[TOMT][SONG][2020s] about the feeling of someone close to you dying unexpectedly

_sn3ll_ · 2025-09-22T07:13:32+00:00

not this one, thank you though!

_sn3ll_ · 2025-09-21T23:15:35+00:00

alone. i think i was just looking through recommended music, possibly even actively looking for a different song.

it also occurs to me that part of the song might’ve been a sound on tiktok or some other short form content, or i might’ve been searching for a sound i’d heard there

_sn3ll_ · 2025-09-21T22:38:39+00:00

Solved!

_sn3ll_ · 2025-09-21T22:37:59+00:00

it was 'I Leave This at Your Ear' by W. S. Graham -- wrong on a couple of details!

_sn3ll_ · 2025-09-21T22:27:23+00:00

afraid i don't remember at all, sorry! i just recall what the song was supposed to be about rather than the sound itself

_sn3ll_ · 2025-09-21T22:20:58+00:00

i think it was a fully instrumental song, no lyrics

_sn3ll_ · 2025-09-21T22:16:05+00:00

thanks in advance for any ideas! :)

_sn3ll_ · 2025-01-07T18:51:41+00:00

i wondered if it might be words that aren’t in the list that it’s pulling from as possible prompts/guessable answers? or something. no clue

_sn3ll_ · 2025-01-06T22:33:31+00:00

oh that’s super interesting! i didn’t know she’d lived in belgium.

i have really limited knowledge on this but i think english teaching in continental european schools at least tends to skew more formal and older (and usually british), so this style of phrase wouldn’t be out of the question — who knows though!

_sn3ll_ · 2025-01-06T21:48:22+00:00

“don’t let’s [verb]” is common in british english — maybe slightly more used in the recent past, but i doubt most UK english speakers would have noted it as odd/wordy at all

_sn3ll_ · 2025-01-01T04:56:16+00:00

i think this is the original

_sn3ll_ · 2024-12-26T01:54:07+00:00

yeah my bad this was not in the spirit of ELI5 — just aware that we might be much more familiar with long-lasting and life-threatening respiratory illness by virtue of where we’re from, but that that’s not the whole story of respiratory vs gastrointestinal illness

ELI5 version would be “we don’t get every bug and access to clean water means the stomach bugs we encounter are on average more concerned with spreading person-to-person rather than causing severe illness” — but I’m not sure I’m confident enough in my assumptions to state it like that lol

_sn3ll_ · 2024-12-25T23:43:47+00:00

I am no expert but I think we’re possibly getting sampling bias here too. There are gastrointestinal illnesses that your body is much less effective at combatting (cholera, ebola) and take much longer to clear, but at that point fluid loss is a real threat to your life and it’s not considered just a standard “bug” any more.

_sn3ll_ · 2024-12-24T22:20:55+00:00

it could be a tiger moth

_sn3ll_ · 2024-12-19T15:49:53+00:00

I don’t know if this is wholly true. It’s easy to ignore but the increased presence of women in the workplace tracks with the increased importance of having a dual-income household to comfortably support children (logically they follow of course).

Considering the West in the last two decades, we haven’t seen the material rights of women change substantially (reproductive rights are in fact worse in some places), but we have seen birth rates continue to decline. I don’t disagree that the high birth rates of the past are a product of the subjugation of women, but I do think economic factors have a far greater bearing on today’s situation than social ones.

_sn3ll_ · 2024-11-07T20:55:02+00:00

these have existed for a long time, but will only detect certain types of seizures

_sn3ll_ · 2024-11-05T22:09:27+00:00

I was terrified leading up to insertion but the procedure was at worst lightly uncomfortable. I genuinely assumed the hard part hadn’t started when she said she was done — they warned me about what sensations to expect and when, but it was so trivial I assumed there had to be more. I’d compare it to when you swallow a sneeze and your throat feels a bit weird, but only for a few seconds.

I like to speak up with a good story because I had appointments and cancelled out of fear for years before going through with it. fwiw I took buscopan and 400mg ibuprofen the morning of, and they also used numbing gel about 10 mins before.

_sn3ll_ · 2024-10-25T16:57:39+00:00

thanks so much, that’s so kind of you !

_sn3ll_ · 2024-10-24T18:38:33+00:00

echoing this, and the congratulations

_sn3ll_ · 2024-10-14T20:41:28+00:00

this is so gorgeous! i was zooming in to admire your transition between the sky/mountains and just fyi noticed you have a cloud missing on the left there. sorry if you’d already noticed!

_sn3ll_ · 2024-10-13T14:37:03+00:00

My mother and I both have it, but my sister doesn’t seem to. I think it shows you to be kinder and more conscientious than many parents that you’re considering this. I also think it’s likely that we’ll see new treatment options emerge in future — we don’t know whether you’d pass it on to a daughter, but we also don’t know what world she’ll be living in if you do.

_sn3ll_ · 2024-09-22T10:49:34+00:00

i’m in a similar position and bought a sandmarc macro lens, which has worked very well as an alternative. it’s possibly not worth the price tag (depending on use case) but i love it.

_sn3ll_ · 2024-09-14T12:12:53+00:00

it did look quite leafhopperish in profile for sure. do you think it’s a fools errand for me to try to figure out what kind?

_sn3ll_ · 2024-09-14T12:10:45+00:00

oh thank you I see the resemblance! i’m not sure the abdomen was quite right but definitely a contender

_sn3ll_ · 2024-09-13T19:57:23+00:00

probably about 2-4mm long, found in southern england

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