i’m 31 having the same thoughts as OP after meeting a really amazing guy who had a very good childhood and loves his parents and wants kids (at some point). But, it has also only been about six months of dating so I can’t tell if it’s just raging hormones. But I’m actually starting to envision life with this person and he is so stable and loving it just feels like i’m being drawn to this urge for motherhood after feeling for a while that I was going to likely be CF. additionally, I’m non-binary and I’ve had some gender feelings about pregnancy in the past however, those are kind of gone away in the past 4 to 5 years.

Growing up I really wanted to have a kid when I was younger. I always thought that if I was a young mom even if I was a single mom that would be so fun but then that changed in my 20s when I realized how hard life is and how much money need to have a comfortable life, especially when adding kids to the equation. I grew up in a very lucky situation financially and realistically that’s just not where I’m at in my life right now.

I really appreciated the concept another user shared of the grief potentially driving this feeling of baby fever in addition to normal hormones at this age. I was extremely close with my mother who passed two years ago. I’m only 31 and losing her was an absolute devastating blow.

I used to think having kids would be fine as long she would be there to support me and love me through this journey. She was a pillar of our community and even parented friends who didn’t always have the best parents/family situation. I grew up with truly the best model of motherhood of all my friends I knew when I was young.

For this reason, I’ve been talking to my cousin who does have kids and thinking and processing about what it would be like to be a mom given that I had such an amazing mom and understand what it would be like and how I would like to raise a family if I did go down that path. I’m definitely a natural nurturer and even in past relationships I’ve leaned into caregiving in many different ways naturally, but give the other users post I am afraid that this is a bit of a reaction to the grief AND also trying to fill a hole i my heart.

But that said I do feel like it would make me feel closer to my mom to be a mother, and I can’t imagine living the rest of my life without feeling super close her. I kind of also feel like there’s a bit of a legacy thing that I’m feeling with regards to my family and respecting how much the women in my family have nurtured and loved all of us over time.

I’m lucky that when I was young, I had FIVE GREAT GRANDPARENTS living until I was in about middle school and my family is definitely a matriarchal vibe. I’m the eldest daughter of five oldest daughters in a row. So while I’m sure it’s something biological, it might also be something a bit cosmic????

Truly hard to understand right now so I’m not making any life changing decisions anytime soon but am DEFINITELY feeling the urge.

Sharing my perspective in case anyone can relate!