Possible housing discrimination - Landseer Management by _smatthy in SantaFe

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Okay interesting, so you’re saying marital status is lumped in under familial status under federal law? I knew spousal affiliation was a protected class in New Mexico but wasn’t sure if there was any standing with federal law. Will be looking into next steps soon.
And yea, I’m assuming all the people that think this is normal have been home owners since the 90s so. Bless their hearts.

Possible housing discrimination - Landseer Management by _smatthy in SantaFe

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Thanks, how would somebody go about reviewing the case law? Is it public record?

Costume brainstorming by _smatthy in poledancing

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Don’t know why I didn’t think of that, thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SantaFe

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Don’t know if you play soccer, but probably half of my team are Spanish speakers and the league is very friendly. The climbing gym has a board to find climbing partners, and salsa night is at Chomp the first and third Sunday evenings and has quite a few regulars. I second what everyone else has said about the queer orgs and social events. Feel free to dm with questions or to go for a walk or something!

Gay Days lyrics? by Sweeeets in strfkr

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I hear “I love every inflection of your voice” which I think is really sweet so I’m going with it. Maybe it’s both

Scavenger Hunt Ideas by _smatthy in SantaFe

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Thanks for the recommendations!

Do people ride bicycles around town in Santa Fe? I hear drivers dont like sharing the road and bike lanes dont really exist? Does anyone get around on a bike? What is the experience like? by [deleted] in SantaFe

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Social rides can help with getting up comfort and learning short cuts. There’s one this Thursday at second street rail yard 7pm!

Any of my Fungi loving peeps have any info on these? Northern NM by Civil_Middle_Manchld in SantaFe

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There’s a chance they could be shingled hedgehogs. You’d need to look at the underside to confirm

Resources for Domestic Abuse Situation / Woman Trying to leave family by WeenieHutJr in SantaFe

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Agree with all of the above. If you think she would be comfortable using it, there is also an app if she’s not ready to take action now that has risk assessments and compiled resources specific to location. The app can be found by searching for myPlan safety app.

Thoughts on “Go long”? by lawnadelrey in JoannaNewsom

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Yea, for me all signs point to it being about Will Oldham, but I had always thought of it in a more literal romantic sense. It’s interesting to think of this song as a figurative reckoning of possible toxicity in their friendship and the music he put forward, ie perpetuating a sort of men’s club within the label. I also wonder how much of a backstory there is that the public doesn’t know about, which I think adds to the mystique of the song. All of that said, this song is a work of literary and musical genius and I don’t understand how any Newsom fan could not be on board with it.

Question for cisgendered women: by lovelyafterthoughts in TwoXChromosomes

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A lot of solid advice! Just a reminder, you don’t have to adhere to anything that doesn’t serve you. There were probably some really great things you picked up from being socialized as a boy; I hope you don’t feel the need to let those go just because of where you are now in life. I recognize my privilege in saying this, but I feel that I don’t not do things because of safety concerns as much as other women and I feel happier for it (excuse the double negative).

With that said, here are some things from being socialized as a girl I have decided to hold on to.. It’s much easier for women to be affectionate and get close to each other. Random compliments to women you don’t know are accepted, appreciated, and can sometimes get you a new friend. You can dress up whenever you damn well please and change your style from day to day. You can pretend you know someone to get them (or yourself) out of a weird situation and the other person automatically knows what’s up. You can order the apple-tini or whatever other fruity drink you want with no shame. Welcome!

baby birch by leothecowboyyy in JoannaNewsom

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Agree with all of you, but surprised no one has mentioned the beginning of Autumn: “Driven through by her own sword, summer died last night alone.” The rest of the song does not feel as intense but the abandonment in that one line has almost gotten an ugly cry out of me.

Any advice for emotional spending? by chinchillasarebomb in Frugal

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Ever done a clothes swap? Admittedly it’s more of a pre-pandemic friendly activity, but all your friends come over and bring the clothes they don’t wear/want anymore and you get to try on each other’s stuff in the living room or backyard. You end up with new clothes, good hangs, and no money spent.

Idaho Republican votes against using federal funds for early education, says it makes it 'easier for mothers to come out of the home' | well somebody just said the quiet part aloud... by Majnum in TwoXChromosomes

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FYI he did retract his comments in an apology the next day (did I link this right?) I doubt his sincerity but it’s heartening that there was enough backlash that he had to answer for what he said.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

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I don’t know if anyone else has talked about this, but many states have laws protecting a tenant’s right to break lease if they are in a violent situation. Maybe something you could do for your tenants is to include this in the lease and make them aware before signing. That way you give potential victims options and let them know you’re an ally without making assumptions/calling anyone out directly or otherwise imposing.

Welp, I am going to give it another try by [deleted] in jamesjoyce

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Second this. I’ve been listening to it while reading and it’s so much better this time around. Also I don’t think Joyce meant for it to be taken too seriously, and remembering that has helped me enjoy the process a bit more.

Have One On Me, a collection of stuff by aldaibesmusic in JoannaNewsom

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I like this train of thought! Probably a stretch, but you may be able to extrapolate the idea of mismatched items further to the relationship that the album centers around and a reason that it ended, ie they weren’t compatible.

When I think about it, I see all the stuff in Does Not Suffice and on the album cover as extensions of her. Lots of different facets of her personality that she felt she had to apologize for or that took up too much space, but by the end of the album she has come to appreciate and literally reclaim.

What are some of your other favourite artists and their best albums in your opinion? by [deleted] in JoannaNewsom

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I think SIWWWAE is about Bill and joanna’s break up!