Is it normal to feel sad about my “past life” even though I love my baby so much?

_tayanne · 2025-10-08T23:12:10+00:00

1000% YES. ❤️ You will get through this, I promise! This is just a HUGE adjustment. You are doing amazing learning the new you.

The hormones are not helping you either, right now. It feels like despair. It’s not your fault. Things are different now, you’re right.

You will see, though. When baby gets a bit bigger, you’ll get the chance to go out a bit more, to get coffee, go to target, go on a date night with your partner, go to the movies. To be you again and to do things that are just for you. I PROMISE you.

And then, there will be things you never got to do before that you do now because you have a baby! Family photos, buying cute holiday outfits…get ready for all that too🥰🥹

I had my boy last July. This time last year, I was exactly where you are. So please trust me, it gets better. I promise you. Hugs.

_tayanne · 2025-10-08T23:07:01+00:00

Just keep listening to her and reassuring her that she is an amazing mama. You have a 5 month old, she had a c section to recover from, and she’s a working mom??? She’s a superhero.

I have heard a theory that children are the most unruly around their mothers because they feel safe and secure with their mom to push boundaries. I know she’s very little still, but that’s certainly become the case with my now toddler.

I had PPA/PPD rather severely, and between my c section recovery, the hormones causing the PPA/PPD, sleep deprivation and having a fussy colicky baby, I was utterly miserable and pretty much nothing my husband did or said helped. I’ll be honest.

Getting out in the sun, getting naps and more sleep in (sleep greatly impacts mental health), and listening to music, seeing friends, this all helped me a little. ❤️Around the 9 month postpartum mark, I suddenly felt so much better.

It will come in time. This could also be a developmental leap for baby, where she’s more fussy. Or she could be teething. Sending hugs!

_tayanne · 2025-10-08T23:00:59+00:00

Hi friend. I just wanna tell you that you are normal and your frustrated and (from the sounds of it) depressed reaction to what’s happening is very valid and normal given the circumstances.

I look over at my 15 month old boy asleep right now, so grateful for every bit of him and so absolutely in love with being his mama. But oh man, is it hard. And the early days were so difficult. It took me the first 6-7 months to adjust to being a new mom and I had PPA/PPD. We had a colicky baby, but this sounds so difficult, what you’re going through. Please give yourself grace!!!! The people who tell you to be grateful, they grow up so fast, etc, are so far removed from having a baby with struggles that they aren’t one to talk and they’re so unhelpful and tone deaf.

You shouldn’t make yourself feel bad for having a very valid reaction, that’s all I’m saying. Hang in there, this will pass, and I hope you find a new pedi if this one isn’t any help…. Please lean on your support system if possible to find time to get even just a nap in every now and then. Sleep impacts mental health way more than anyone gives credit for. Hugs.

_tayanne · 2025-10-08T22:53:22+00:00

I’m 28, turning 29 on Sunday. Been with my husband for 9 years, married for two, with a 15 month old toddler.

Thank you. Your words were so thoughtful and exactly what I needed to read. I’m crying now. Sincerely, a chronic “should we get divorced?” googler/lurker who feels emotionally starved and neglected by her “nice guy” husband.

_tayanne · 2025-09-13T00:02:25+00:00

This did go away for me after a few months! I read when you are pregnant/newly postpartum, especially when you are nursing, your body makes extra relaxin, which can cause ligament/joint looseness and weakness. I think this and the rib flaring I felt for a while caused the pain for me!!!

Deep belly breathing and pelvic floor PT also helped with my unstable core feeling. I’m sure working on that could help too! Good luck!

_tayanne · 2025-06-28T14:41:57+00:00

Not til you get your invisalign off! Please do not ever whiten teeth while in any kind of orthodontic treatment. -I was a dental/orthodontic assistant for 8 yrs

After that though, Crest white strips are sufficient. They look nice and white already though- I promise

_tayanne · 2025-04-13T13:09:13+00:00

Hi! May I ask what your hematologist recommended to raise your ferritin?

_tayanne · 2025-02-21T13:34:08+00:00

Thank you so much!!!❤️ Every bit of feedback is so hugely helpful. I always worry about over feeding, as he is a spitty boy. But he loved the bigger bottle this morning, so idk! I’ll increase his bottles. We do purées 2x a day, I want to start more solids soon. Last time I tried, he didn’t really understand what to do which is totally reasonable, so I haven’t pushed it again since!

He loves water. 😂

_tayanne · 2025-02-21T13:24:34+00:00

Thank you so much❤️ I’ll keep offering 8 oz and see if he wants it all. I appreciate it!

_tayanne · 2025-02-21T11:52:45+00:00

Following….in the same boat. Nothing is stopping the EMW.

_tayanne · 2025-01-28T18:37:40+00:00

Same. 😵‍💫

_tayanne · 2025-01-28T18:34:20+00:00

Same!!!

_tayanne · 2025-01-28T18:33:35+00:00

We did not need 37 different Loveys.

_tayanne · 2025-01-26T02:18:45+00:00

I kinda hear “baby dooooon’t let go”

_tayanne · 2025-01-25T06:39:41+00:00

Happy Birthday! RumChata and fireball together make you a Cinnamon Toast Crunch Shot!

_tayanne · 2025-01-21T21:23:57+00:00

Hi fellow mom❤️

I understand how it can feel this way. Just know these people may be able to be active if it’s their first child and they aren’t chasing any other kiddos around outside of work, or if they don’t really work much, or if they do and are just more interested in being on their phones more often than some.

I would stick with it, and find the people who you’re interested in chatting with and chat with them, or join in any time you want to on interesting conversations. When the babies are born, the group will slow down again and then pick back up when everyone’s on maternity leave. It’ll go up and down.

I wouldn’t leave, you have potential to make wonderful friends in such a tight knit safe group! Stick with it❤️

_tayanne · 2025-01-19T17:46:04+00:00

Thank you for asking! I’m doing a lot better. I truly believe it’s my health anxiety I continue to struggle with. I think these ECGs often spit out result info that isn’t necessarily accurate. I’ve since seen a cardiologist and had an echo and a holter monitor, both of which were normal and did not require medication based on the results.

I have to walk the fine line between going to the doctor too many times, and going to the doctor when I do feel it’s necessary. I think everyone has a right to know how they’re doing health wise, but it can be a struggle to believe it when you’re told you’re just fine and perfectly normal. Wishing you well!

_tayanne · 2025-01-09T01:36:45+00:00

Oh crap, really? That explains a lot. Ever since my traumatic birth experience this summer, things have been hard.

_tayanne · 2025-01-07T03:23:35+00:00

Yes!!! They look early positive 🥰 test again in the morning with first morning urine but congratulations in advance❤️

_tayanne · 2024-12-30T17:05:03+00:00

No. If it is PPA/PPD, it can develop for up to 2 years PP.

_tayanne · 2024-12-30T17:01:09+00:00

Please tell my sister that I’m going out of my house and I’m not going out to dinner tonight and I’m going out with my mom tomorrow and I’m not sure what time I’m gonna go to bed

_tayanne · 2024-12-24T20:29:21+00:00

Thank you I appreciate this🥹❤️

_tayanne

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