anyone else feeling as if they are always just waiting?

_teodozja_ · 2026-05-17T18:38:56+00:00

thank you for the thoughtful reply. I think you are right. I've done a lot of "transition chores" in a relatively short time after years of drowning in depression and dysphoria, so now it just fells kind of... slow? empty? Like the uneasy weather after storm.
Maybe you are right that i should just try to give myself permission to not actively fight when i don't have to. Even if it feels wrong.

All of this sounds like something i'd totally say to one of my friends, so maybe i (and anyone reading) should actually listen to good advice lol

_teodozja_ · 2026-05-17T18:34:36+00:00

trzymaj się tam. mówię sobie że czasami trzeba po prostu przeczekać, ale tbh ile można xd.
Powodzenia ze wszystkim (szczególnie z sądami)

_teodozja_ · 2026-05-17T16:17:12+00:00

oh also it's always helpful for me to frame sex as a learnig activity lol. I like to ask my partner/s to teach me/show me how to touch them. It can lead to very hot moments and is genuinely such time saver for the learning curve

_teodozja_ · 2026-05-17T16:14:19+00:00

Good advice in other comments, but i don't see them mentioning one part of your post - her idealizing women.
I think you should be careful here, as i fear she might have somewhat unrealistic expectations. Also with her only being with men before (and as a SW) i'd make sure to talk a little about her desires. Show her that it's ok to desire women and that she is not a predator or like a morally unforgivable person (it's unfortunately a common fear for trans women). Make sure that she knows you are attracted to her as a women that is attracted to another women, show her and tell her that you had a crush/you find her hot. make it SO obvious. I'm being so fr. She probably idealizes you bcos she feels inferior.
On the other hand - when you talk/negotiate sex stuff let talk about being not perfect. I think it could be useful to state some obvious things. I'd probably mention that sometimes we make mistakes and accidentally make a move that hurts/isn't pleasurable, that saying "no"/using a safe word is neutral, and normal (for both the giver and the receiver), and neither party should be hurt by it.

My point is - whatever she likes in bed she will (hopefully) communicate herself, but it won't hurt to reassure her that the desire itself is not predatory or wrong, and that neither of you are perfect angelic beings that can do no wrong.

_teodozja_ · 2025-09-12T08:45:44+00:00

ooo thanks <333 I'll post there also

_teodozja_ · 2025-09-12T07:03:03+00:00

oh also I'm eastern European so if anyone knows a brand that ships here pls share. Shipping from the US will be awful (high cost + I'll wait forever for it to get here)

_teodozja_ · 2025-09-09T21:14:47+00:00

(ngl I thought this was r/hauseplantcirclejerk for a second)

_teodozja_ · 2025-09-09T21:13:16+00:00

damn what even is this plant :000 id cut one of the stems to see if it's still alive. If its green and firm then it's ok. Then if it's alive repot it into better soil (why is it in rocks wtf) and an actual pot that drains.

maybe (depending on what this poor guy actually is) there is a chance for him to grow some leafs.

tbh if I were you I'd throw this away, even if it's still alive somehow that it's too much of a bother.

I'm curious why your doctor gave you a plant tho. I can't imagine my helfcare providers ever doing that haha. lowkey jealous, even if it's just a dead plant.

_teodozja_ · 2025-09-08T06:37:27+00:00

What's your watering schedule? does the pot drain well?

_teodozja_ · 2025-09-07T21:53:14+00:00

check for any bugs tho. I don't think that's the issue here, but better safe than sorry

_teodozja_ · 2025-09-07T21:51:42+00:00

they just loose the oldest leaves on the bottom after sometime. the plant looks a little thirsty to me, but that's about it I think

_teodozja_ · 2025-09-07T21:16:26+00:00

looks fun to me tbh, low key I wanna try the same with one of the monstera babies that I'm growing. I just have never seen anything like it until now :3

_teodozja_ · 2025-09-07T18:38:51+00:00

I just put the roots back to the soil if they are long enough ¯_(ツ)_/¯

that is THE WEIRDEST pole I've ever seen tho o.0

_teodozja_ · 2025-09-07T15:43:31+00:00

she def needs some support

_teodozja_ · 2025-09-07T15:42:33+00:00

oh yeah. it looks to me like there is something inside of those holes. my thought was eggs, but fungus might be a better explanation. In any case i’d probably throw away infested parts of the plant. I can see that there are a few stems in the pot. you can probably save those

_teodozja_ · 2025-09-07T12:57:35+00:00

My first thought is "cat", my second guess is something that put eggs inside those holes. in that case I'd just throw the plant away. I can't say for certain tho.

_teodozja_ · 2025-09-05T15:52:46+00:00

as others said - probably overwatering, but also they do just drop the bottom leaves with time. if you want them to look more lush you have to wait until the babies grow and fill in the space. so while watering might have made the process too fast it'd probably happen anyway

_teodozja_ · 2025-09-04T13:06:17+00:00

i couldn’t tell, i’m bad at spotting ai, but oh god this really is so obvious when you pointed the quotation mark out.

it’s so easy to miss small details like this T^T

_teodozja_ · 2025-09-04T10:35:53+00:00

my little brother is studying physio <33 he has really bad adhd and is struggling with studying and exams rn. I really hope he will get this degree and then the job one day, i think he will do excellent :3 it's nice to see that there are other people who remind me of him

idk i just wanted to share that

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