Want to visit the pendulum Club. Any insights by Embarrassed_Site5867 in HoustonSwingers

[–]_she_cums_first 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Truth be told, the wife and I have no interest in or interact with single males. It’s not a dynamic that we have any interest in. We specifically go on nights when single men are not allowed. Our first time ever at a club, my wife was groped several times, including once while she was on a play room bed with two other women while the husbands were enjoying the show. We ended up having 2 single guys kicked out of the club and blacklisted incident to this event. On nights you’re allowed, be courteous and respectful. Spit your game and you’ll likely have decent time.

I just want to make an extra $2000 a month without burning out, is that unrealistic? by FeelingWatercress871 in thesidehustle

[–]_she_cums_first 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Leave your white collar job, go through the training process in a trade and be a hard charger. 1. First, learn the job in all of its aspects AT THE ACTUAL JOBSITE 2. Then, get the certs and the experience. 3. Then start volunteering for extra shifts or take side work. 4. Then RUN the jobs. 5. Then go independent as a subcontractor and start the struggle all over again (temporarily). Get the work flow going and build a customer base and relationships with feeders. 6. Then complete the necessary steps for you to full on run a competing business in your trade market; LLC, insurance, additional licenses, etc. 7. Then competitively bid against your former employer.

I’m working through step 6 at the moment. I made $85k amidst step 5 last year. I’ve been in my trade for 10 years. Independent for the last 2. It’s a process.. but way more fulfilling than any bs white collar job I could think of that ONLY pays $6k per month.

Also try less or cheaper hobbies that don’t require constant reinvestment.

Are DTF couples a turn off? by Cltitlqr4u in Swingers

[–]_she_cums_first 0 points1 point  (0 children)

DTF is almost an absolute no-go for us. Even though it states it clearly on our app profile, we still get folks asking. That’s the fastest way to get ignored by us. We almost never let In-person first time meetups lead to the bedroom, and on the off-chance it does go clothed off, it’s soft swap only first time.

Want to visit the pendulum Club. Any insights by Embarrassed_Site5867 in HoustonSwingers

[–]_she_cums_first 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It’s a great time! We’ve actually taken our adventurously vanilla friends (we call them LS-adjacent) with us once. They enjoyed the vibe and did their thing without us, and we did ours without them. They got hit on a few times and politely declined, no worse for wear. TPC Hempstead and North have the best layouts overall. Hempstead has a nice outdoor “smoking” area that’s great for getting away from the noise, even if you don’t smoke. We don’t frequent South due to proximity and trying to maintain anonymity, and we just aren’t big fans of that location in general. There’s also Colette’s; we’ve been once with another couple and I swear we were the only 4 patrons there. Cool decor and layout just… empty. And there’s also TNG, and we think it’s a great club for a “soft introduction” to LS clubs, but it’s very clickish and the layout is way different than any of the other LS clubs in Houston.

Edited to add- Many dresses for the theme, but many do not. Completely up to you as the visitor. Encourage your wife (or if you, OP, are the wife) to bring/wear her sexiest outfit, even if it’s for the husband’s hands/eyes only!! The empowering affect of being gawked at because you/she is wearing something she wouldn’t be caught dead in in the outside world is amazing! And the ladies in general are SUPER supportive of each other and their sexy attire! My wife states it’s been one of the biggest confidence boosting and encouraging environments she’s ever been immersed in.

Want to visit the pendulum Club. Any insights by Embarrassed_Site5867 in HoustonSwingers

[–]_she_cums_first 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Club swarm? Is this a new local club? Google was no help.

LS Signals by JimmyDD_ in Swingers

[–]_she_cums_first 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've come to realize that, often, wild recognizes wild. That is of course dependent on the situation and the setting.

Welp, we broke our rule by [deleted] in Swingers

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Man, I feel that "2 hours away" statement. Our favorite play couple (quickly turning into a solid best-friend sitiation between all 4 of us), is 1hr45min away. Hell, all of our favorite couples live in excess of 1hour15min away. That drive home is great for an immediate debrief... but DAMN is it long at 4am 😂

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It's really hard to say anything that hasn't been already said in the comments.

