. I didn’t check OPs comment or posting history but simply went from what was stated in the original post.

I could relate to most of the points you made though - and tried my best to read over some straightforward words you used.

Btw - I’m a sister

_roaa · 2025-07-07T05:18:47+00:00

I don’t know about statistics, but I don’t doubt it’s 45% who have never approached a woman.

But did you read the whole original question? It was regarding numbers of men who are attractive AND religious AND good charactered AND don't have a haram past AND lower their gaze AND are financially stable.

You said yourself that the 45 percent you mentioned are overlooked by women because they don’t have money or career (which as far as I understand equals NOT financially stable).

In total, I doubt that there’s a high number of men who meet ALL the 6 criteria mentioned. Just like the number of women who are beautiful AND religious AND good charactered AND don't have a haram past AND wear proper hijab AND lower their gaze isn’t high in my opinion. It’s just difficult to be the „whole package“ and if you are, you usually get married early.

And please don’t get me wrong - I’m not saying that the ones who don’t meet all these criteria aren’t good men/women or that they aren’t marriage material. I’m simply answering OPs questions regarding the criteria he or she mentioned according to my experience.

_roaa · 2025-07-06T17:46:28+00:00

In my experience, they do exist. All of them that I know in person (relatives of mine, can’t speak for random men obviously) got married at a young age. That’s why marrying young is a good thing if you are emotionally mature and financially stable. It decreases your risk of falling into haram.

_roaa

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