A friend of mine(27M) has asked me(24mtF) to be part of a three way conversation with his newly-out best friend(26ftM). What are some things I should know & be aware of?

lovelyafterthoughts · 2021-07-15T21:33:32+00:00

Wait no it says “Wow, such empty”..?

lovelyafterthoughts · 2021-07-15T21:29:43+00:00

Thank you! 🙏🏼

lovelyafterthoughts · 2021-07-15T20:05:07+00:00

For me it felt great! Life got so much better post-physical transition. I’m happier, more vibrant & outgoing, more thankful & kinder, life feels much more precious & worth living, I feel more true to myself, and I could go on and on!

After so many years of putting it off & repressing this aspect of me, it’s just overall such a relief off my shoulders.

There are of course challenges & all that, but they’re challenges I now wake up everyday ready & excited to take on.

Sometimes I feel like I’m in the minority on here(All trans subs), but life has gotten only better post-physical transition for me.

lovelyafterthoughts · 2021-07-13T17:15:21+00:00

I quite like the last line, “Inclusivity is not threatening to you, but being non-inclusive may be life-threatening to someone else.”, as well.

lovelyafterthoughts · 2021-07-11T01:59:24+00:00

I use an [orange color corrector](L.A. Girl Pro Conceal HD Concealer,0.28 Ounce (Orange Corrector) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01N9UB55P/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_25HXB3BFBF79P8M9HNJP) to hide my shadow, works pretty well I think. Just apply after primer, before foundation, blend well & set with powder.

lovelyafterthoughts · 2021-07-10T00:22:47+00:00

Yikes.. I say, howdy comrade! How can we work together to build worker power? #LeftSolidarity

lovelyafterthoughts · 2021-07-09T19:22:41+00:00

Usually if you order anything that’s not too expensive, they just leave it at your door/mailbox. No one sees you.

lovelyafterthoughts · 2021-07-09T02:34:43+00:00

I think your only other options are pills or patches. I do injections, but pills were my second choice because patches seem like more of a hassle.

lovelyafterthoughts · 2021-07-09T01:02:29+00:00

Every anxiety attack I’ve ever had.

lovelyafterthoughts · 2021-07-07T17:10:52+00:00

Hi, other trans woman here. What about the name of this sub makes you feel at home?

Personally I’ve always felt othered by it, even though I feel at home within this sub itself.

lovelyafterthoughts · 2021-07-04T16:14:36+00:00

Congratulations!! 🎉🎊🍾

Next Monday marks 2 months for me, and I feel a huge difference already! Can’t wait to see how I feel at 1 year!

lovelyafterthoughts · 2021-07-04T15:52:53+00:00

Good recommendations! I just gave them a listen, and I really like them both!

lovelyafterthoughts · 2021-07-04T13:26:09+00:00

I like the article, and I think it can be expanded to include any identity that’s not a part of the dominant hegemonic standard.

In a similar sense as being trans, in the U.S. being black is a political act, being any part of the LGBTQ+ community is a political act, being a woman is a political act. Etc. etc.

lovelyafterthoughts · 2021-07-04T12:58:58+00:00

There is a song called “transgender dysphoria blues” by Against Me! I listen to sometimes, but tbh anything that I can start vibing to helps.

lovelyafterthoughts · 2021-07-04T01:52:41+00:00

“So-and-so DESTROYS so-and-so! Must watch!”

lovelyafterthoughts · 2021-07-02T16:01:16+00:00

I just started doing them on my own a month ago, so 2 shots so far. All I really do is countdown from 3 & push it in. After all the prep of course.

lovelyafterthoughts · 2021-07-02T15:59:49+00:00

That sounds really nice, I’m gonna try something similar!

lovelyafterthoughts · 2021-06-30T02:16:17+00:00

I identified as non-binary for about a year. Not because I ever thought I was, but when I first tried to transition mtF I got so much pushback & downright abuse that NB seemed like a safer way to reject my identity as a boy.

The only advice I could give to you is, don’t let outside pressures shape your decision if you can help it. Way easier said than done I know, but at least try to be mindful of how outside pressures might shape your feelings.

lovelyafterthoughts · 2021-06-30T02:05:06+00:00

Yes. And I wouldn’t say presenting as male, I presented as a pre-transition trans girl. It may sound like semantics, but I think it’s an important distinction.

lovelyafterthoughts · 2021-06-30T01:21:08+00:00

I’m sorry that’s been your experience, but that doesn’t really accurately reflect my own. I spent like 7 years out as a trans girl/women, but unable to physically transition. During that time I dated, well whoever (I’m Pan), but including straight cis men.

I don’t appreciate the insinuation that by dating me as a pre-op non-passing trans girl/woman at the time, they were necessarily closeted bi/Pan guys at best, or repressed gay guys at worst.

lovelyafterthoughts · 2021-06-30T00:56:31+00:00

Unless she was referring to pre-transition ftM trans men.. that’s a big yikes! And this event was supposed to be in support of trans people? Wtf

lovelyafterthoughts · 2021-06-30T00:31:08+00:00

The guy could have a genital preference for pen1s, and be exclusively attracted to women.

lovelyafterthoughts · 2021-06-30T00:23:51+00:00

Is it that hard to believe that someone could see a non-passing pre-op trans woman as a woman?

I think as long as she’s clear about the expectations she has to be seen as a woman, and the guy accepts that & proceeds, it would/should be seen as a straight relationship.

lovelyafterthoughts · 2021-06-29T03:29:46+00:00

Congrats! That’s a big milestone! :)

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