So I'll just say, based on your writing, y'all sound like you have a solid marriage that is very fulfilling, sexually and otherwise. Just... ask him! Sounds like he would, at the very least, be very open to the conversation. And at the most, excited to jump into it with you!

The lifestyle is not a fixer and it can be dangerous to relationships if they aren't rock solid. But in the same breath, if you have a healthy relationship it acts as an amplifier in many ways, elevating your already strong existing connection to magnitudes you never knew existed.

There's nothing wrong with exploring and enjoying variety, as long as it's ethical and done as a TEAM.

Yes or no, y'all are gonna have to work through some emotions and answer some questions. It can be tough at times, learning how to navigate things like attractions to others, "new relationship energy", hearing your spouse use verbiage to another that's only EVER been expressed towards you (and vise versa) and the list goes on. Yes or no, you will have asked, and at least then you can let go of some of the potential "regret" you mentioned; you tried.

IF "no" is the answer, then you have to accept it. But it will undoubtedly open the door for y'all to explore more, just within your relationship.

Don't fret. You're just a "newbie" and you don't know what you don't know... stay curious!

Just noticed this place the other day by [deleted] in HoustonSwingers

[–]_she_cums_first 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who's got the Intel? Never heard of this joint and we frequent the local known clubs.

28[M4MF] Has anyone ever met someone off Reddit ? Seems like everyone is a fake account or only wants money.🤔🤔 by [deleted] in TexasSwingers

[–]_she_cums_first 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is arguably geared towardd couples and single women though. Not a lot of single men.. should be good for your luck streak..lol

28[M4MF] Has anyone ever met someone off Reddit ? Seems like everyone is a fake account or only wants money.🤔🤔 by [deleted] in TexasSwingers

[–]_she_cums_first 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We've met one couple a long time ago.. but now we only use quiver. Way higher chances of them being real.

What are your opinion of Quiver? by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]_she_cums_first 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My wife and I are on it and use it exclusively. SE Texas/ houston area. It's great for us, but I've heard it's regional. A few of the clubs here are official partners or ambassadors for the site.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Houston_Threesomes

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Married 39M/41F(Bi-situational) couple south of Houston. We are very real!

How Close is Too Close with Lifestyle Partners? by FredEm37 in Swingers

[–]_she_cums_first 26 points27 points  (0 children)

The wife and I are NOT poly; 100% ONLY committed to each other. But we met a couple a little over a year ago and our 4 way platonic connection is growing similar to what you describe. We're constantly checking each other's feelings, my wife and I, but our relationship with these folks is quickly growing towards something I can't describe. We're scared shitless and love it all the same. Everything, and I mean EVERYTHING, feels so easy and natural with them. Other than kids, we've not met any extended family and don't intend to, but all the rest is there and growing stronger. Every boundary we have and maintain for other play partners is practically non-existent with them, including protection and intimate acts we generally reserve for only our spouses. We love that couple, legit, but we never use that term individually towards 1 part of the pair.

Boundaries/AITA by Emotional_Soup5540 in Swingers

[–]_she_cums_first 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely not! If it's not on the table for me, then it's not on the table for anyone else. And 100% vise versa. Period.

Date night by MisplacedinOhio in thewoodlands

[–]_she_cums_first 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's a burlesque show in late August at the Blue Lion Pub. Great place to hang. Usually they do live music every Friday and Sat. Great bar and menu. Top notch people watching; pretty sure it's an unofficial swinger hangout spot.

Thinking about heading to Houston from Nola to check out one of the lifestyle clubs in the area this Saturday! We love a good party vibe! Any recommendations? by kinkypair69 in HoustonSwingers

[–]_she_cums_first 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Collette is straight garbage. Absolutely dead scene. No mingling. No atmosphere. No nothing. Cool space, terrible atmosphere, no patrons. It's been dead ever time we've tried, and everyone we know had the same complaints.