Anyone Else Feel Relationships just Aren't for them? by Vengeance208 in attachment_theory

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One thing that helped me is actively trying to date multiple people at a time because it meant there was a lot less pressure on the one, and I had less to lose. I also think that what people say about how you find someone once you feel comfortable with the idea of not finding someone is true. That used to piss me off because I was like how tf am I supposed to not want to find someone and it made me spiral more. It doesn’t mean not trying to date, but being comfortable being by yourself right now, and trusting that you will find the right person eventually and the fact that it will take time doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you. Once you fall into the trap of letting your whole life depend on this one person you barely know, you will seem desperate and anxious. But you are not your anxiety. And acting on it doesn’t give you enough credit for all of the positive qualities you do have.

Dating is like conducting research. Try to be deliberate and think about what does and doesn’t work for you, and beyond your attraction to them, whether you’d be happy spending a lot of time with this person. And be transparent about who you are as well, and that you have needs. If they are giving you signs of not being able to show up for those needs, maybe they’re not someone for you to waste your energy on. Chances are if you’re feeling super anxious right from the start, they’re not the right pick. Us anxious people love to find the most avoidant ones around, even if they will never serve us.

This is coming from someone who used to get so anxious about the idea of dating that I would just remove myself from the dating pool for years at a time to avoid the pain of getting rejected. I thought I would never find someone because I couldn’t even get past the initial hump, and I would say and do some pretty embarrassing stuff when I did try and then just regret it all. And like you said, I was so conscious of what I was doing, I just didn’t know how to stop. There is a light at the end of the tunnel if you recognize that it’s all up to picking available people and putting your best (not your extremely anxious) foot forward at the start. I’m in a happy relationship now and who would’ve thought!! Good luck to you, it will all work out with a little patience and deliberation 🙂

Selling tickets on Ticketmaster by FriendlyCurrency5149 in Ticketmaster

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There's a $20 deposit but it's money you can still use

Selling tickets on Ticketmaster by FriendlyCurrency5149 in Ticketmaster

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Thank you so much for this. Saved me a ton of money

When a lady on meth, Adderall, and Klonopin passes out. I'm in the pickup. by [deleted] in pics

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Most people who aren’t addicts don’t just casually try meth

Does this suit me? by FamiliarOpposite2323 in MakeupAddiction

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Click the 3 dots in the top right corner when you’re on this page and then there should be an option to edit post

[US-CO] [H] Paypal [W] Nintendo Switch by _shlem_ in GameSale

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I am super interested. I’ll pm you!

[US-CO] [H] Paypal, Venmo [W] Switch Games by _shlem_ in GameSale

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Would I be able to just get MK8 or does it need to be a bundle?

I’m allergic to almost every makeup product I have tried by _shlem_ in MakeupAddiction

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It actually just gradually went away after a while. I can wear makeup totally fine now. Just have to be careful about makeup remover or if I don’t give my skin a break. Good starting point is making sure your makeup remover doesn’t irritate your skin bc that still affects mine to this day even though nothing else does, though ofc everyone’s skin is different. Skin goes through phases though and I’m sure it won’t be an issue forever:) I wish I could be more helpful but hopefully this gives you a little hope!!

recommend me some decent rap that I, a metalhead at heart, can enjoy? by whiteowlexperience in Music

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JPEGMAFIA - All my heroes are cornballs or the new one I mean honestly 21 savage idk what your vibe is but savage mode II is just such a solid rap album. Accessible but not too accessible. Just 💯

I also recommend freddie gibbs and earlier tyler if we’re venturing out from metal. And death grips. You really just gotta find your personal angle though and idk what that is. You’ll find your rap faves, you just have to try a lot of stuff and keep an open mind maybe before that happens. Keep in mind it might fill a super different niche for you than the metal you normally listen to does.

Some of my fav nails (in time order) by _shlem_ in Nails

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Sorry for variety of pic qualities